Does anyone else think couples in the old days had it right by having separate bedrooms?

[Anonymous]

Coloring is great. There are adult coloring books TRY IT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coloring is great. There are adult coloring books TRY IT

Sure.

But waking up your spouse in the middle of the night by turning on the lights to color in bed is def NOT great.

Honestly, this guy just sounds like an a$$h0le.

If my spouse started to play with the dog in bed while I was sleeping in it, it would be a serious 'WT actual F are you doing right now' type of moment

[Anonymous]

Even through the first 30 years of the 20th century, master bedroom suites in nicer houses had "his and hers" bedroom suites with separate dressing rooms too.

[Anonymous]

I agree OP. Together time can be managed, but sleeping time is essential took. I don't want anything interfering with my ability to sleep, especially now that I'm in perimenopause and sleep does not come easily to me. I'm a better wife and mother when I sleep alone.

[Anonymous]

This guy just has some whack behavior.

But, one of the best things we did was invest in a super nice king sized mattress (fortunately, it can fit in our room). Def not cheap, but worth every penny

When every single toss and turn and roll-over doesn't disturb you or your partner, it makes for such a better night of sleep.

And everyone wakes up happier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s sad. Snuggling with DH before we roll over and go to sleep is a high point in my day. Maybe if he starts snoring, I’ll change my mind.

You will.

[Anonymous]

I like having my spouse there when I wake up at night. If snoring became a big issue, I'd start with earplugs (and seeing if there was a way to remedy the snoring).

But I also do not think separate bedrooms indicates anything bad about a relationship, just indicates people's sleep preferences. Sleep is important

[Anonymous]

My aunt and uncle, both in their early 80s, have always had separate bedrooms.

She is a light sleeper and he's always kept odd hours. Their bedrooms are actually on completely separate floors of their house as well. About 12 years ago they redid the basement, where his bedroom is, to include a small kitchen area. That way he was able to wake at 2 am and make breakfast without waking her.

I always thought it was weird until I got married. Now I totally get it.

[Anonymous]

OP, your husband is rude. None of that is ok.

If you share a bedroom, you don't get to watch shows or have the lights or TV on while the other person wants to sleep. Get up and go to the living room or something, sleep on the couch if you must. Plus, doing that kind of stuff in bed makes for terrible sleep habits. Would he want your kids to be on their screens in bed late at night?

[Anonymous]

My husband works nights 3x a week and it is really nice to have the bed to myself, but also nice when he is home and we get to snuggle in the AM.

[Anonymous]

Take the tv out of your room!

[Anonymous]

Yup! The husband will follow the TV. I did this in the second year of my marriage and never put it back. I don't miss it. He has a man cave with a TV if he wants to snooze with it on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even through the first 30 years of the 20th century, master bedroom suites in nicer houses had "his and hers" bedroom suites with separate dressing rooms too.

If by 'nicer' you mean exceptionally wealthy, I agree. Looking at the average house size in the US over the decades, the houses were not large enough for 'his ad hers' bedrooms much less suites with dressing rooms. My mother (born in 1940) to a middle class family lived in a 2 bedroom 1 bath bungalow typical of the time and area. Her 'room' was in the unfinished basement. Her brother shared a room with their grandmother and their parents shared a single room. I grew up on a farm sharing 2 bedroom 1 bath farmhouse. My 4 siblings and I shared 1 bedroom, my parents had the other room. This was not unusual.

https://www.newser.com/story/225645/average-size-of-us-homes-decade-by-decade.html

[Anonymous]

My wife says she wishes she didn't marry me because I'm unwilling to cuddle when we are sleeping...there would only be one person sleeping, since I have shoulder and insomnia problems and she snores loudly.

Anyway, I get the bed while she co-sleeps with our 14 year old daughter. We still have sex once or twice a week.

[Anonymous]

Old days? Pa and Ma Ingalls slept in the same bed. So did my grandparents, who were born in the 1890s.