Why do I have a thing for men in a position of authority over me?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it is a release of responsibility for you to hand over the power to someone else. It's a great fantasy. You wouldn't like it in real life unless there were other factors involved .

OP here. Yes- that must be it. If he was just someone I met in a bar I wouldn’t look at him twice. I think I’m gross for even thinking about it…but I can’t help myself right now. The way he shut everyone else down and took my side got me so turned on to the point I’m actually considering going for it

Don't pork your boss. Get a grip. There are plenty of dominant men in the world.

[Anonymous]

Trust me that when you turn 40, this will end. Because at that point men in power over you are 55+, and the vast majority are no longer appealing, No matter how dominant or authoritative they are

[Anonymous]

Because you’re a sub and like to be dominated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the same way. But only sexually not for a relationship. I think if I were to psychoanalyze it’s because I’m lazy and want someone to free me from deciding things for myself.

OP here and same. I want my future husband to be the more dominant one

This is...also Daddy issues.

I am PP and pretty sure it’s not daddy issues for me. I think I could also become turned on by a hot woman in power, if the situation were right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the same way. But only sexually not for a relationship. I think if I were to psychoanalyze it’s because I’m lazy and want someone to free me from deciding things for myself.

OP here and same. I want my future husband to be the more dominant one

This is...also Daddy issues.

I am PP and pretty sure it’s not daddy issues for me. I think I could also become turned on by a hot woman in power, if the situation were right.

And I would enjoy watching you with a hot powerful woman.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don’t even know if it’s about being dominated, maybe I just like to be liked by someone in power? Or the rush and excitement of the boss, that everyone fears and wants to like them, likes ME back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don’t even know if it’s about being dominated, maybe I just like to be liked by someone in power? Or the rush and excitement of the boss, that everyone fears and wants to like them, likes ME back

You want a man to claim you, publicly, and only then do you feel worthy. To show your gratitude for fulfilling this most basic of needs (to feel worthy), you feel compelled to thank him using the most basic means available between a man and woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the same way. But only sexually not for a relationship. I think if I were to psychoanalyze it’s because I’m lazy and want someone to free me from deciding things for myself.

OP here and same. I want my future husband to be the more dominant one

Wow. You guys are so not me. I am divorcing someone who requires that I be submissive.

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Anonymous wrote:It is a thing. People are attracted to power.

However, if you’re going to go that route, aim higher than the out of shape middle manager.

What if it’s just for sex?

If it’s just for sex then you should DEFINITELY aim higher than the out of shape middle manager!

As an out of shape middle manager, I strongly disagree. This is the best thread I've read in weeks.

That’s different. You also have a sense of humor, which automatically garners you a point or two.

[Anonymous]

Because strong women are attracted to strength. Weak women are attracted to strength, too. Evolutionary biology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else here extremely turned on by authority? I have always been attracted to people positions of authority over me (teachers, bosses, older people in general if that counts). Right now I can’t stop getting turned on over thinking about one of my supervisors because he sided with me recently over some issues in my department and told my coworkers to do what I asked. He’s old, out of shape, and doesn’t have a great personality but ever since he basically came to my defense, I can’t stop getting horny over it and I think it’s just because he’s my superior. Am I crazy or is this a thing?

Yes. It’s started with a very hot coach, he was about ten-15 years older than the students, when I was high school. I wanted to please and impress him SO much. Since then I’ve been 100% attracted to men I feel compelled to impress or challenge in some way. Unfortunately I’m not very impressive, but a lot of men seem to be attracted right back to this dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don’t even know if it’s about being dominated, maybe I just like to be liked by someone in power? Or the rush and excitement of the boss, that everyone fears and wants to like them, likes ME back

I’m like this. It’s not wanting to be dominated or daddy issues at all IMO. I love powerful, old men. I love men who are really smart, really competent and whom other men respect. I love that they have everything in the world but they still want to impress you, young and attractive woman.

[Anonymous]

I thought this was universal.

Men are attracted to looks and women are attracted to power. Sometimes we just call it "ambition" but it's basically all the same.

[Anonymous]

I recently met a cop who is like this LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don’t even know if it’s about being dominated, maybe I just like to be liked by someone in power? Or the rush and excitement of the boss, that everyone fears and wants to like them, likes ME back

Are you a “pleaser”? Someone who enjoys pleasing others?