Asexual child?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone's child ever come out to them as asexual? Going thru this right now with soon-to-be 18 year old girl.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what asexual means actually. Is she not interested in any kind of sexual activity even masturbation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure what asexual means actually. Is she not interested in any kind of sexual activity even masturbation?

Yes, asexual means no interest in sexual activity.

[Anonymous]

She's only 17. It honestly makes me sad that a 17 year old feels that she needs to define herself sexually. She's still very young. Just because she's not sexually active right now doesn't mean she won't be in the future. She doesn't need a label.

I'm so glad I came of age in the 80s instead of now.

[Anonymous]

Is she also aromantic? Sometimes asexuals turn out to be demisexual when they fall in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure what asexual means actually. Is she not interested in any kind of sexual activity even masturbation?

Yes, asexual means no interest in sexual activity.

That makes me sad, OP. Sexual intimacy and sexuality are natural and healthy parts of life. Has she never masturbated?

Has she spoken to a medical doctor about it?

[Anonymous]

No - she said she physically can find people attractive (ie "oh, he's cute!) but does not ever think about being intimate with them. Never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend, for that matter.)

[Anonymous]

Nor has she masturbated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure what asexual means actually. Is she not interested in any kind of sexual activity even masturbation?

Yes, asexual means no interest in sexual activity.

That makes me sad, OP. Sexual intimacy and sexuality are natural and healthy parts of life. Has she never masturbated?

Has she spoken to a medical doctor about it?

They are natural and healthy parts of life for people who are interested in them. But some people are not interested in them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No - she said she physically can find people attractive (ie "oh, he's cute!) but does not ever think about being intimate with them. Never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend, for that matter.)

I didn't have a boyfriend until my last year in college. I'm now a happily married 40-something with two kids. Stop pushing and/or labeling her. Not everything is a pathology. Some people are just late bloomers, and that's okay.

[Anonymous]

I think this is something that she may want to first speak to her gynecologist about and then a psychologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No - she said she physically can find people attractive (ie "oh, he's cute!) but does not ever think about being intimate with them. Never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend, for that matter.)

I didn't have a boyfriend until my last year in college. I'm now a happily married 40-something with two kids. Stop pushing and/or labeling her. Not everything is a pathology. Some people are just late bloomers, and that's okay.

I'm not the one labeling her. She is the one who came to ME and brought this up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No - she said she physically can find people attractive (ie "oh, he's cute!) but does not ever think about being intimate with them. Never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend, for that matter.)

I didn't have a boyfriend until my last year in college. I'm now a happily married 40-something with two kids. Stop pushing and/or labeling her. Not everything is a pathology. Some people are just late bloomers, and that's okay.

OP said she has never masturbated. She has no sex drive at all. That is not about "dating" or having a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

I was pretty asexual until about 20. Did not want to deal with sex (abused and other issues). Now happily married. Masturbated very late (35). Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Seems like there's a lot of pressure to declare oneself. So, the uninitiated, who want to buy themselves a little time, end up calling themselves asexual?