AFrican American Son in Private/Independent School

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

Lol! Whoever said this is definitely black. We have to be the only people that have said this for decades!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White girls at Congressional School apparently just made videos in southern belle style civil war dressed— would love to know more before I comment further.

Saw this on their feed and was a freaked by the photos. I am no education expert but would not want my kiddo dressed up and pretending to be Scarlet O'Hara regardless of her skin tone. I hope there is some great contextual learning going on beyond the dressing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look for a school with a diverse leadership team.

Yup. Also look for school that emphasizes participation and fun. Black boys are always more aggressively punished for “disruptive behavior” so look for schools where kids are more free to be rambunctious.

+1 happend to my son who has never even had a note, email, or negative call about him, but was labeled as aggressive by someone. The person was unable to give 1 supporting statement for this.

OP I commend you for trying to research the topic. Studies show that parents paying for tuition may have skewed answers toward accepting the school. Have you read the black at each school on instagram from a students point of view?

@blackatmaret
@blackatpotomac
@blackatsidwell
@blackatbullis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look for a school with a diverse leadership team.

Yup. Also look for school that emphasizes participation and fun. Black boys are always more aggressively punished for “disruptive behavior” so look for schools where kids are more free to be rambunctious.

+1 happend to my son who has never even had a note, email, or negative call about him, but was labeled as aggressive by someone. The person was unable to give 1 supporting statement for this.

OP I commend you for trying to research the topic. Studies show that parents paying for tuition may have skewed answers toward accepting the school. Have you read the black at each school on instagram from a students point of view?

@blackatmaret
@blackatpotomac
@blackatsidwell
@blackatbullis

Yes it is those pages that have scared me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

Lol! Whoever said this is definitely black. We have to be the only people that have said this for decades!

Right! Pretty sure I said this yesterday

[Anonymous]

@blacksatstpats sealed the deal for me. I withdrew my app

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@blacksatstpats sealed the deal for me. I withdrew my app

Really? I've heard that St Pats has been making a concerted effort to address issues. A lot of the parents I've spoken with have had good experiences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look for a school with a diverse leadership team.

Yup. Also look for school that emphasizes participation and fun. Black boys are always more aggressively punished for “disruptive behavior” so look for schools where kids are more free to be rambunctious.

+1 happend to my son who has never even had a note, email, or negative call about him, but was labeled as aggressive by someone. The person was unable to give 1 supporting statement for this.

OP I commend you for trying to research the topic. Studies show that parents paying for tuition may have skewed answers toward accepting the school. Have you read the black at each school on instagram from a students point of view?

@blackatmaret
@blackatpotomac
@blackatsidwell
@blackatbullis

Could this be the social media equivalent of vandalism? These are teenagers we are talking about. Maybe. Could be mischievous white kids, maybe adults. ANONYMOUS rabblerousers. Fiction writers. Do not believe everything you read on the internet. There is a welcoming audience for this sort of noise.

[Anonymous]

Not a popular answer, but your son will be much happier and better adjusted if he focuses on being a student and a member of the school community instead of being narcissistically self-obsessed with his and other’s race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

Lol! Whoever said this is definitely black. We have to be the only people that have said this for decades!

Right! Pretty sure I said this yesterday

That was me. Yes, I’m AA. My mother said it continuously when I came home in tears from my private all girls’ HS where I was one of at most seven Black students over four years. Being Black in a predominantly white institution is one thing. Dealing with someone of your own race who collaborates in anti-Black actions is a whole other level. I would absolutely love to sit and have coffee with her today to find out if she did it as a survival strategy or she really thought the jokes and race-based pranks were okay. Unfortunately, my two youngest also had similar experiences in private (one in Atlanta in MS, one in the DMV in late ES) so I found my mother’s voice leaving my mouth as I tried to help them cope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look for a school with a diverse leadership team.

Yup. Also look for school that emphasizes participation and fun. Black boys are always more aggressively punished for “disruptive behavior” so look for schools where kids are more free to be rambunctious.

+1 happend to my son who has never even had a note, email, or negative call about him, but was labeled as aggressive by someone. The person was unable to give 1 supporting statement for this.

OP I commend you for trying to research the topic. Studies show that parents paying for tuition may have skewed answers toward accepting the school. Have you read the black at each school on instagram from a students point of view?

@blackatmaret
@blackatpotomac
@blackatsidwell
@blackatbullis

Could this be the social media equivalent of vandalism? These are teenagers we are talking about. Maybe. Could be mischievous white kids, maybe adults. ANONYMOUS rabblerousers. Fiction writers. Do not believe everything you read on the internet. There is a welcoming audience for this sort of noise.

Matches what people have discussed privately in person for years and years. Matches formal complaints that some families have made to administrators.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:@blacksatstpats sealed the deal for me. I withdrew my app

Really? I've heard that St Pats has been making a concerted effort to address issues. A lot of the parents I've spoken with have had good experiences.

They are trying but still have a lonnnngggggg way to go.

[Anonymous]

I'd recommend checking into Woods Academy. There are a number of young AA men there. My daughter has had no issues in three years.

IMO, the people that have the most issues are the ones that depend on the school community for socialization and acceptance. My daughter has school friends and hangs out with them when time permits. Our socialization and friends are beyond school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a popular answer, but your son will be much happier and better adjusted if he focuses on being a student and a member of the school community instead of being narcissistically self-obsessed with his and other’s race.

Exhibit A for all the worried parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black son at GDS and we have been happy.

+1
Lots of black admin and teachers as well.