Preschool teacher told us about her dead child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short my child's preschool teacher apparently had a child pass away on Mother's Day and she sent us all emails thanking us how this week being teacher appreciation week made her feel loved and appreciated and helped her get through the week. Am I in the minority to thank this is completely inappropriate and attention seeking. This definitely makes me question her emotional stability. I don't see her very often as my nanny drops her off but now I feel like if I see her it will just be awkward.

Very much so.

If you see her you will be uncomfortable. Oh, poor you.

[Anonymous]

This is the first (and hopefully last) time I've ever typed this:
I feel sorry for your children.

[Anonymous]

Attention seeking? Geeze. Yes, sounds fun, sign me up to give up my child for the great life-long ability to seek attention.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the OP. It doesn't sound like she has a close relationship with the teacher. It seems like over disclosure. But since it's an email OP can just ignore it if it makes her uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP but you are a bitch. My husband died recently. Would it make you uncomfortable if my 6 year old told her friends that her father died? I hope your kids do not attend my daughter's school.

[Anonymous]

PP I'm sorry for you loss. I think your daugher telling her FRIENDS is completly different.

[Anonymous]

You are the worst, OP.

[Anonymous]

You're just awful.

[Anonymous]

I would be touched by the email and probably hug my DC a little tighter after reading it. On another note, I recommend you get to know your children's teacher better because it is such an important relationship. I work crazy hours and have our nanny do drop-off and pick-up, but I try to volunteer once every three months for something and send in periodic emails to get feedback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the OP. It doesn't sound like she has a close relationship with the teacher. It seems like over disclosure. But since it's an email OP can just ignore it if it makes her uncomfortable.

Maybe the teacher sent the email to all the parents, some of whom presumably do not send their nanny to pick up their kids. Maybe the issue is that the OP doesn't have a relationship because she's unavailable. Maybe the other parents are more involved.

I say this as a working mom who has made an effort to get to know all my child's teachers because they are important figures in her life.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it was weird or attention seeking at all. Had I been on the receiving end of such a sincere thank you I would have been touched and it would have made my gift giving even more meaningful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it was weird or attention seeking at all. Had I been on the receiving end of such a sincere thank you I would have been touched and it would have made my gift giving even more meaningful.

I've never said or typed these words, but you area total bitch, OP.

[Anonymous]

Op, have you ever lost a child? I assume not. You have zero right to judge a mother who has. You really need to look deep into yourself.

[Anonymous]

This woman adores your child.
She sent an email to thank you and the other parents.
And you treat her like this?

[Anonymous]

As someone who has lost a child and wod every day with children, it can be either incredibly painful or rewarding depending on the circumstances. I think it was brave of the preschool teacher to share that information and her gratitude.