That answer will not forthcoming.. OP will not want to "out" herself of her kid |
I 100% agree with this. OP does not come across bitter or jealous. She is merely making the point that people ignorantly get so caught up in school prestige, and many times the outcome is not much better than going to a school with lower prestige. I always tell people to look at school outcomes with ra grads to getting jobs and starting salaries. Graduating engineers from Cornell are not doing much better than graduating engineers from UMD. |
UMd engineering is an elite program so bad example. |
Would you mind sharing what year your child is and/or at least the summer salary you’re talking about. If we’re talking $5k to $10k for an upper classman, I’ll say that’s not really that remarkable. However, if they offered him in the $15k to $20k range, yes, strong offer. |
I totally could have dated the founder of Dropbox or Facebook but they were both alouf and not that easy to talk to. But I know them and totally proud of their accomplishments.
I also make over 300K per year so no regrets on my degree. |
DP. $20k+ for summer is not unusual from ivies in CS. |
Rising junior. Well it’s hourly plus bonuses. 3 months... $32/hr do my quick hourly calc $16K plus bonuses. |
Lol no one is proud that Facebook exists |
My DD got accepted to Cornell this week. The wait period allow us to have more insight of some of recent alumni, and she decided not to attend “suicide school”!
We also watched “college admissions” on Netflix (highly recommend for those who are still deciding)! |
No offense, every elite school has major issues with suicide. I had a friend commit suicide by jumping off a bridge. They didn't find his body for 6 months and he didn't leave a note. To this day, everyone wishes we could have done something. He was the first death in many years, but the history is gruesome. Lighting themselves on fire, jumping off buildings, you name it. |
I’m sensing some regrets! I think this is an interesting topic. One of my kids is at a HYPSM school, and not getting a better education than another that is at an excellent T30 school (or their friend at UMD). But he definitely has more friends who are the children of billionaires and multi-millionaires. Seems kind of funny to care so much about status for your kids’ education if you have already demonstrated to the world every which way that you’ve made it, but maybe they just see the school as another luxury good? |
What does elite mean here?
Harvard, MIT, Stanford, and perhaps Princeton & Yale are elite. Cornell, Vanderbilt, Dartmouth, Northwestern, Duke, etc. etc. are not. And yes, even Harvard/MIT/Stanford/Princeton/Yale won't give your kid a $150k job, wealthy spouse (a 1950's reason to go to a elite school, but okay), and a wealthy, highly-connected friend group off the bat. And thank god for that. The purpose of top schools is to have top professors and top students to learn from and compete with, and improve oneself in the process. Not a $150k job, wealthy spouse and highly-connected wealthy network. What these schools do provide beyond the education though is a pedigree that lasts through 40+ years of one's careers, and certainly can come in handy down the line - if you want to use it. As for the rest - Cornell, Vanderbilt, Dartmouth, Northwestern, Duke, etc., most people do not view these schools to be more "elite" than top state flagships like Berkeley, Michigan, etc. Most will consider these students to either be wealthy dumb kids (too dumb for HYPSM) or top middle-class kids, the same that attend top flagships. |
+1 |
Look at this hot take. Did you even go to college? 😂🤣😂 |
These days I hear the big leagues are a better bet for grad school- when all the palm greasing and gifts for undergrads are out of the way. For a first year she should still be very proud she got there on her own, and by soph- jr year it will be a different landscape. Not to mention even the best of them could not offer half the experience it would be without a pandemic. PS plenty of freshmen just hate their first year no matter what- and when they transfer inevitably the next place seems better |