Wedding Invitation - "No Boxed Gifts"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they Asian? I'm married to an Asian and giving money at weddings is considered normal (gifts for a wedding are sort of odd in some Asian cultures!).

If you like them, go and give money. If you don't like them, decline the invitation.

But be aware that "tackiness" is culture-specific

I am Caucasian and giving money at weddings is considered normal.

*Asking* for money, on the other hand, is rude and tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They want money. What is their nationality? Maybe this is common in some cultures.

Yes, it is standard practice among Vulgarians.

[Anonymous]

not a big deal, always give money, unless they have a registry someplace.... what - u want to bring them a toaster oven in a big box - they might end up with a couple. I agree...no boxes thank u!

My buddy who is Asian took in close to 42k on there wedding day. That money went straight into a down payment on their new home.

[Anonymous]

I would so want to buy a wonderful cardboard box, wrap it beautifully, and send it anonymously. Oh, and there'd be nothing in the box. Save maybe a copy of Miss Manners or something. Which is gauche beyond belief, but so is extortion of your "guests."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do they have to fly home? Bringing fragile gifts back presents a challenge.

Then perhaps they would have specified "No fragile gifts."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Do they have to fly home? Bringing fragile gifts back presents a challenge.


Then perhaps they would have specified "No fragile gifts."[google]

Agreed. The other option would be to state that they were flying in and although no gifts are required hey would be grateful if people would send anything to their home address to ensure all gifts arrive safely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do they have to fly home? Bringing fragile gifts back presents a challenge.

Then perhaps they would have specified "No fragile gifts."

Actually etiquette dictates that you aren't supposed to bring gifts to the wedding at all, precisely because of the hardship it creates on the hosts to transport them home. You should send them in advance if at all possible.

[Anonymous]

In the south it is considered tacky to give money as a gift.

[Anonymous]

How old is the wedding couple? Are they young and stupid?

[Anonymous]

I think the younger generation no longer prescribes to "Miss Manners". I went to a wedding and they registered for all kinds of crazy stuff (like it was a Christmas list instead of a registry). There were video games, musical instruments, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do they have to fly home? Bringing fragile gifts back presents a challenge.

Then perhaps they would have specified "No fragile gifts."

Actually etiquette dictates that you aren't supposed to bring gifts to the wedding at all, precisely because of the hardship it creates on the hosts to transport them home. You should send them in advance if at all possible.

+1. It was crazy hard to get all the gifts into our getaway car after my wedding was over. We had a city DC wedding and all our family and guests taxied. We had been drinking and were tired. Our planner had already left as well.

[Anonymous]

do they have a registry that is not listed on the card?

our hotel requested that we write no boxed gifts on the card b/c they said they get stuck with large volumes of presents and can not keep track of them and they would need to be cleared out by midnight - the time our hall was rented until. we didn't put that on the card and i have a recollection of my FIL hustling in and out with gifts towards the end of the evening.

[Anonymous]

People don't get married until late 20's and early 30's these days. They neither need nor want a toaster. I will never understand why a registry is acceptable but stating you want cash isn't. We did a registry with about 5 items on it. Most people got the idea, and the dinosaurs gave us some weird gift they decided we should have.

[Anonymous]

PP again: i'm also south asian and it is quite common to give money as a gift.

registering is sometimes seen as uncouth - b/c it is asking for specific things.

money, however, is considered an appropriate and acceptable gift to a couple to help them start a home.

it's not "tacky"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People don't get married until late 20's and early 30's these days. They neither need nor want a toaster. I will never understand why a registry is acceptable but stating you want cash isn't. We did a registry with about 5 items on it. Most people got the idea, and the dinosaurs gave us some weird gift they decided we should have.

Really? You will never understand why stating you want cash is tacky?