TTC after miscarriage
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Anonymous
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So I had a confirmed miscarriage. The bleeding lasted 4 days. I feel ready to start TTC again. I know I should take a cycle off, but I am wondering, if we do have unprotected sex is it possible for me to get pregnant in the next couple of weeks? I realize I prob need to wait, but I want to know if it is at least possible.
It was an early miscarriage in the 5th week. I got a positive when my period was one week late and started bleeding 3 days later. that's why I'm thinking my body might be ready to be back in the swing of things. emotionally I've processed it and think I am ready. if not this cycle for sure the next one. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry OP. I would wait one cycle, just to be sure everything is as it should be (the mc was complete etc). All the best to you. |
Anonymous
| It is definitely possible to get pregnant. Personally, I had a similar experience and was told I could try the next month. I did try, and did not get pregnant, but I regret having tried. A break would have been a better choice, even though I didn't think so at the time. I was way less emotionally ready than I had thought. |
Anonymous
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Wait a cycle. Let your body get back to normal for you. Agree with PP that emotionally, you need healing as well or just some time to process.
This is what I did after a 9 week mc with d and c. Waited one cycle, then used birth control for two months (wasn't ready) and then conceived on fourth cycle. He's a sixth grader now! |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry for your loss.
With an early loss and no associated D&C, my doctor said there was no reason to wait unless I wasn't feeling emotionally ready to try again. With the D&C and a loss at 10 weeks, my doctor said wait 2 cycles, though from my own reading of the literature it appears the recommendation to wait is mostly for mental/emotional health reasons, though there could be something with rebuilding the uterine lining after a D&C as well. |
Anonymous
| I waited after my 8-week MC, and my first period after the MC was extremely light. So I do think there is something to do with resting and rebuilding the lining. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry for your loss. I've had two miscarriages both at 8 weeks and have seen about 5-6 different doctors for follow-up care to my miscarriages. They've all expressed a different opinion. One said that if your body hasn't healed from the miscarriage or if your uterus isn't strong enough to support a new pregnancy then you won't get pregnant. The others all recommended at least one period before trying again. Some of them recommended this in order to allow my body time to heal and prepare for a healthy pregnancy. They expressed concerns about rushing things and perhaps miscarrying again because my Body wasnt ready. Some of them said the best reason to wait until after one period is so that you can accurately date the pregnancy, which is actually an important thing and can really help, particularly early in the pregnancy. Unless you have compelling reasons, like advanced age, why not wait until after that first period? |
Anonymous
| There have definitely been people on these boards who have said they didn't wait and got pregnant again before a period and they had healthy babies. But my doctor told me that it's important to wait at least one period since frequently there is tissue remnants and blood clots etc left behind after a miscarriage and that first period flushes it all out. I'd wait. |
Anonymous
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Everything I've ever seen says that you can go ahead and try the next month but that they usually recommend waiting a month just simply for emotional reasons. If you feel you're ready to try again, I don't see any reason not to.
I agree with what the PPs have said that it may be a good idea to wait a month just to make sure everything gets flushed out fully, but honestly, I wouldn't think there's any reason to fear this. If you feel ready -- and I totally understand wanting to go ahead and try as soon as possible if you want to be pregnant again -- then I think it's fine. Maybe go ahead and have unprotected sex but don't go crazy with timing and everything, and just see what happens? I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| I think my doctor said to try as soon as I felt like I was ready mentally. It was a few years ago, but I recall her telling me that "waiting" a cycle wasn't necessary. |
Anonymous
| OP I am in the same situation had a missed miscarriage in January, I decided to wait one cycle and try again. I was mentally ready to try again so soon but feel more pressure about conceiving now then I did before the miscarriage. We are in te 2ww now but I do think AF will start soon since, I think my body might still be out of synch and ovulation might have occurred later then I expected. Well wishes on ttc. |
Anonymous
| I conceived right after an early miscarriage. Didn't wait a cycle. It was fine. |
Anonymous
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Can someone help me understand. I bled for 4 days like a period, heavier than normal, but not crazy. Yesterday was day 5 which was just a tiny bit of spotting. If it had been a regular period I'd be ovulating in a few days. Is that right? I feel like I may or may not ovulate but in not sure if it would be 3 weeks from now or days away.
I guess the best way to tell may be to monitor cervical mucus when it returns and there is zero bleeding. When people say they got pregnant again right away, do they mean literally in 2 weeks? |
Anonymous
Sorry but there is a lot of variation here. You may see more bleeding in the next few days, or not. Then you may ovulate on time, or late-- even several weeks late. It just depends on when your body is ready to re-start the process that leads to ovulation. Your body will do it when it is ready. You may also have an annovulatory cycle with some mucus signs but no actual egg, and that is normal too. So follow the mucus and temp if you temp. Some people mean literally in 2 weeks, but they may also mean they got pregnant at their next ovulation, whenever that was. Or that they chose to skip a cycle and then got pregnant right away on the next one. If I may tell you something-- I tried to get pregnant immediately after an early miscarriage, and I really regret it. I placed waaaaay too much pressure on myself to get pregnant and basically gave myself an anxiety disorder that has taken a year to get over. It really is amazing how one little chemical pregnancy caused me such distress, but it did. I was desperate to get pregnant, and still am, but I really wish I had taken the longer view and given my body time to rest. |
Anonymous
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thank you PP. I think you really summed it up well. I think I do need to take off any pressure to TTC so soon. waiting a month may give me time to figure out what's wrong anyway.
this may be a little graphic, but I'm confused too about how far along I was. I think that will help me decide how long to wait. the more my body did, the more I need to recover and wait I think. I thought I was about 6 weeks. I did pass some tissue, so I don't think it was just a chemical or very early (like 4 week) pregnancy. the bleeding of the miscarriage was finished in only a few days though which has helped me move on. at least I know my body was doing something to develop what it needed. that said, it took me being a week late to get a positive and while it was positive, it wasn't a super dark line or anything. I wonder if the pregnancy just wasn't strong enough from the start so my hormones didn't rise enough. about 3 days after the positive I had a neg test, so it seems like my hormones were just not where they needed to be at all. I hope my next appt with more testing sheds light on if I have a hormone problem like low progesterone. anyone have a miscarriage like this? seemed so short like a chemical, but the tissue seems to say that I was further along than I thought. |