Is Zoom learning having an effect on our children’s mental health?

[Anonymous]

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mine prefers to stay home DL because they are snacks he can eat, jumping around at time, watch youtube videos at off time, wake up later, school end earlier etc.... Working parents do not have time for him, so he entertains himself with a lot of videos and TV every day. And, we used to put him at before care & after care school.

It is really unhealthy

God bless you for being honest. The things my kids like about distance learning are not necessarily great for them in the long run. (The snacks! My god, the snacks!)

Yes, NP, mine are exactly the same way, down to the jumping, snacks and way too many "funny animals" videos on Youtube. (1st and 3rd.) Sure, in a manner of speaking, they're "thriving." But they haven't learned sh#t. And their SEL skills have bottomed out. And that's with a much-loved college-age babysitter keeping them on task, parents making them turn in all class/homework, AND a (1x week) tutor. So sure, they "prefer" it, but is it hardly educational, and 90% of what they've learned is not from MCPS, but from reading such esteemed classics as Bad Kitty, Dog Man and Diary of a Wimpy Kid (/s) and Dad drilling them on multiplication tables at dinner.

We'll be going back March 15.

You want them to read other things? Give them to them. Read them too and discuss them.

I don't get the learned helplessness of so many parents here. One woman (you could practically hear the melodramatic tears in her typing) a while back said they need to open school buildings because her kids (oh, the horror!) ARE WATCHING TV WHEN THEY SHOULDN'T BE? Oh, if only there were solutions for these earth-shaking first world problems?

Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

uniformly negative, really? You don't know any kids who are doing just fine?

[Anonymous]

My teens are doing fine. They chose to remain virtual for the final quarter when they could have chosen hybrid.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine are fine with zoom. They are flexible. They understand we are in a major health pandemic and have really good teachers this year which to them is far more important than in person vs. zoom. The relaxed pace between school and activities has been nice. Much less rushing around, able to eat together and much more has been a bonus. We are surprised how well things like music lessons are working via zoom. We have given them comfortable spaces with all the gadgets to make them successful and are available to provide support.

My kids are flexible too and we haven’t brought them up to be special snowflakes who need the world bent to them. However one of my kids is thriving and the other is failing. It’s not a parenting issue here, his needs are just vastly different. I’m glad your kids are doing well, but there are a lot who are not and it’s very very scary to those of us who had good students now failing.

+1

The idea that we should just ‘teach our kids resilience’ and ‘they’ll be fine’ is so blunt and lacking empathy. Just looking at the adults in our house, my DH could stay in the house for a year and not care at all. I, on the other hand, am really struggling with my mental health due to this isolation. Some of this is just the way people are wired.

Thank you for backing me up. It hurts when people are easy to judge things that are not in our control.

My DH has no problem stay in the house for a year, and I think he only has stepped out of the door for about 10 times (for drive thru carry out, buy liquor from liquor store, and walk a few times outside) in a year. I am the one handling with 2 young kids and mentally insane want to keep a balance of letting them have some happy time outdoors vs staying home to protect them from covid. My youngest one is scared of all strangers & new environment, and my oldest one wants to go to all the places. We make a bucket list what to do once there is covid free, and I want to give him some hope to dream for. He is sad that some places that he used to love to go to is out of business already. I don't want them to go to farm because who knows if animals or pets has covid as well.

Girl, bye.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kid. Many have a positive impact as they don’t have to deal with any school bullies or students that act up and consume all of the teachers time because you can’t just ignore a kid that’s throwing sh*t or yelling or screaming. Online we can hit mute or kick students off and let the adult watching them deal with that fun.

[Anonymous]

Your DH has only left your house ten times in a year?

You and he both need serious therapy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

mine prefers to stay home DL because they are snacks he can eat, jumping around at time, watch youtube videos at off time, wake up later, school end earlier etc.... Working parents do not have time for him, so he entertains himself with a lot of videos and TV every day. And, we used to put him at before care & after care school.

It is really unhealthy

God bless you for being honest. The things my kids like about distance learning are not necessarily great for them in the long run. (The snacks! My god, the snacks!)

Yes, NP, mine are exactly the same way, down to the jumping, snacks and way too many "funny animals" videos on Youtube. (1st and 3rd.) Sure, in a manner of speaking, they're "thriving." But they haven't learned sh#t. And their SEL skills have bottomed out. And that's with a much-loved college-age babysitter keeping them on task, parents making them turn in all class/homework, AND a (1x week) tutor. So sure, they "prefer" it, but is it hardly educational, and 90% of what they've learned is not from MCPS, but from reading such esteemed classics as Bad Kitty, Dog Man and Diary of a Wimpy Kid (/s) and Dad drilling them on multiplication tables at dinner.

We'll be going back March 15.

You want them to read other things? Give them to them. Read them too and discuss them.

I don't get the learned helplessness of so many parents here. One woman (you could practically hear the melodramatic tears in her typing) a while back said they need to open school buildings because her kids (oh, the horror!) ARE WATCHING TV WHEN THEY SHOULDN'T BE? Oh, if only there were solutions for these earth-shaking first world problems?

Pathetic.

+1

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Democrats certainly don’t, but they’ve been stoking the fires of fear the past four years. I’m surprised anyone who bought into it made it this far without hurting themselves.

[Anonymous]

Zoom alone? Not a problem for MH. Zoom for a full school day in the midst of a pandemic, when you have had family members die of COVId and your dad is on the frontline? And you see your friends' family members galavanting around like it's 2019?Yeah, it's going to be a MH impact, but can't be solely atributed to zoom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is horrible for my children. So unethical that, as a society, we’ve decided kids don’t matter.

Except we have decided they matter which is why we are doing it online because of the health pandemic we are in the middle of.

My DC is borderline ADHD, no official diagnosis yet, as he is too young for meds anyhow. He has the energy of a race horse. I can guarantee you wouldn’t have this same attitude if your child had a learning disability or was beyond hyperactive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mine are fine with zoom. They are flexible. They understand we are in a major health pandemic and have really good teachers this year which to them is far more important than in person vs. zoom. The relaxed pace between school and activities has been nice. Much less rushing around, able to eat together and much more has been a bonus. We are surprised how well things like music lessons are working via zoom. We have given them comfortable spaces with all the gadgets to make them successful and are available to provide support.

So you keep telling them.

Mine prefer staying at home. But, we all enjoy each others company. It really helps getting alone with your devoted parents in wanting to be home or in person during a pandemic. Maybe you should change what's going on in your home if its not working.

Haha...my child is literally bouncing off the walls. He is an animal, a very bright animal, but he wasn’t built for sedentary activities. In person school was much more interactive and engaging, it wasn’t perfect, but he was fine. This is an entirely different situation, he cries every day, is not focused at all. Somehow getting good grades....He is bored to tears though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, my kids are fine with zoom and they are young. It’s probably be better because my eldest has ADHD and has trouble focusing in class. It’s much better for her to not be distracted or causing disruptions in class.

I find the opposite to be true. My DC is bored with Zoom, it’s not stimulating not challenging not healthy. Kids need and crave direct in person conversation and relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

mine prefers to stay home DL because they are snacks he can eat, jumping around at time, watch youtube videos at off time, wake up later, school end earlier etc.... Working parents do not have time for him, so he entertains himself with a lot of videos and TV every day. And, we used to put him at before care & after care school.

It is really unhealthy

God bless you for being honest. The things my kids like about distance learning are not necessarily great for them in the long run. (The snacks! My god, the snacks!)

Yes, NP, mine are exactly the same way, down to the jumping, snacks and way too many "funny animals" videos on Youtube. (1st and 3rd.) Sure, in a manner of speaking, they're "thriving." But they haven't learned sh#t. And their SEL skills have bottomed out. And that's with a much-loved college-age babysitter keeping them on task, parents making them turn in all class/homework, AND a (1x week) tutor. So sure, they "prefer" it, but is it hardly educational, and 90% of what they've learned is not from MCPS, but from reading such esteemed classics as Bad Kitty, Dog Man and Diary of a Wimpy Kid (/s) and Dad drilling them on multiplication tables at dinner.

We'll be going back March 15.

You want them to read other things? Give them to them. Read them too and discuss them.

I don't get the learned helplessness of so many parents here. One woman (you could practically hear the melodramatic tears in her typing) a while back said they need to open school buildings because her kids (oh, the horror!) ARE WATCHING TV WHEN THEY SHOULDN'T BE? Oh, if only there were solutions for these earth-shaking first world problems?

Pathetic.

This is the exact phrase I was looking for when I was posting in another thread. It's quite pathetic, especially coming from people who claim they are so smart, went to an ivy and make six figure incomes at super important jobs.

And it's literally every ranting post. And most of those rants, whining, issues, or problems can be solved with just 10 seconds of using their brains for problem-solving versus complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is horrible for my children. So unethical that, as a society, we’ve decided kids don’t matter.

When have kids ever mattered? You have lived a charmed life if think this as an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is horrible for my children. So unethical that, as a society, we’ve decided kids don’t matter.

Teachers are allowed to care more about their health and well being than your child's education. In fact, if they cared more about your child's education than their own health and safety then there would be a problem with them.

We expect teachers to value their students as if they are their mothers. People have a visceral reaction to the women who dominate elementary education reminding them that teaching is, in fact, a job.

+1.

Another reason why more men are needed in the profession.