Ring Size Debate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, ask your girlfriend. I was great working on finding the ring with my DH and didn't care about a surprise proposal with a ring. He proposed first, we looked for a ring second.

My friend's fiance asked me what kind of ring I thought she wanted--I told him she definitely didn't want one that cost 3 months worth of salary and that she would appreciate going together to pick one out. And that's what they did, and she was thrilled.

We were in our late 20s and early 30s, so not 22 year olds.

+1 Best case scenario is that she wears it daily for life. Let her have some input. The chances of you getting it exactly right are not high.
Check out the Pricescope forum. They are the experts and will give excellent advice if you post there.

[Anonymous]

It's a gift. Choose one that you think she will love.

The notion of "upgrading" is ridiculous. That makes it no longer a gift.

[Anonymous]

The only people I know with 2 carat rings are people who had family diamonds to be passed down.

None of my friends have a DH who purchased a new 2+ carat diamond.

And I have friends all over the map financially. Some that make $500k plus and some that make $80k.

[Anonymous]

Pick the specific diamond that sparkles/looks the best, regardless of cut, colour, clarity (just make sure it's eye-clean)- or even carat size. A smaller diamond may or may not be prettier. For your sizes stated- you are talking less than a MM of difference- not in ANY way noticeable.

[Anonymous]

I think 1.5 carats is fine since you’re going with a solitaire band.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1.5 is a really nice size.
2 might tip into gawdy.
What are the other stats on the rings.
Size isn’t everything.

OP here. The ring I’m looking at is 1.5 carats. Ideal cut, F color, and VVS1 clarity.

Sounds beautiful. Personally, I’d rather have 1.98 carats f color VS1. More bang for your buck.

I’m married and my husband and I both agree with this. Get the largest diamond you can get that is eye clean and a good color. There are very few instances where people will be comparing diamonds side by side. The carat size counts the most. Shrinkage where your diamond looks smaller after a while is also real. If the difference in carat size and cost is minimal, it doesn’t hurt to go bigger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Buy the ring you want to buy. I bought my wife a 1.8 carat ring and we have not yet met a friend or coworker with a larger one. We make good money and could have easily gone bigger but I’m really glad we didn’t. There have been several awkward moments where one or the other of us has felt like it is too big or showy (eg her bosses boss has a smaller ring)

What?!

My ring is 2.5 ct and it's on the smaller side when compared to others in my circle. But we don't go around comparing, it's just something I've noticed. It also really has no bearing on income or wealth. How could there be awkward moments? I think you're imagining this.

My next ring (upgrade) will be 3 ct. Five year anniversary coming up so maybe we'll upgrade for that.

Oh, inb4 someone calls me fat- I'm a size 0 or 2. I have long slender fingers (ring size 5). This comes up on every thread about carat size. 2 ct is not gaudy!

You seem a little defensive about your ring and like an incredibly insecure person, but....

that's great that you're wealthy and have wealthy friends and are so materialistic that you look at other people's rings and compare them to your own on the sly. Really, really great. Good for you, OP. Like, really good for you.


(hopefully that made you feel a little bit better about yourself, sounds like you need it). And if your husband buying you a bigger ring helps you feel even MORE better about yourself, then go for it, by all means. Whatever makes you feel a little more confident in yourself, sounds good to me. It makes me sad that you're this insecure, honestly.

You're making some huge leaps and gross generalizations while being unnecessarily rude to an internet stranger on an anonymous board. Please do look in the mirror, I can see your ugliness from here. You calling someone else insecure is the height of hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Ask her what she wants.

I wanted 2 carats, I got 2 carats. I love my ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1.5 is a really nice size.
2 might tip into gawdy.
What are the other stats on the rings.
Size isn’t everything.

OP here. The ring I’m looking at is 1.5 carats. Ideal cut, F color, and VVS1 clarity.

OP that is more than fine.

If she is not over the moon with that, she's not the person you want to marry.

[Anonymous]

Like someone said it comes down to hand size really. I have small hands/thin size 4 ring finger and I think my ring is 1.5 and it’s perfect. On a bigger hand it might look small. Also. for what it’s worth, at 40 years old I don’t know what any of my friends’ rings even look like or care honestly. People only notice/care when you’re first engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like someone said it comes down to hand size really. I have small hands/thin size 4 ring finger and I think my ring is 1.5 and it’s perfect. On a bigger hand it might look small. Also. for what it’s worth, at 40 years old I don’t know what any of my friends’ rings even look like or care honestly. People only notice/care when you’re first engaged.

I am also a size 4 but have a 1ct and am happy with this size. I’m sure 1.5 would look lovely but, at some point, I do think a stone much larger would start to look like costume jewelry. Honestly though, I told my husband exactly what I wanted and it’s pretty much what he proposed with. If you have any doubts maybe you can talk to your gf directly about what her dream ring would look like (metal, stone size etc).

[Anonymous]

1.5 is perfect. I personally would not want two.

But be aware it is possible your girlfriend has told her best friend what she wants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her what she wants.

I wanted 2 carats, I got 2 carats. I love my ring.

I agree with this. You should ask her so she gets the ring she wants. That said, a 1.5 carat diamond is a very decently sized stone.

[Anonymous]

Get her the ring you think she'd like.

Though I agree with the poster who doesn't understand why it needs to be a surprise, go together, let her pick it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy the ring you want to buy. I bought my wife a 1.8 carat ring and we have not yet met a friend or coworker with a larger one. We make good money and could have easily gone bigger but I’m really glad we didn’t. There have been several awkward moments where one or the other of us has felt like it is too big or showy (eg her bosses boss has a smaller ring)

You’re imagining the awkwardness. No one is looking at your wife’s ring.