If you went to an Ivy

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Anonymous wrote:Double Ivy here—wouldn’t get into either one today.

OP here. Good point! But that wasn't the issue - that never came up. The issue was about DC applying/wanting to apply/etc. (not necessarily whether DC would be accepted). When I made it clear that DC is not interested and that we had visited, there was not much left to say about it, yet it was still brought up repeatedly, which is the odd part.

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Anonymous wrote:We clearly travel in different circles. Some of my friends were also Ivy people, some not. No one projects our experiences onto the next generation.

Find better friends.

OP here. This is actually where I was going with my question. If I said “no, she visited and is not interested” (which is true), shouldn’t that be enough? I actually have no idea whether she would be admitted IF she applied. She is a strong student, but she is not applying. I feel like it is somehow more important to the “friend” than me - or even DC! I suspected it might have been malicious, in a not so passive aggressive manner.

Who keeps asking such a question and why? Weird.

That would be off-putting. You can tell when a person is asking from place of malice and intends to gossip about your child, and it is sad.

OP here. I think so, too. I guess I was trying to deny that it was malicious, so I wanted to know what other people thought. Our family is happy when our friends get into the college that they wanted, and that fit them the best. Am I being unreasonable? What kind of parent does that - are they just a gossip or worse? It doesn't seem very friend-like to me, and maybe I tend to think that people are good, or at least not malicious, so it is baffling.

OP, I would also say that you have the experience that other's here don't, past experiences, body language, voice inflection etc....I would say if this individual has been catty in your other experiences than probably malice, if a good enough relationship that you call them a friend than maybe a lapse in judgement and disregard and call them on it if it happens again.

I am wondering what else I have "overlooked", because DH says I am generous, in that regard.

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Anonymous wrote:No, my husband's bad genes diluted our child's IQ to the point that it is not feasible or attainable. On a serious note, never comes up and I wouldn't engage in the conversation if it did.

Diluted it from what to what?

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No push from friends and family to have kids attend alma mater. Maybe because we are older parents and our friends and relatives have had their kids go thru the college application experience already.