Wedding Invitation - "No Boxed Gifts"

[Anonymous]

We have been invited to a wedding and the invitation states "No Boxed Gifts". There is no registry either and so I am wondering what the expectation is when it comes to any gift. Are they asking for money or a gift card?

Has anyone experienced this before and, if so, what is an invited guest expected to do?

[Anonymous]

Money grab. Tacky.

[Anonymous]

They want money.

I've always thought it was proper etiquette to not bring a boxed gift to a wedding anyways. You mail it ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they are expecting money or a gift card. It is considered an acceptable request in some cultures (but not in others!). Expect this thread to blow up.

[Anonymous]

They want money. What is their nationality? Maybe this is common in some cultures.

[Anonymous]

I would buy a gift and put it in a bag. This money grab is beyond tacky. If it was not a close friend I would be inclined to not go to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

You could ask around to find out their china pattern and get them a setting or two. A silver picture frame is nice for a wedding portrait and will last forever. You really can't go wrong with very traditional gifts when you're not sure what the couple wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could ask around to find out their china pattern and get them a setting or two. A silver picture frame is nice for a wedding portrait and will last forever. You really can't go wrong with very traditional gifts when you're not sure what the couple wants.

Just stop! Gifts are for showers. Why do you need to give a couple more clutter?

[Anonymous]

Do they have to fly home? Bringing fragile gifts back presents a challenge.

[Anonymous]

Just take it out of the box?

[Anonymous]

Give them money or gift card. Or don't go to a wedding. Some people just done need stuff, especially if they are combining two households. Nothing tacky. Saves you a lot of times and worries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could ask around to find out their china pattern and get them a setting or two. A silver picture frame is nice for a wedding portrait and will last forever. You really can't go wrong with very traditional gifts when you're not sure what the couple wants.

"No boxed gifts" = "We want cash."

And it's tacky as hell. You're not even supposed to mention gifts on the invitation.

[Anonymous]

Are they Asian? I'm married to an Asian and giving money at weddings is considered normal (gifts for a wedding are sort of odd in some Asian cultures!).

If you like them, go and give money. If you don't like them, decline the invitation.

But be aware that "tackiness" is culture-specific

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Money grab. Tacky.

+1

No manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could ask around to find out their china pattern and get them a setting or two. A silver picture frame is nice for a wedding portrait and will last forever. You really can't go wrong with very traditional gifts when you're not sure what the couple wants.

"No boxed gifts" = "We want cash."

And it's tacky as hell. You're not even supposed to mention gifts on the invitation.

+1. I might decline the invitation, actually. It's really offensive.