Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

To the people who are confused by how "boring" this thread is or how "detached" OP is, what did you expect? This is someone who is deferring having a real career and a real relationship and a real family in favor of occasionally having sex with a middle aged man for money.

Do you think that someone who would do this is interesting? Do you think her idle, empty life could be interesting? No- she's fundamentally damaged. The source of this behavior would probably be pretty interesting, but she's certainly not self-aware enough to give us insights into that.

Truly interesting people build something out of their lives, all this woman is accomplishing is helping to destroy some other woman's family (with the assistance of "her man," of course).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he a control freak?

Not to me.

Well...

He pays for the roof over your head
He bought your car
He pays for everything you have, in order to have sex with you.

He is a control freak. Perhaps he isn't abusive, doesn't tell you who you can/can't see etc, but he DOES control a lot of your life right now. He has the perfect set up. A wife and kids at home -- good for the image. And you on the side, making sure you're dressed to his liking, in shape, tanned, etc.

On the flip side you have all of this and all you have to do is have sex with the guy when he has time for you. Does he have any say in what you do when he isn't around? Does he get upset or annoyed if you do something he doesn't approve of? What if you're busy and he wants to see you?

I would want to be in shape and looking good even if I weren't with him. I get to pick out my clothes - it's more he'll tell me what the dress code is when we're going somewhere. No, I do what I want. He was very surprised when I fostered a dog, for example. Not upset, but surprised. There have been several times he's wanted to get together and I've been unavailable - we just plan a different time.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe this has gone on for 31 pages. You guys are feeding this addiction the OP has. Her affair with this man is like an addiction to a drug. You can try to reason all day long with an addict, but they wont listen, until they are ready. This thread might as well be feeding a cocaine addict more come. She's eating it up. We all should have stopped at page 1. Wow.

[Anonymous]

PP here. And this thread started at noon today, and she's still been Johnny-on-the-spot, answering questions (as she chooses), for 12 HOURS.

[Anonymous]

LOL, PP here and that typo was totally an error! Should have said, feeding a cocaine addict more *coke*!!! That was totally unintentional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL, PP here and that typo was totally an error! Should have said, feeding a cocaine addict more *coke*!!! That was totally unintentional.

Anyway, stop enabling an addict. Stop this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL, PP here and that typo was totally an error! Should have said, feeding a cocaine addict more *coke*!!! That was totally unintentional.

Anyway, stop enabling an addict. Stop this thread.

I'm thinking of all the destructive, stupid things OP is doing with her life, starting a thread on DCUM is probably pretty low on the list, don't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL, PP here and that typo was totally an error! Should have said, feeding a cocaine addict more *coke*!!! That was totally unintentional.

Anyway, stop enabling an addict. Stop this thread.

I'm thinking of all the destructive, stupid things OP is doing with her life, starting a thread on DCUM is probably pretty low on the list, don't you?

I didn't mean literally. I meant, she is like an addict, addicted to her lifestyle. Despite complete rationalization about how destructive her life is many levels, she's addicted to it like a cocaine addict is addicted to their coke. And this thread is satisfying her addiction. It's a very unhealthy, abnormal personification of herself. I really do wonder what kind of life she had growing up as a child.

Such fascinating psycho-analytic possibilities!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL, PP here and that typo was totally an error! Should have said, feeding a cocaine addict more *coke*!!! That was totally unintentional.

Anyway, stop enabling an addict. Stop this thread.

I'm thinking of all the destructive, stupid things OP is doing with her life, starting a thread on DCUM is probably pretty low on the list, don't you?

I didn't mean literally. I meant, she is like an addict, addicted to her lifestyle. Despite complete rationalization about how destructive her life is many levels, she's addicted to it like a cocaine addict is addicted to their coke. And this thread is satisfying her addiction. It's a very unhealthy, abnormal personification of herself. I really do wonder what kind of life she had growing up as a child.

Such fascinating psycho-analytic possibilities!

I don't know, is this thread "feeding" her addiction? It's just full of people remarking on how sad/awful/pathetic/boring she is. How addictive could that be? And I don't think she's really addicted to anything other than being able to pay her bills for having sex. It's awful, it's damaging people other than her, but nothing anyone in this thread says likely has any effect on her.

[Anonymous]

New poster.
I have met several kept women in my life. Detached is a very good word to describe them- detached from their own self I would say. Their level of introspection is very low. They just don't get all those "fine matters" such as feelings, emotions, etc- and are not really interested in them. They are very straightforward in their thinking about things. Family is normal if there are no big fights and everyone gets together for holidays. Their life is fine as long as there is enough money, they are healthy, and good looking.
They are fascinating to me, who is very introspective and introverted in the Jungian sense. Seems like they don't complicate things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Repeating this because it has not yet been answered:

OP, he gives you a lump sum of $33k each year for rent: What form does the money come in? Personal check? Bank transfer? Cash?

Who cares? It's going to be a check, he was writing her checks before. So what?

I care. And I'd like to hear OP's answer. Thanks.

Are you the IRS? Is she supposed to paying taxes on the money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And how much $$ does he earn per year?

And what is his ethnicity?

He's also a white American. I have never asked what he earns per year. My guess is mid to high six figures?

You are so naive. six figures is not very much money.

That's what I said!

Maybe it's a lot in whatever small town OP is from. Her sugar daddy seems big time to her and it's pumping up his ego. Maybe even more than sex with a more cosmopolitan 24 year old would. I can't imagine too many girls from truly affluent families being satisfied with being kept at such a low price.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Repeating this because it has not yet been answered:

OP, he gives you a lump sum of $33k each year for rent: What form does the money come in? Personal check? Bank transfer? Cash?

Who cares? It's going to be a check, he was writing her checks before. So what?

I care. And I'd like to hear OP's answer. Thanks.

Yes, he gives me thousands of dollars in $5 bills that I keep in stacks on the floor of my closet.
I just double-checked my bank account to be able to answer this question. Turns out I was wrong - he transfers three months worth of rent at a time into my checking account.

And here's where I call BS. Big difference between less than $9k more in your account one morning vs. more than $30k. Your average checking balance is so high that you wouldn't spot that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What will you do if you get pregnant? If you get an STD?

I'd abort. I'd get the STD treated.
I know you all think since he'll cheat on his wife with me, he'll cheat on me. You're entitled to your opinion. But I know him and I don't think he's "cheating" on me, and I'm entitled to my opinion too.

According to you, this sex maniac man willingly got engaged and married to a low sex drive wife. Not that long ago, either. You don't see anything at all funny about that?

Can you imagine yourself *marrying* a man who did not need or want sex?

For all you know this guy could be bisexual and he has a male paramour on the side with a similar arrangement to your own. Bottom line is - you don't really know this man at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Repeating this because it has not yet been answered:

OP, he gives you a lump sum of $33k each year for rent: What form does the money come in? Personal check? Bank transfer? Cash?

Who cares? It's going to be a check, he was writing her checks before. So what?

I care. And I'd like to hear OP's answer. Thanks.

Yes, he gives me thousands of dollars in $5 bills that I keep in stacks on the floor of my closet.
I just double-checked my bank account to be able to answer this question. Turns out I was wrong - he transfers three months worth of rent at a time into my checking account.

And here's where I call BS. Big difference between less than $9k more in your account one morning vs. more than $30k. Your average checking balance is so high that you wouldn't spot that?

OMG let it go, Nancy Drew. She could have thousands more than what he puts in there.