Wife half my age - what to expect in future

[Anonymous]

I'm 40 and considering marriage to a woman half my age. I'm wondering if there is anyone else that has done this and how the dynamics of the relationship changed/worked due to transitions from one stage of life to the next.

[Anonymous]

Dude. Other than the obvious physical attraction, I cannot IMAGINE getting married to a woman half my age.

Wow. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy life now if you're a high earner and then when you're in your 50s and 60s she'll be running all over town with younger men.

[Anonymous]

She's 20? What's the long-term attraction?

[Anonymous]

Like she just graduated from high school a year or two ago and isn't legal to drink or go to bars half your age?!?

[Anonymous]

What does she want in the future? Kids? The social dynamics are very weird. Most adults still hang out with adults of roughly the same age. People will make assumptions about you and most of them are not positive. Get used to waiters assuming she's out with her dad.

I have a good friend whose parents had a 20+ year age gap. The parents seemed socially isolated and her mother had to basically stop her life for years to take care of her father.

I can see what's in it for you, but I can't see what's in it for your partner...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does she want in the future? Kids? The social dynamics are very weird. Most adults still hang out with adults of roughly the same age. People will make assumptions about you and most of them are not positive. Get used to waiters assuming she's out with her dad.

I have a good friend whose parents had a 20+ year age gap. The parents seemed socially isolated and her mother had to basically stop her life for years to take care of her father.

I can see what's in it for you, but I can't see what's in it for your partner...

$$$$$$

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does she want in the future? Kids? The social dynamics are very weird. Most adults still hang out with adults of roughly the same age. People will make assumptions about you and most of them are not positive. Get used to waiters assuming she's out with her dad.

I have a good friend whose parents had a 20+ year age gap. The parents seemed socially isolated and her mother had to basically stop her life for years to take care of her father.

I can see what's in it for you, but I can't see what's in it for your partner...

He must be very wealthy .. Otherwise why would she be interested

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does she want in the future? Kids? The social dynamics are very weird. Most adults still hang out with adults of roughly the same age. People will make assumptions about you and most of them are not positive. Get used to waiters assuming she's out with her dad.

I have a good friend whose parents had a 20+ year age gap. The parents seemed socially isolated and her mother had to basically stop her life for years to take care of her father.

I can see what's in it for you, but I can't see what's in it for your partner...

OP here.... the comments about social isolation and the impact of age difference when I'm in my 70/80 are they type thing I'm curious to know about. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like she just graduated from high school a year or two ago and isn't legal to drink or go to bars half your age?!?

OP here... She if finishing her undergraduate degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she want in the future? Kids? The social dynamics are very weird. Most adults still hang out with adults of roughly the same age. People will make assumptions about you and most of them are not positive. Get used to waiters assuming she's out with her dad.

I have a good friend whose parents had a 20+ year age gap. The parents seemed socially isolated and her mother had to basically stop her life for years to take care of her father.

I can see what's in it for you, but I can't see what's in it for your partner...

He must be very wealthy .. Otherwise why would she be interested

OP here.... oddly enough over the past few years of I've found the older women I've dated (38 +) to be more overtly interested in money. Frequently point blank asking questions about annual income, net worth (including balance in retirement accounts and savings accounts), etc. I've found it somewhat disturbing at times.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend with similar experience. All his friends/family told him not to and told him it would last 3 years top. It lasted 5 years and cost him about $100K in total spending. He said he won't do it again, but claimed it's worth it (while it lasted). Yes, she looked like Kournikova + Upton combined.

[Anonymous]

^^ edited... $100K was the "maintenance" cost.

[Anonymous]

It can work great sometimes, but I often see a dynamic where the woman matures into a successful person in her own right and outgrows the husband.

If you are 40 and in love with a 20 year old, you are probably slightly immature (I don't know you, obviously -- but this has been my experience). As you wife comes in to her own, she may get bored with you or find you tedious.

Enjoy it while it lasts!

[Anonymous]

Are you willing to have kids at 50-55? Even if she says she doesn't want kids now, she could change her mind in a decade.