When/how do Holton girls socialize with boys?

[Anonymous]

08:33 here. Just go to YouTube.com and type in "freak dancing" to see some videos of upper-school and middle-school students simulating sex on the dance floor.

I don't know of any school- sponsored MIDDLE-school dance where freak-dancing is tolerated. The dance I described was a private birthday party to which all 8th-graders at a boys' school and its sister school were invited and that was hosted by the birthday boy's parents at a private location.

I WILL be keeping my eyes and ears open to learn whether freak-dancing is going on at middle-school dances at my son's school and its sister school. Until I see or hear of a school-sponsored dance at which freak-dancing is allowed, I won't post the school's name. If I do knwo of one, I will post the school's name.

[Anonymous]

For several years in and after college, I dated seriously a Holton girl (and got to know her family and friends -- guys and girls -- very well).

- First, she loved the school and seemed to have a very tight knit group of girl friends.
- Boys she knew well were all from Landon. Landon was their "brother" school and they had dances with Landon boys.
- Many of the boys/girls got to know each other better during summers at the beach (Bethany/Rehoboth) and at the Chevy Chase Club.
- My sense was that the school was competitive, in academics and academics, but also in wearing nice clothes, who went where for vacation, who was getting it on with the cadre of the best guys at Landon (read: well-off, athletic, good looking).
- I recall the girls joking how they used to give their Landon boyfriends BJs on the sports fields/bleachers on dance-nights, something they'd refer to as "going to play lacrosse."

[Anonymous]

Our daughters need to know that dating-for-status is a bad idea. At girls' schools (and at coed schools, too) girls compete for certain boys in order to attain social status. It's a game for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our daughters need to know that dating-for-status is a bad idea. At girls' schools (and at coed schools, too) girls compete for certain boys in order to attain social status. It's a game for them.

That is how dating works in general for many people and they are just practicing and important life skill.

[Anonymous]

OMG. Dating for status is an important life skill?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, my kid went to Holton. She's gorgeous and is now at an Ivy. Any kid who went to Holton and did at least half-way decent there didn't have time to do anything but school and sports or music/drama.

[Anonymous]

Good to hear this. I bet that your daughter's not getting involved with dating-for-status is a big factor in her getting into a good school. I think middle school is, as a PP said, hyper-sexualized and children are emulating adult dating too early. I hope my son doesn't date until he 35 -- just kidding!

[Anonymous]

You're right pp. The good girls don't have time for all of this foolishness. Some of the moms posting here seem like they want their girls to socialize more than they want them to do well in school. I hope I'm either reading the posts wrong or trolls are writing these crazy things.

[Anonymous]

Yep