James Van der beek died! 48 yo :(

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You all judging someone who died young with a big family is just wrong. I'm sure his wife and kids wish he was still alive. No amount of amount of money will heal their pain in missing their dad and father. Shame on all of you.

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Anonymous wrote:You all judging someone who died young with a big family is just wrong. I'm sure his wife and kids wish he was still alive. No amount of amount of money will heal their pain in missing their dad and father. Shame on all of you.

But i am sure that 5 mil estate they just bought a month ago helps her process her sadness.

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Anonymous wrote:You all judging someone who died young with a big family is just wrong. I'm sure his wife and kids wish he was still alive. No amount of amount of money will heal their pain in missing their dad and father. Shame on all of you.

But i am sure that 5 mil estate they just bought a month ago helps her process her sadness.

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Anonymous wrote:You all judging someone who died young with a big family is just wrong. I'm sure his wife and kids wish he was still alive. No amount of amount of money will heal their pain in missing their dad and father. Shame on all of you.

A. He’s dead so nothing said or done can hurt him.

B. “No amount of money will heal their pain….” - it sure didn’t stop them from asking though did it.

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Maybe they’ll make his funeral pay per view.

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Anonymous wrote:You all judging someone who died young with a big family is just wrong. I'm sure his wife and kids wish he was still alive. No amount of amount of money will heal their pain in missing their dad and father. Shame on all of you.

Then why are they asking for millions of dollars from the public???? I completely agree with you for what it’s worth , about money not helping the children’s grief.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

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Anonymous wrote:The latest on his jerseys being sold:

https://apple.news/AjKLhD0epQ5KXvnYc_UjWgg

People not offered full refunds when they bought signed merch and now they can’t send it. Includes a note that if you want a partial refund, we will send an unsigned jersey but note you’ll reduce the support going to James’ family.

I saw that 😳 basically, no option for a full refund at all, the only option is a partial refund, or no refund, and a paragraph about how accepting no refund will directly help the widow and the children with their financial needs and then lists the children’s names. What a tasteless guilt trip. I am not even sure about the legality surrounding not offering a full refund. And yes of course the reason the product can’t be shipped is incredibly sad. Many people I’m sure would be fine with no refund. But they can’t just not give an option for a refund for a product that they can’t provide you anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

What's done is done. Why are you going on and on about it? He wasn't your husband. They are all nobodies.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

Are children supposed to each have their own bathroom?? News to me!! My 2 brothers and I shared a bathroom and it was never an issue, not once. Currently my kids , husband and I all use the same bathroom too (we have 2 others but they are on the main floor and in the finished basement, so practically speaking we are all brushing our teeth in the morning in the same upstairs one). It’s fine. We haven’t died yet. And we have plenty of money. It’s just a non issue.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

What's done is done. Why are you going on and on about it? He wasn't your husband. They are all nobodies.

Six children is ridiculous unless you are ridiculously wealthy or willing to live very simply. The Van der Beeks are neither, apparently. Hence rattling their tin cup. Embarrassing.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

What's done is done. Why are you going on and on about it? He wasn't your husband. They are all nobodies.

Six children is ridiculous unless you are ridiculously wealthy or willing to live very simply. The Van der Beeks are neither, apparently. Hence rattling their tin cup. Embarrassing.

Ok? Maybe nobody should have any kids because they might die young. What is the right number? 6 is too many so where is the line? What if you have 6 kids and zero prospects and live off the government teat, what then? There are a lot of those people around too. What do you think of them? Should they lose their kids to stop the tin cup rattling?

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

What's done is done. Why are you going on and on about it? He wasn't your husband. They are all nobodies.

Six children is ridiculous unless you are ridiculously wealthy or willing to live very simply. The Van der Beeks are neither, apparently. Hence rattling their tin cup. Embarrassing.

Ok? Maybe nobody should have any kids because they might die young. What is the right number? 6 is too many so where is the line? What if you have 6 kids and zero prospects and live off the government teat, what then? There are a lot of those people around too. What do you think of them? Should they lose their kids to stop the tin cup rattling?

The line is the number of children you can comfortably afford, obviously.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

What's done is done. Why are you going on and on about it? He wasn't your husband. They are all nobodies.

Six children is ridiculous unless you are ridiculously wealthy or willing to live very simply. The Van der Beeks are neither, apparently. Hence rattling their tin cup. Embarrassing.

Ok? Maybe nobody should have any kids because they might die young. What is the right number? 6 is too many so where is the line? What if you have 6 kids and zero prospects and live off the government teat, what then? There are a lot of those people around too. What do you think of them? Should they lose their kids to stop the tin cup rattling?

The line is the number of children you can comfortably afford, obviously.

And what if your circumstances change due to death? I bet you think it's great to mooch off the government but clutch your pearls when supported by fans and friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I just wish that people would connect the dots that medical bankruptcy is a real thing and happens to lots of Americans every day. I am too jaded to think this will open a broader conversation about national health insurance or safety nets. Or that that the people who donate to James Van der Beek would also open their hearts to an unnamed destitute family in their own communities.

Except he had a multimillion dollar home in LA which he redesigned a few years ago (so he had money for that) and I think he rents out for $12,000/month and he has this property in TX.

If you'd said he is house poor, I'd get it. If you're saying he suffered from a medical bankruptcy, then I don't think you understand what bankrupt means.

When did he redesign it? You don’t know if he paid for the renovations with cash or a HELOC. That rental income might be their only source of income. Who knows what the mortgage is, property taxes and maintenance cost. He set his family up with one known source of passive income.

If you don’t think their situation warrants a donation or it’s not within your means to do so, don’t give. I didn’t donate but I don’t have a problem with them asking. I am of the mindset that they wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t necessary. His wife is facing the reality of raising six kids alone. They have publicly stated that they used most of their money to pay for James care. I believe them.

Maybe she will ultimately downsize. Maybe she’s trying to get through this awful loss before she focuses on uprooting her kids. Also, it’s a big house in terms of square footage, but it’s five beds and three baths. That’s not exactly an unreasonable amount of space for six kids. As it is all the kids probably share a bathroom which sounds uncomfortable.

Welp, maybe think about these things before you have six (SIX!) children. My husband grew up in a house of 5 with one bathroom and they made it work.

What's done is done. Why are you going on and on about it? He wasn't your husband. They are all nobodies.

Six children is ridiculous unless you are ridiculously wealthy or willing to live very simply. The Van der Beeks are neither, apparently. Hence rattling their tin cup. Embarrassing.

Ok? Maybe nobody should have any kids because they might die young. What is the right number? 6 is too many so where is the line? What if you have 6 kids and zero prospects and live off the government teat, what then? There are a lot of those people around too. What do you think of them? Should they lose their kids to stop the tin cup rattling?

The line is the number of children you can comfortably afford, obviously.

And what if your circumstances change due to death? I bet you think it's great to mooch off the government but clutch your pearls when supported by fans and friends.

That’s why people grow up and make mature and thought out plans. Hey, we racked up hundreds of thousands of dollars in taxes that resulted in liens and we finally paid then off! We absolutely need to scale back, work more and plan better versus hey, let’s still live large - this time in a massive and new place - and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.

The bolded is like saying it makes sense to have no health insurance if you’re healthy- and deal with the consequences later when you’re sick.

Death, sickness, taxes, the cost of 6 kids, not bringing in sufficient money to sustain your life…these are not unexpected circumstances. All are known, expected, and need to be planned for.