Why do I have a thing for men in a position of authority over me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust me that when you turn 40, this will end. Because at that point men in power over you are 55+, and the vast majority are no longer appealing, No matter how dominant or authoritative they are

So true. Just hit 40 and old farts, regardless of how powerful, have lost their appeal. For the purposes of dirty fantasies guys in their early 30s are the hottest group to me at the moment.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don’t even know if it’s about being dominated, maybe I just like to be liked by someone in power? Or the rush and excitement of the boss, that everyone fears and wants to like them, likes ME back

I’m like this. It’s not wanting to be dominated or daddy issues at all IMO. I love powerful, old men. I love men who are really smart, really competent and whom other men respect. I love that they have everything in the world but they still want to impress you, young and attractive woman.

A very good girlfriend of mine feels like that too.

I don't and would be suspicious of him trying to control me

[Anonymous]

College professors did this to me. Maybe it was the hormones from being that age but it got so bad that I couldn’t focus in class sometimes. Lol. I definitely flirted with them too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College professors did this to me. Maybe it was the hormones from being that age but it got so bad that I couldn’t focus in class sometimes. Lol. I definitely flirted with them too.

When I taught college many female students flirted with me. And one gave me a pair of her panties. I never messed around with any of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the same way. But only sexually not for a relationship. I think if I were to psychoanalyze it’s because I’m lazy and want someone to free me from deciding things for myself.

OP here and same. I want my future husband to be the more dominant one

This is...also Daddy issues.

I am PP and pretty sure it’s not daddy issues for me. I think I could also become turned on by a hot woman in power, if the situation were right.

And I would enjoy watching you with a hot powerful woman.

Go away.

[Anonymous]

When people talk about "daddy issues," they're referring to to attachment styles. Secure attachment styles result from having a caregiver who was responsive to your needs and emotionally available. Did you have a close emotional bond with your father or was it distant? Did he take an active part in your life? Did he leave the family? Could he be counted on? Did he have a drug or alcohol problem? Did you spend quality time with him?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the same way. But only sexually not for a relationship. I think if I were to psychoanalyze it’s because I’m lazy and want someone to free me from deciding things for myself.

OP here and same. I want my future husband to be the more dominant one

This is...also Daddy issues.

No it’s really not.

[Anonymous]

Indon’t think its daddy issues. Maybe its just an evolutionary holdover to being attracted to the pack alpha. Professors, men in leadership roles are basically the alpha of their own little pack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people talk about "daddy issues," they're referring to to attachment styles. Secure attachment styles result from having a caregiver who was responsive to your needs and emotionally available. Did you have a close emotional bond with your father or was it distant? Did he take an active part in your life? Did he leave the family? Could he be counted on? Did he have a drug or alcohol problem? Did you spend quality time with him?

Okay but given the variety of questions you just asked there is no specific definition of “daddy issues.” You just included nearly every scenario.