Ring Size Debate
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Anonymous
+100 The most important choice is the partner, not the jewel! She is the true Diamond in the rough, demonstrate that you understand it however is most meaningful to you two. Wish you the best! |
Anonymous
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What finger size does she have? A 1.5 carat on a size 3 finger looks different than a 1.5 carat on a size 6.
What industry or social circle is she in? Consider whether a ring too large may be inappropriate for her workplace. Can you return or swap the ring? Some places allow a 30-day refund or exchange policy. If you can afford a 2 carat ring or 1.75-1.8c ring, and you can exchange it, I would go bigger and let her decide if she wants to go smaller. If you can’t afford a larger ring, then there’s no question, just get her what you can afford and she’ll love it. |
Anonymous
And a sad one. |
Anonymous
| Either of these would raise serious questions for me about your judgment. |
Anonymous
Sounds beautiful. Personally, I’d rather have 1.98 carats f color VS1. More bang for your buck. |
Anonymous
Yes! |
Anonymous
#projection. The only person who thinks this scenario is awkward = you. I’m sure her boss’s boss could’ve afforded a much bigger ring, but everyone has different financial priorities / things they care about. One of the reasons why I’m so glad I left the Midwest after living there for a few years was that everyone there thinks “bigger is better,” and that’s just not my scene. DC is much more understated. Millionaires driving twenty year old Volvos are my people. |
Anonymous
| When I was searching for rings to propose 17 years ago, I got input directly from her. She wanted 2.0 carats, which implied that she might be one of those high maintenance, spoiled, type of wife, even though her personality was/is exactly the opposite. I got her the ring she wanted, and we remain madly in love to this day. She is hotter than ever and I can't get enough of her. The ring was a great investment and as long as she is happy, I could care less what anybody thinks. |
Anonymous
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10 carats.
Or go home. |
Anonymous
Same! |
Anonymous
Hidden halos are VERY fashionable, though. Funny enough, my ring from 10+ years ago has a hidden halo. I started a trend, LOL |
Anonymous
You seem a little defensive about your ring and like an incredibly insecure person, but.... that's great that you're wealthy and have wealthy friends and are so materialistic that you look at other people's rings and compare them to your own on the sly. Really, really great. Good for you, OP. Like, really good for you. (hopefully that made you feel a little bit better about yourself, sounds like you need it). And if your husband buying you a bigger ring helps you feel even MORE better about yourself, then go for it, by all means. Whatever makes you feel a little more confident in yourself, sounds good to me. It makes me sad that you're this insecure, honestly. |
Anonymous
Seriously! I'm in my 40s and don't even wear my rings anymore because my fingers got bigger after my second child and I haven't gotten around to resizing them yet. I'm the one who chose my ring together with my husband. According to the shop I bought it at, it's still a one of a kind, the designer has never made the same ring for anyone else. That makes me so happy! |
Anonymous
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OP, ask your girlfriend. I was great working on finding the ring with my DH and didn't care about a surprise proposal with a ring. He proposed first, we looked for a ring second.
My friend's fiance asked me what kind of ring I thought she wanted--I told him she definitely didn't want one that cost 3 months worth of salary and that she would appreciate going together to pick one out. And that's what they did, and she was thrilled. We were in our late 20s and early 30s, so not 22 year olds. |
Anonymous
Completely agree with the above! - a woman who adores gemstones and collects jewelry |