Preschool teacher told us about her dead child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who has lost a child and wod every day with children, it can be either incredibly painful or rewarding depending on the circumstances. I think it was brave of the preschool teacher to share that information and her gratitude.

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[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound inappropriate. I agree with PPs that she was brave to share it. It's great that her preschool families touched her this week and helped during a difficult time.

It does sound like you are trying to make this about you. You are uncomfortable so you wish she hadn't told you. If a friend or coworker told you something similar, would you wish they hadn't because you wouldn't know what to say?

I hope you consider having this thread removed. I think it would be upsetting if she saw it.

[Anonymous]

Just in case the teacher actually does read it: I thought your note was touching, and as a parent, would have very much appreciated receiving it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't sound inappropriate. I agree with PPs that she was brave to share it. It's great that her preschool families touched her this week and helped during a difficult time.

It does sound like you are trying to make this about you. You are uncomfortable so you wish she hadn't told you. If a friend or coworker told you something similar, would you wish they hadn't because you wouldn't know what to say?

I hope you consider having this thread removed. I think it would be upsetting if she saw it.

+1 and in agreement with pretty much everyone else.

OP, YOUR are the one who sounds weird, inappropriate, and attention-seeking. Glad the nanny is there for your kids in the event that you *gasp* experience an emotion -- however unlikely that may be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't sound inappropriate. I agree with PPs that she was brave to share it. It's great that her preschool families touched her this week and helped during a difficult time.

It does sound like you are trying to make this about you. You are uncomfortable so you wish she hadn't told you. If a friend or coworker told you something similar, would you wish they hadn't because you wouldn't know what to say?

I hope you consider having this thread removed. I think it would be upsetting if she saw it.

+1 and in agreement with pretty much everyone else.

OP, YOUR are the one who sounds weird, inappropriate, and attention-seeking. Glad the nanny is there for your kids in the event that you *gasp* experience an emotion -- however unlikely that may be.

ugh. YOU are the one. Not YOUR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just in case the teacher actually does read it: I thought your note was touching, and as a parent, would have very much appreciated receiving it.

+1!

[Anonymous]

Wow. A mother's child dies. And she has to face the run up to Mother's Day with all the reasons I love my mother media stories, while teaching kids, and knowing the whole time that her own child won't be there to make her a card and serve burnt toast in bed. And she thanks you for making it a little more bearable. And you call her out on a public forum? I read this post and teared up for her, and we've never met. I hope you're a troll, and that no mother could actually think that way. Please restore my faith in humanity by asking to have your post removed. While your at it, take the time before the end of school to do something unexpectedly, like bring her Starbucks a day you can do drop off. Because, you know, there but for the Grace of God. And karma.

[Anonymous]

OP, you have a heart of stone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are the inappropriate one. Is she just never allowed to speak of her child?

This! WFT is wrong with people these days? Too many insensitive sociopaths are parents and then you get these weird threads. Of course, the teacher was appropriate to share her tragedy with families of her students. In case she seems sad or needs a (human) moment, she's letting you all know what's up. That's better than a withdrawn teacher and nobody knows why. If she seems sad one day, you'll know why. I can't imagine her loss, so it'd be totally acceptable if she needs time to heal. I bet being with her students may be a help, though I'm sure it may be bittersweet. OP, if you want a robot taking care of your kid, you should get one.

[Anonymous]

This teacher is part of your community, OP. Part of your child's world. She sees her students and by extension their families as part of her community. OP, I sense you are a fakey fake faker who puts on fronts and airs and is never "real." Not sure what is more real than having to move on in life after the death of your child and to be able to articulate to those around you that you're grateful for what you have is pretty amazing. OP, you kinda suck, I'm afraid. Good luck never connecting with people and always assuming the worst in them (sharing the biggest loss anyone can experience is somehow attention seeking?). Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I agree you should ask to have this thread removed. You're awful, and I hope the teacher doesn't see it.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP - good thing you have a nanny, who is hopefully loving and warm, as you are, in so many words, a BITCH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry your hired help has a real life, real experiences, and real feelings. I think the way she did it sounds very appropriate, she was thanking you and telling you why what the parents did meant even more to her.

I imagine if you actually dropped your own kid off at pre-school, you'd probably get to know the teachers more and actually have a heart for them. Maybe you should just forward the email to your nanny.

Omg, I can't believe OP is a parent herself. The teacher is human, she shared something from a place of vulnerability and emotion. You come here and trash her. Wow

[Anonymous]

And I might add, this is the deepest loss anyone will ever experience, as there is nothing as worse as losing a child. I'm sure most of the parents had reached out to her on this Mother's Day to include her on what must be a very difficult day. Did that occur to you, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. A mother's child dies. And she has to face the run up to Mother's Day with all the reasons I love my mother media stories, while teaching kids, and knowing the whole time that her own child won't be there to make her a card and serve burnt toast in bed. And she thanks you for making it a little more bearable. And you call her out on a public forum? I read this post and teared up for her, and we've never met. I hope you're a troll, and that no mother could actually think that way. Please restore my faith in humanity by asking to have your post removed. While your at it, take the time before the end of school to do something unexpectedly, like bring her Starbucks a day you can do drop off. Because, you know, there but for the Grace of God. And karma.

Well said Bravo!