AFrican American Son in Private/Independent School

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A bit further out, but Sandy Spring Friends School can be a good choice for African American children. The new Head of School is looking to improve on what is already there.

The new head is a national leader on diversity and inclusion issues. He's amazing.

[Anonymous]

Hi all, OP here. I’m new to the private/independent school world. Please no abbreviations when sharing the schools, I’m still trying to figure them out

[Anonymous]

We like GDS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi all, OP here. I’m new to the private/independent school world. Please no abbreviations when sharing the schools, I’m still trying to figure them out

If you don’t know them, look them up and get familiar.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have black son at NPS. I was worried when he started at PreK. He’s in 4th grade and it has been an amazing experience for him. No issues.

Or at least none he’s shared with you. Kids often try to protect their parents.

Oh my son is very expressive. If there was an issue, I would know. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

Really, ok Tamika. I don't even know why the above statement would invoke this type of response. Sometime we are the worse to each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

I was a confident child who had to deal with racism and micro aggression. No matter the confidence, that takes a toll. Trying to avoid that for a child makes sense.

OP I’m also interested to hear from parents about this topic. [/quote

My children have came across some micro aggression and directly dealt with it back. My children came from DCPS and heard far worse. Doesn't make it ok, but just another day and opportunity to let others know your boundaries.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

This isn't the place for this conversation. If you want advice, I would seek it out from your circle or ask to speak with black folks at those schools. Of course, this statement "[I]f you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school" isn't true. But, PP, I'm glad your sons are thriving.

[Anonymous]

I am not AA or even American but my kids are in private schools and, being foreigners and definitely on the bottom rung of socioeconomic levels at these schools, I am quite attuned to how diversity is approached. All the schools tout their diversity programs, make sure 'diverse' kids grace the covers of their marketing products, and do genuinely welcome POC but I would really pay attention to how many AA faculty members they have and how many black or brown faces you see when you tour the schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

One of the worst things you can do is come back and cuss out the same group of people from whom you’ve asked for help. I know this is emotional for you, but you need to calm down. Your goal is to gather information, not shut this down. Ignore the trolls- 1st rule of DCUM. It would also help if you did some personal research on independent schools in the area. There is a lot of info out there. Know the acronyms and read about the different heads of the schools (HOS). It will help you narrow things down considerably.
SSFS has one of the best HOSs in the area. They’re far out, but may be a great choice. Good luck with your search.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

One of the worst things you can do is come back and cuss out the same group of people from whom you’ve asked for help. I know this is emotional for you, but you need to calm down. Your goal is to gather information, not shut this down. Ignore the trolls- 1st rule of DCUM. It would also help if you did some personal research on independent schools in the area. There is a lot of info out there. Know the acronyms and read about the different heads of the schools (HOS). It will help you narrow things down considerably.
SSFS has one of the best HOSs in the area. They’re far out, but may be a great choice. Good luck with your search.

This is NOT the person who started the thread you are replying to, it is the person whose kids are at SFS and people accused them of not being Black. Reason to be ticked in my opinion.

Can you all just STOP and get back to helping that family that posted find a good place to look at for their kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

One of the worst things you can do is come back and cuss out the same group of people from whom you’ve asked for help. I know this is emotional for you, but you need to calm down. Your goal is to gather information, not shut this down. Ignore the trolls- 1st rule of DCUM. It would also help if you did some personal research on independent schools in the area. There is a lot of info out there. Know the acronyms and read about the different heads of the schools (HOS). It will help you narrow things down considerably.
SSFS has one of the best HOSs in the area. They’re far out, but may be a great choice. Good luck with your search.

This is NOT the person who started the thread you are replying to, it is the person whose kids are at SFS and people accused them of not being Black. Reason to be ticked in my opinion.

Can you all just STOP and get back to helping that family that posted find a good place to look at for their kids.

Sorry, OP- I didn’t realize there had been a threadjack.
I stand by my advice to OP. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

This isn't the place for this conversation. If you want advice, I would seek it out from your circle or ask to speak with black folks at those schools. Of course, this statement "[I]f you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school" isn't true. But, PP, I'm glad your sons are thriving.

And that's where you are wrong. Too much goes unchecked on this blog. Choose to step out there with ignorance if you want and don't be surprised when you are addressed with truth.

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Anonymous wrote:Both of my AA sons are at SFS lower school and love it. We have been there 4 years and so far no problems. This year the school has stepped up in terms of addressing race and inequality. To be honest, I have no nonsense children who have a strong sense of who they are. If you have a confident child, I am sure they will thrive at any school.

Are you Black?

All skinfolk aren’t kinfolk.

True. To me, it sounded like it was coming from a non-black parent.

I wrote the original post and I am black and my husband is black. WTF is wrong you? Cause we aren't screaming claims of being mistreated my black card is being questioned. GTFOH, I teach my kids to stand up for themselves and confront bullshit like what you and your sidekick here has peddled. But oh yeah, we not kinfolk.

One of the worst things you can do is come back and cuss out the same group of people from whom you’ve asked for help. I know this is emotional for you, but you need to calm down. Your goal is to gather information, not shut this down. Ignore the trolls- 1st rule of DCUM. It would also help if you did some personal research on independent schools in the area. There is a lot of info out there. Know the acronyms and read about the different heads of the schools (HOS). It will help you narrow things down considerably.
SSFS has one of the best HOSs in the area. They’re far out, but may be a great choice. Good luck with your search.

This is NOT the person who started the thread you are replying to, it is the person whose kids are at SFS and people accused them of not being Black. Reason to be ticked in my opinion.

Can you all just STOP and get back to helping that family that posted find a good place to look at for their kids.

+1 Definite reason to be ticked.