Do you know any married couples w/ children who live apart?

[Anonymous]

For work reasons or whatever else. Wondering if this works for anyone.

[Anonymous]

I know a family like this. DH lives in NYC for work and DW and kids are here in DC. They've been doing it for awhile and it "works" but I will say I think they have a weird relationship. They aren't affectionate with one another at all.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I live apart during the week, he works in another city.
Is it ideal? maybe not. Does it work for us, for now? yes.

[Anonymous]

I know several, live overseas. Very few who aren't supplementing though, if you know what I mean. Seems to work, but doesn't appeal to me at all. Wives either have jobs or skills that aren't transferrable here or remained in the US because the schools aren't the best where we are.

[Anonymous]

DH here. I did it for awhile; probably helped the marriage. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a family like this. DH lives in NYC for work and DW and kids are here in DC. They've been doing it for awhile and it "works" but I will say I think they have a weird relationship. They aren't affectionate with one another at all.

Sounds like the family we know. DH works for Google in NYC while wife and kids live in Bethesda. They've been doing this for many yrs and it works for them.

[Anonymous]

My parents did. They didn't seem to like each other all that much, so 6 months away from each other probably helped the marriage. I would go months/years without seeing my father as a teenager, though there were frequent calls and emails.

So weird that I am not more messed up.

[Anonymous]

My supervisor. He lives in DC during the week for work and goes home to VA Beach on the weekend. They have a 5 year old. They have been doing this for a year and a half and will continue to do it for the next 3 years.. #military

[Anonymous]

My sister does this. My parents did this - my dad was deployed. Everyone in my neighborhood thought my mom was a brave widow. I didn't like my dad, and I didn't miss him. My sister's daughter adores her dad, so i guess it really doesn't matter. It works for them.

[Anonymous]

I did this for a while because my wife refuses to move out of a Rust Belt hellhole with little opportunity because she is attached to her mother. Will do this again once youngest leaves for college. As you can tell, not planning to stay in this marriage. In 15 months comes the big payback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My supervisor. He lives in DC during the week for work and goes home to VA Beach on the weekend. They have a 5 year old. They have been doing this for a year and a half and will continue to do it for the next 3 years.. #military

You know hashtags don't work on DCUM, right?

[Anonymous]

My DH and I do it because of my DH's job. It should be more than 18 months. He comes home on most weekends. Our marriage sucked, so it has helped us work on ourselves a bit so we can improve the relationship. We fight A LOT less. My kids adjusted quickly. I love it.

[Anonymous]

We do it. Work - can't be avoided if we want to save my spouse's retirement. Weekends we are all together. Facetime. Phone calls. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this for a while because my wife refuses to move out of a Rust Belt hellhole with little opportunity because she is attached to her mother. Will do this again once youngest leaves for college. As you can tell, not planning to stay in this marriage. In 15 months comes the big payback.

Throwing you my support. DW refused to move for opportunities when we were young. Now as we have aged and our opportunities are less, she says where are all the opportunities. Honey, I told you that we should move to a part of the country with organic growth, preferably with a lower cost of living. You refused to discuss because of your (controlling) mother. Now that we made our bed we have to do the best we can. Then I get told I never took her to visit, etc. Outright refused fantastic opportunities and refuses to admit she should have stood up to her Mother. And this is from a women who doesn't want to work. After 20 plus years I don't have alot if sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Mostly foreign service folks who are on a hardship assignment and can't take their families to that particular location due to safety concerns. They make it work. One seems particularly hard to me since the wife lives in the midwest and the husband comes back to DC for training with only the normal length home visits.