Does anyone else think couples in the old days had it right by having separate bedrooms?

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Anonymous wrote:Last 12-14 months DH usually sleeps in neighbors' spare room (1st floor, next door), especially in hotter or colder weather. We have offered to chip in utilities but they won't hear of it. #generosity

Is the neighbor his soulmate

No. At first they didn't know he was going in there (he was able to get in through a window) but when they found out they were surprised but very welcoming. He offered to give them a large amount of older clothes or to buy them a reasonable amount of new ones, but they said it was not necessary. They do a lot of singing together but I don't feel it is a soulmate type situation.

Ok…wut? This deserves its own post. Please.

Was only sharing my/our story. They like to sing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last 12-14 months DH usually sleeps in neighbors' spare room (1st floor, next door), especially in hotter or colder weather. We have offered to chip in utilities but they won't hear of it. #generosity

Is the neighbor his soulmate

No. At first they didn't know he was going in there (he was able to get in through a window) but when they found out they were surprised but very welcoming. He offered to give them a large amount of older clothes or to buy them a reasonable amount of new ones, but they said it was not necessary. They do a lot of singing together but I don't feel it is a soulmate type situation.

Ok…wut? This deserves its own post. Please.

PP is f-ing with you…albeit in a very humorous way.

[Anonymous]

I like sleeping separately. My DH snores and sprawls across our king sized bed to the point where I end up huddled on the opposite side. He also runs super hot so I can't comfortably sleep next to him without sweating. I'm also a night owl while DH is an early bird. He's asleep by 9pm. If he sleeps in the guest room, I won't wake him up when I go to bed or if I stay up late reading in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everything I’ve heard about separate bedrooms or couples who have separate beds because they practice Jewish family purity around menstruation

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The correct procedure in this case is to banish the Impure Female to the menstrual hut in the back yard.

As a good husband, though, you should make sure she can get at least two bars of wifi when she is confined to the hut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last 12-14 months DH usually sleeps in neighbors' spare room (1st floor, next door), especially in hotter or colder weather. We have offered to chip in utilities but they won't hear of it. #generosity

Is the neighbor his soulmate

No. At first they didn't know he was going in there (he was able to get in through a window) but when they found out they were surprised but very welcoming. He offered to give them a large amount of older clothes or to buy them a reasonable amount of new ones, but they said it was not necessary. They do a lot of singing together but I don't feel it is a soulmate type situation.

Ok…wut? This deserves its own post. Please.

PP is f-ing with you…albeit in a very humorous way.

Who are you? I am PP. I was sharing my story honestfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last 12-14 months DH usually sleeps in neighbors' spare room (1st floor, next door), especially in hotter or colder weather. We have offered to chip in utilities but they won't hear of it. #generosity

Is the neighbor his soulmate

No. At first they didn't know he was going in there (he was able to get in through a window) but when they found out they were surprised but very welcoming. He offered to give them a large amount of older clothes or to buy them a reasonable amount of new ones, but they said it was not necessary. They do a lot of singing together but I don't feel it is a soulmate type situation.

Ok…wut? This deserves its own post. Please.

PP is f-ing with you…albeit in a very humorous way.

Who are you? I am PP. I was sharing my story honestfully.

Yea, but that was just a teaser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last 12-14 months DH usually sleeps in neighbors' spare room (1st floor, next door), especially in hotter or colder weather. We have offered to chip in utilities but they won't hear of it. #generosity

Is the neighbor his soulmate

No. At first they didn't know he was going in there (he was able to get in through a window) but when they found out they were surprised but very welcoming. He offered to give them a large amount of older clothes or to buy them a reasonable amount of new ones, but they said it was not necessary. They do a lot of singing together but I don't feel it is a soulmate type situation.

Ok…wut? This deserves its own post. Please.

PP is f-ing with you…albeit in a very humorous way.

Who are you? I am PP. I was sharing my story honestfully.

Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

PP, will not be posting again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We look.down and make fun of couples of the 1800s (and before) for having separate bedrooms.... But the more I think about it, I think it was a smart idea. I would absolutely Love to have my own bedroom. Not have to deal with snores, farts, all night TV on, or lights on, etc. It is ridiculous the number of times I am awaken because my husband watching a show (loud), or have the lights on bevacsuse he wants to color, or wakes me up because he is freaking talking/playing with the dog (bye, I DO NOY WANT THE DOG ON MY BEF!!!!), etc.

I want my own room and piece of heaven!!!.

Come, have sex - Bam, Wham, Than you Man, and leave PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!! I want to freak SLEEP!!!!!!

1800's? Seriously? Most people lived in places so small everyone was sleeping in the same room. Perhaps in the 1800's people in castles, large estates, all rich people, had the option...see Gone with the Wind and any number of movies about kings and queens, but that certainly wasn't the norm.

Most people would say I grew up in the old days since they consider the 50s and 60s to be that, had lots of friends over the years and cannot recall a single household where the parents slept in separate bedrooms. Some had twin beds like in I Love Lucy but my parents never did.

I think your issue goes well beyond being in separate bedrooms to get some peace and sleep.

I agree that OP's history is wrong. Most couples shared a bed. You had to be wealthy enough to have a big enough house that husband and wife had a separate room. And the TV shows used the twin beds because of things like the Hayes code -- it was considered risque to suggest that a couple was sleeping together, so they put them in separate beds. But very few couples in those days had separate rooms -- again, unless they were wealthy, in which case, they might well have slept together, even if they each had their own bedroom and dressing room.

That said, I would love to have my own room. My spouse snores and is a very restless sleeper. I would sleep SO much better on my own.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like an amazing idea to me!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everything I’ve heard about separate bedrooms or couples who have separate beds because they practice Jewish family purity around menstruation

n

The correct procedure in this case is to banish the Impure Female to the menstrual hut in the back yard.

As a good husband, though, you should make sure she can get at least two bars of wifi when she is confined to the hut.

My grandparents did this. I used to think it was weird, but now I think the week’s vacation from all family duties is glorious. I’m building a hit for myself as we speak.