Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

[Anonymous]

If DH dies of natural causes, he will likely go before me. We talk about it sometimes and the only scenario I imagine is having a girlfriend to travel with. No, I'm not a lesbian, just can't imagine remarrying. Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

I feel that way now, but I'm sure after a couple of years being alone I'd probably change my tune.

[Anonymous]

Yep I'm done, too. Time for the awesome dog that DH is allergic to.

Was listening to a radio program a few months ago, where the host had been on a cruise ship and noticed that bands of (married) women will cruise without their spouses, but not men.

He had people call in to explain, and generally it sounded like that when women go on vacation with their spouses, they are still taking care of their spouses, and when they go with other women, they get to take care of their own needs only.

As an aside, generally speaking, the man left at home would play at his hobbies etc, but if a woman is left at home she cleans the house and gets through all the unfinished mail/little house projects. LOL

[Anonymous]

^^ oh I forgot to say we've been married almost 20 years, and I'm crazy about my DH, and it's a good marriage. But if he were to go, I'm done with that phase of my life and it's time for girlfriends and traveling.

[Anonymous]

I am almost 50, divorced late 40s, and I am absolutely never getting married again (or going on Match.com so i can find a long-term partner but not marry him).

This is a really blissful state of being, and that's not because I hate my exH (I don't). The PP who posted about finally getting the dog is right -- it's more about that concept.

I don't want to derail the thread by talking about divorce vs. widowhood. I just posted bc I think I understand the mental space of OP and it is somewhat independent of the factor related to H's now-absence

[Anonymous]

I'm certainly not going to make that decision now. What if he wants you to remarry?

[Anonymous]

I'd never marry again. I love my husband and would be devastated, but I sometimes really miss the single life and would never go from single to married again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm certainly not going to make that decision now. What if he wants you to remarry?

Well, he'll be dead, won't her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm certainly not going to make that decision now. What if he wants you to remarry?

why does what he wants after he dies matter?

[Anonymous]

Never again. Shacking up is the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never again. Shacking up is the way to go.

yuck

not even that

Who wants to be responsible for another man?

It's liberating being alone.

[Anonymous]

Another hand raised here. Love my husband, but have realized through three military deployments that I am perfectly content on my own.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my thirties and can't imagine remarrying. Partly because I can't imagine loving/trusting a man like my husband, but also because I do not mind being alone, have a large support network, and am wary of how a stepfather might affect my children.

[Anonymous]

One and done here. Not only would I never remarry, I wouldn't date, have bed fun, not even talk to another man unless it's about yard work or home repairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One and done here. Not only would I never remarry, I wouldn't date, have bed fun, not even talk to another man unless it's about yard work or home repairs.

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lol