Do women hate you?

[Anonymous]

No, I actually am probably considered a "girls girl". I always get along with my female co-workers and have lots of female friends. I also get along with men just the same. I am attractive and am pretty successful at my job. I really cannot say that this fact has any bearing on my likeablity. I try to be nice and make a point to pay someone at least one compliment a day. I think the key to being likeable is to try to make people feel special and remember specific things about them (their kids, pets, hobbies) and ask them about it from time to time. People really like it when you remember things that they hold dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay...the posters who are claiming their gorgeous looks, amazing brains and fantastic success at work (or positive attitude) are why you're disliked...it's not. There is something else about you - whether it's a sense of cockiness, superiority, a really unpleasant odor, who knows. But I have known and worked with many gorgeous, brilliant, successful, friendly women who are universally liked, not universally hated. It's probably a lot more about your attitude than you care to admit.

And for the hot smart successful one whose MALE boss confirmed for her that all the other women were jealous...that's pretty funny. Where do you think he was trying to go with that?

I completely agree with this PP, and I'll take it a step further, which I am sure will generate some flaming responses...I hate to say it, but I find that there are quite a lot of 'stuck up b!tch3s' out there. They are totally full of themselves and think they are better than everyone else. This is different than simply being beautiful and intelligent. This is letting it get to your head, thinking you're better than everyone else and thus not being sincerely down to earth and genuinely nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay...the posters who are claiming their gorgeous looks, amazing brains and fantastic success at work (or positive attitude) are why you're disliked...it's not. There is something else about you - whether it's a sense of cockiness, superiority, a really unpleasant odor, who knows. But I have known and worked with many gorgeous, brilliant, successful, friendly women who are universally liked, not universally hated. It's probably a lot more about your attitude than you care to admit.

And for the hot smart successful one whose MALE boss confirmed for her that all the other women were jealous...that's pretty funny. Where do you think he was trying to go with that?

I completely agree with this PP, and I'll take it a step further, which I am sure will generate some flaming responses...I hate to say it, but I find that there are quite a lot of 'stuck up b!tch3s' out there. They are totally full of themselves and think they are better than everyone else. This is different than simply being beautiful and intelligent. This is letting it get to your head, thinking you're better than everyone else and thus not being sincerely down to earth and genuinely nice.

PP here: Oh, I forgot to mention that I am also considered beautiful and intelligent, and I'm very successful in my career; so no - I am not jealous

[Anonymous]

PP sorry to say but after the last line you only sound really jealous, bitchy and kind of a liar 8)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP sorry to say but after the last line you only sound really jealous, bitchy and kind of a liar 8)

I agree. How do you know those women are full of themselves and think they're better than everyone else? Have they told you that or are you just assuming becuase they have a presence that you don't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"40 years old and doing my first shoot for playboy is awesome."

That is something to strive for in life.

[Anonymous]

Once people get to know me they realize I am nice and down to earth, first impression I must come off as an arrogant bitch. I just posted a similar topic on the general forum about moms at the park shunning me. Sure we probably had nothing in common besides having kids but I was feeling bored at the park today and tried to strike up some convo with some frumpy dumpy ladies that were clearly 10 years my senior. I just was trying to be friendly and these fat trolls didn't want any part of it. My negative attitude only came out after they blew me off. I caught them discussing my son who is clearly a fratstar in training.
I am feeling hateful now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once people get to know me they realize I am nice and down to earth, first impression I must come off as an arrogant bitch. I just posted a similar topic on the general forum about moms at the park shunning me. Sure we probably had nothing in common besides having kids but I was feeling bored at the park today and tried to strike up some convo with some frumpy dumpy ladies that were clearly 10 years my senior. I just was trying to be friendly and these fat trolls didn't want any part of it. My negative attitude only came out after they blew me off. I caught them discussing my son who is clearly a fratstar in training.
I am feeling hateful now.

Um, are you saying this as though it is something positive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Are you someone women hate? Why or why not? [/quote

Nope. I have lots of women friends. Male friends, too. I tend to be easy going and friendly by nature. Always have been.

My experience is that you get what you give. If you're friendly and kind to people, they're friendly and kind back. For me, this goes for strangers I meet at they playground as well as for work colleagues and potential life-long friends. You attract people like yourself, good or bad.

[Anonymous]

OP here. No, I do not come here every day. Thanks for the great responses! It is somewhat telling.

Based on the responses, I am wondering what people look like. People seem to be emphasizing looks. Interesting!

I notice how people treat others, but I have yet to know why. Might it be based on looks?

[Anonymous]

I have friend that is photogenic but homely in person.

She used to be a cheerleader in some little town high school. Sadly, she thinks that dictates the rest of her life in her favor. Her husband (rather poorly and) falsely sings her praises to a point where it is obvious something really bad is up. He's unhappy with the way things have turned out! I feel embarrassed for her (him too), but she seems to thrive on his awkward attempt at semi-validation.

I say this because, in the meantime, it is crystal clear how very attached to 20-years-ago she is. It really is sad. She has a "saleperson" personality that is also devaluing with age.

She is quite catty as a result of her "socialization". [I was a cheerleader once, too and realize that not all once-cheerleaders are like this. Fortunately, I have accomplished other things in all those years].

The funny thing is, she does NOTHING. She doesn't take care of her kids, work, or so much as cook or clean; so it is really difficult NOT to feel bad for him. He's obviously some sort of stuck.

So, I believe she THINKS women don't hate her. BUT she gives women a bad name by falling into a stereotype. The stereotype is worsened by how catty she can be behind people's backs. It comes through with her kids. Or instead, other people's kids. She is an unhealthy kind of competitive. She actually talks bad about other people's kids without having the facts, which turns people off really quick.

She clings onto who she thinks will somehow make her "socially advantaged"; then is in naive shock and awe when people are not there for her or when people realize how shallow she really is. It is ALL about appearances!

So ladies, one moral of the story is that living in the past is NOT advantageous.

I was especially struck by the post that had the insight to know that (PP) was once hot; but is now aging and people (especially women) are treating her differently.

Very insightful!

[Anonymous]

I hope no one hates me. I would be devastated if they did. I'm the kind of person who wants to please others.

[Anonymous]

People (men and women) initially hate me because I'm fat. Once they get to know me, they like me okay.

However when I was thin and beautiful, women didn't hate me because I'm a really nice person. Well, some women hated me because their boyfriends wanted to dork me. LOL

[Anonymous]

Do all women hate other women with big boobs?

I have a friend that is cute (not gorgeous, but cute). When I'm walking with her at the mall or something, I notice other women give her really bad looks. It just makes the other women look bad (instead of my friend). Funny!

[Anonymous]

I take that as a YES!