If you had two under two and then had a third

[Anonymous]

In terms of children getting along, a lot depends on personality and interests, and you have little control over those, so my advice is to do what makes sense to you and not focus on what the right age gaps are for kids. There is a 16- month gap between my mother and her sister and between and my brother and me. As children, my mother and aunt never got along and fought constantly, while my brother and I were best friends. As teens, my mother and aunt grew closer and have been best friends throughout adulthood, while my brother and I drifted apart and are less close in adulthood. At least one poster here reports that her older two are close and her much younger 3rd feels left out. But in my family, my 3 are 25, 23, and 18, and the younger two are the closest (and have been for years). So there's just no telling.

For me, i could not even contemplate a 3rd until my second was almost 4, so that's what worked for us. I also think it was good for my middle child that we waited. I found that the time when it was hard juggling a little one while keeping the older two entertained were pretty short.

[Anonymous]

19 months between #1 and #2 and two years between #2 and #3 so I had three under four-years-old at one point.

It’s great now that they’re 6, 4 and 2 but it was so hard when #3 was a baby. I needed help and got a great nanny even though I stay-at-home.