Do women hate you?

[Anonymous]

All you ugly chicks are lying. Whether you keep it hidden..or you gossip along with all the other cows you know, every single one of you hates chicks that look good. They get all the attention, they always dress hot, usually they have a BETTER personality than you, because they have been popular forever and know how to socialize. Keep lying all you want. All that you can use against them is to make those girls feel secluded. So you do...because you are jealous. Not because they have ever been ugly to you...or mean. But because you are jealous.

[Anonymous]

I haven't hated any men (yet). I have hated other women. The three in question tended to be self-serving, duplicitous, and passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

The original question leads me to this one: don't you know people (women and men) who are objectively unlikeable yet have tons of friend/acquaintances? I mean people who are catty, gossipy, selfish, materialistic, or similar.

I tend to be shy and take a while to warm up to people. I've been told that this comes off as bitchy, aloof, or superior when meeting new people. It is probably why I have a small circle - so it always makes me wonder how these people who Really are nasty have such vibrant circles of friends and acquaintances. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I am overweight and average looking. I am very talkative and friendly. I tend to make great friends with all of my peers and subordinates at work, but every female boss I've ever had has hated my guts. To the point where coworkers notice and I've had HR at one job on my side bc boss was crazy out of line.

So, women that are equal or below me on the ladder at work love me, but I can't hack it with the bosses for some reason. And my performance is almost always at the top of the heap, usually top 10%, at worst, top 25% on a bigger team (10+ people).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The original question leads me to this one: don't you know people (women and men) who are objectively unlikeable yet have tons of friend/acquaintances? I mean people who are catty, gossipy, selfish, materialistic, or similar.

I tend to be shy and take a while to warm up to people. I've been told that this comes off as bitchy, aloof, or superior when meeting new people. It is probably why I have a small circle - so it always makes me wonder how these people who Really are nasty have such vibrant circles of friends and acquaintances. Thoughts?

No thoughts, but I've observed the same thing (and have a personality like yours). I really don't get it. I noticed then phenomenon in high school but figured people would outgrow their love of mean girls. Nope. As a 35 year old, I know a couple of very mean, bitchy, snobby women who have huge circles of friends and hanger-ons. I'm a very nice (I think), generous, caring friend but I'm shy and reserved, so people think I'm aloof or superior. Nothing could be further from the truth. I have a very small circle of close friends but lots of acquaintances. I think it may be because I am more reserved and am content to spend a day alone, don't like talking on the phone, etc. Basically, I'm not making as much of an effort. I'm also one of those unfortunate people who has a bitch face whenever I'm thinking or not really paying attention. I'm working on that. I am very attractive, educated, etc etc, but I don't think it prevents people from getting close to me (with a few exceptions).

[Anonymous]

Yes, because I am thin and rich!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I am, sometimes I am not. I am a nonconformist and independet thinker and if a group of ladies are gossiping I have no problem defending the person gossiped about which pisses people off.

My SILs loves to bash people and I tend to walk away when they goes into mean girl mode which annoys them. They think I am a total bitch and have told just about anyone who will listen. Of course they fight with eachother often and I think right now they are not speaking to eachother. My MIL is like this too and she hates me. I think hating me brings them together because they don't tend to get along well with eachother otherwise.

I am a loyal friend and kind to strangers, but if I decide you are a mean-spirited and/or manipulative person I won't give you the time of day.

So yeah...I am one of those people you either hate or really respect and maybe even really like. I find that I evoke strong feeling either way. I have close female friends, but as I said there are females who despise me.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is buxom and women REALLY hate her. Some of her "friends" have even commented on her chest, as if that would make it go away or something. She is also smart, among other things so I think it does bother most women. Not that they would ever admit it, but it does make them look really foolish.

[Anonymous]

PP here. She is naturally buxom, which I suppose some women would take as an even worse offense (as not natural). She also happens to have a cute face and body, and she is outgoing, so I am sure that does not help. Some women seem okay with her, but not most.

[Anonymous]

I am a natural blonde and I am convinced that women dislike me because of my hair color. I actually met a woman who told me she was "irritated" when she saw me because of my hair. I am pretty shy and consider myself friendly but I seem to have a negative effect on women I have never met.

[Anonymous]

People like me. Men and women. I went to an all girl's high school and an all women's seven sisters college so I get along really well and like and am supportive of other women: Other women can tell. I have lots of very attractive female friends who tend to have mostly male friends but am friends with me b/c I'm not threatened or competitive with them. Men always liked me.

[Anonymous]

Some people like me; some don't care much either way about me; a very few might hate me. I've never noticed a pattern related to gender. I think generally men and women like me okay. Don't think most of them care deeply enough to love or hate me. I have a few people in my life you do love me, and that's enough for me.

[Anonymous]

I am a natural blonde and I am convinced that women dislike me because of my hair color.

You are correct and I empathize with you. This strange hate is even exhibited by teachers. In middle school, my DC's French teacher stated on the first day of school that she disliked popular blonde girls (not blonde boys mind you, and this class contained both boys and girls), and that they would have to work extra hard to keep up and that they shouldn't sit toward the front of the room. She stated this on the first day of school, so the teacher could not have known any of the personalities of the students at that point.

[Anonymous]

Who hates someone because they are pretty or, even weirder, have big boobs? I don't believe that 10% of women dislike attractive women or women that men like. So if you are really pretty or hot and more than 10 % of women hate you, something else is going on.

[Anonymous]

15:05 - No. Do not make it more difficult than it is. Women are often taught to hate other women, whether they know it or not. It is not like women go around saying "oh yeah, I hate blondes (or whatever) because they get all the positive attention." It is not a behavior that women will admit to.

Miserable women assume that the next woman has a better life, even if they know nothing about them. This is an extremely judgmental, shallow area. Women hang out with women similar to them for this reason - less hate.