Preschool teacher told us about her dead child

[Anonymous]

Long story short my child's preschool teacher apparently had a child pass away on Mother's Day and she sent us all emails thanking us how this week being teacher appreciation week made her feel loved and appreciated and helped her get through the week. Am I in the minority to thank this is completely inappropriate and attention seeking. This definitely makes me question her emotional stability. I don't see her very often as my nanny drops her off but now I feel like if I see her it will just be awkward.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why this isn't okay...

[Anonymous]

Seems a bit weird, maybe ask the nannys take on it since she knows the teacher better. But even if it's werid if she's an ok teacher I'd just ignore it.

[Anonymous]

So sorry your hired help has a real life, real experiences, and real feelings. I think the way she did it sounds very appropriate, she was thanking you and telling you why what the parents did meant even more to her.

I imagine if you actually dropped your own kid off at pre-school, you'd probably get to know the teachers more and actually have a heart for them. Maybe you should just forward the email to your nanny.

[Anonymous]

It is so inappropriate that you posted all of those details. You should ask the administrator to remove your thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short my child's preschool teacher apparently had a child pass away on Mother's Day and she sent us all emails thanking us how this week being teacher appreciation week made her feel loved and appreciated and helped her get through the week. Am I in the minority to thank this is completely inappropriate and attention seeking. This definitely makes me question her emotional stability. I don't see her very often as my nanny drops her off but now I feel like if I see her it will just be awkward.

Wow, I hope you can look back on this and realize how awful it is. It's not like she started telling the kids about it, that would be inappropriate, she opened up about how you all helped her through a very painful week. And really, you think she's using a dead child to get attention? That it couldn't possibly be that she's still grieving very deeply? What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry your hired help has a real life, real experiences, and real feelings. I think the way she did it sounds very appropriate, she was thanking you and telling you why what the parents did meant even more to her.

I imagine if you actually dropped your own kid off at pre-school, you'd probably get to know the teachers more and actually have a heart for them. Maybe you should just forward the email to your nanny.

+1

[Anonymous]

PP you're missing a sensitivity chip.

A woman who has lost a child, and then goes in to teach kids every day, is going to be naturally sad about it and then have another layer of bittersweet sadness on top of it. It sounds as if she's reaching out to make a human connection, and feels close enough or moved enough by your children to tell you all this. It doesn't have to be a secret that she experience tragedy.

It you are too uncomfortable hearing her sad story to continue at the school, or if you are afraid (for no reason I can discern) that she's going to do something crazy out of grief, then move schools. But with the information you gave that sounds 100% off the rails to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP you're missing a sensitivity chip.

A woman who has lost a child, and then goes in to teach kids every day, is going to be naturally sad about it and then have another layer of bittersweet sadness on top of it. It sounds as if she's reaching out to make a human connection, and feels close enough or moved enough by your children to tell you all this. It doesn't have to be a secret that she experience tragedy.

It you are too uncomfortable hearing her sad story to continue at the school, or if you are afraid (for no reason I can discern) that she's going to do something crazy out of grief, then move schools. But with the information you gave that sounds 100% off the rails to me.

I agree. Some people who have experienced loss want people to know about that "whole" part of them. Sorry you don't want to hear about it. She expressed it at a good time. You should tell her that teacher appreciation now has a doubly powerful meaning for you. Or just don't say anything if you can't say something nice...

[Anonymous]

You are the inappropriate one. Is she just never allowed to speak of her child?

[Anonymous]

Have to agree with all the posters here who do not understand why you think this is inappropriate. I think that maybe you might the kind of person who classifies her as some kind of employee and that she needs to stay within her boundaries. I am not criticizing you for having a nanny - or that your nanny picks up the kids, because I understand that you might just have a nanny for any number of reasons, so my judgement doesn't go there with regard to this issue as it seems to with a couple of posters. The teacher was really being sincere and I guess she wanted the parents to know that this is something she carries with her, as one would in this tragic situation. She was expressing why the gifts, etc., mean so much at this time. You don't need to feel awkward.

[Anonymous]

OP I agree you should ask to have this thread removed. You're awful, and I hope the teacher doesn't see it.

[Anonymous]

I'm not concerned with my child's preschool teacher maintaining professionalism that would be found in the corporate world. I want them to be warm, open and caring. It sounds like you have a good one.

[Anonymous]

Youre a bitch. Happy mothers day.

[Anonymous]

You need to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself why you are such a callous human being, and how you can get your compassion/empathy back. You should do this for your child.