TTC after miscarriage

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP-- it's hard to say what's going on. What you describe on the tests makes it sound like a chemical. But when I had a chemical, I didn't notice any tissue. It may be that what you felt was a big clot rather than tissue-- even if you don't normally have period clots, a chemical miscarriage can be different from your normal period. There may be no way to know.

I would say talk it over with your doctor, but they may not tell you anything very helpful. There is just a lot of variation here. Whether or not you try again right away, know that your next few periods may be weird-- very light, very heavy, etc. That is just your body settling down and rebalancing, and nothing to be concerned about. Try to take care of your health, and plan some fun activities to keep you from dwelling excessively on your loss.

Good luck, OP!

[Anonymous]

np here, been ttc for 6 months. I got preg last cycle and miscarried after a week, so also week 5. (I actually started the Oct 2015 thread--oops) I felt fine emotionally and started checking for ovulation around the usual day, it was 5 days later than usual, and now I am pregnant again the next cycle. my RE never mentioned waiting a month before trying again (I'm 38).

I say if you feel you can handle it emotionally, go ahead and see what your body will do.

[Anonymous]

I mc-ed at nine weeks and had a D&C- my doc said to wait two cycles. Honestly, from an emotional standpoint it's probably a wise move for me- still feeling a bit sad from it all and I know I'll be anxious when we do successfully conceive again. I'm assuming there is a benefit to flushing out the uterus as well but could be wrong there.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on what you are up for emotionally. I had a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage with my first pregnancy, but then got pregnant on the next cycle (about 6 weeks later) and had a healthy baby. I was anxious to get pregnant, so taking a month off would have felt like a waste of time for me, personally. Then I was pregnant last December and lost that pregnancy at 9 weeks and had a d&c. My doctor advised waiting until February to start trying again. We did, and now I'm 5 weeks pregnant. I have to say that trying again (and subsequently being pregnant) is much harder after the d&c then after the early miscarriage. So, I think it just depends on what you need mentally/emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Thanks. We've tried a couple times in the last few days. I'm 12 days out from the first day of bleeding. Bleeding stopped a week ago. My cycle and cm seems like it's returning to normal, but I tested with those daily strips and don't think I'm ovulating yet anyway.
But I know I may not ovulate this cycle or I may but on a random day or delayed timing.
We will see I guess. Emotionally once I got past the first few days I was ready to look forward.
I just hate the unknowns. The waiting and wondering are tough on me.

Should I be hopeful I may still ovulate in the next few days?

[Anonymous]

Well I have an update! I got a positive smile on the ov kit late tonight.

So the miscarriage started on the 10th of march. I'm calling that day 1.
I got the ovul. positive today.

We had sex on day 7, 10 and 13 (today).
Is that good enough sex leading up to the positive?
Should we have sex today again ? Or wait a day to cover after ov since we already did?
We did a few hours before the positive today.
I know the idea is to try leading up to it, but should we keep going?

[Anonymous]

Great news-- it's really good that your cycle is going on as normal.

Personally, I like to do it at least every other day. But apparently more than once a day doesn't really help. So I would say do it tomorrow and the next day if you can, and then you can take a day off and then do it once more. You don't really know when the egg comes out, so it's best to do it at least every other day until you get a negative OPK. Exhausting, I know.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to sound like I'm being negative, because of course I wish you the very best in your TTC journey, but please be aware that you might not actually be ovulating. There's no harm in trying, so it's not like I'm telling you to stop. But I just wanted to alert you to the fact that fairly frequently the OPKs will give you false information this soon after an m/c. Your hormones are all over the place and a false reading wouldn't be unusual at this point. I guess the only reason why I'm even bothering to type this is if you don't get pregnant this month, I don't want you to feel all that disappointed, since it really is too soon for most women to be ovulating. Of course, having said that, there are definitely SOME people who have ovulated and were able to get pregnant within 2 weeks, but it's pretty unusual.

anyway, good luck!

[Anonymous]

OP here. thanks for the advice and YES thank you for the reality check PP.

I think part of me being able to move on from this last miscarriage is hope and focusing on the next "try" so I've been trying to focus on that.
I do worry when my period comes next I will be too disappointed bc I'm so hopeful for a positive again soon.

I have to say my body has been acting so so strange. I do think I may have actually ovulated. no idea if I can get pregnant, but I figure it doesn't hurt to try.

in the days after the miscarriage I didn't even know if I'd want to try again or even have sex. then a week out it was like a switch flipped.

I have actually really wanted sex and feel just really ready to go. it does seem like everything has returned like a normal cycle.
I don't know if it's the hormones or me focusing more and embracing them, but I not only have the emotional desire for a baby but seem to have this physical desire too that is more strong than I have ever felt. MY poor DH says he may need a break!