Crappy teacher said something negative to my child and now she's checked out of class

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher said something slightly negative to parent's child while distance learning, parent loses cool

News at 11...

Oh, we're framing "wondering whether to say anything" as losing cool now, while giving teachers a pass and framing "extremely inappropriate" as "slightly negative."

What comment by a teacher could be "extremely inappropriate" and yet not be something that warrants involving the principal's attention?

It' wasn't "extremely inappropriate", it was "inappropriate and unfair way and criticized and acted in a highly disrespectful way towards my child".

But since OP hasn't been back to say what exactly the issue is, let's just move on. No way to tell, and these vague posts are stupid and a waste of time.

Sure. So what comment by a teacher could be ""inappropriate and unfair way and criticized and acted in a highly disrespectful way towards my child"" and yet NOT be something that warrants involving the principal's attention?

[Anonymous]

I suggest you talk to the teacher about the remark "fell flat" and didn't land the way they thought it would.


This was my whole day yesterday. (Yes, I am a loser).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your kid to buck up. That's life. Temper tantrums past age 3 or 4 should not be tolerated.

But inappropriate behavior by the teacher should be tolerated?

Apparently, it isn't bad enough to tell a supervisor about it.

It might just be a too honest comment that slipped past a tired person’s filter. The use of the term
Inappropriate could mean a lot of things that we would say to our own children in an exhausted moment, but don’t think a non-parent should blurt.

I'm tired of hearing all YEAR that we need to allow space for teachers to be real human beings but not kids. She's a fifth grader. She doesn't have perspective. This is an adult teacher. She should have perspective. If she f'd up, she needs to be the one apologizing. Children don't just have to take abuse and inappropriate comments from adults.

You have never taught 5th graders. They are generally allowed space to be real human beings. Sometimes to the detriment of other learners.

I haven’t ever taught 5th, but I’ve written to teachers and principals enough times about disruptive kids in late ES that I suspect OP’s daughter was told to dial down her shenanigans so that others could learn.

The "distracting, bad" kids have every right to school, and perhaps need it even more than our own kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your kid to buck up. That's life. Temper tantrums past age 3 or 4 should not be tolerated.

But inappropriate behavior by the teacher should be tolerated?

Apparently, it isn't bad enough to tell a supervisor about it.

It might just be a too honest comment that slipped past a tired person’s filter. The use of the term
Inappropriate could mean a lot of things that we would say to our own children in an exhausted moment, but don’t think a non-parent should blurt.

I'm tired of hearing all YEAR that we need to allow space for teachers to be real human beings but not kids. She's a fifth grader. She doesn't have perspective. This is an adult teacher. She should have perspective. If she f'd up, she needs to be the one apologizing. Children don't just have to take abuse and inappropriate comments from adults.

You have never taught 5th graders. They are generally allowed space to be real human beings. Sometimes to the detriment of other learners.

I haven’t ever taught 5th, but I’ve written to teachers and principals enough times about disruptive kids in late ES that I suspect OP’s daughter was told to dial down her shenanigans so that others could learn.

The "distracting, bad" kids have every right to school, and perhaps need it even more than our own kids.

But they don't have the right to take away instructional time from other students.

[Anonymous]

Chances are, OP, if you bring it up with the teacher, this person will accuse your DC of lying or having a communication problem. Bring it up to the principal and the teachers will double down and ratchet up the inappropriate behavior. Your best bet is to advise your child to do what she can to say off this teacher’s radar and do her best in class. As long as she can stay on the current academic track in the next grade, this year will be over soon.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your kid to buck up. That's life. Temper tantrums past age 3 or 4 should not be tolerated.

But inappropriate behavior by the teacher should be tolerated?

Apparently, it isn't bad enough to tell a supervisor about it.

It might just be a too honest comment that slipped past a tired person’s filter. The use of the term
Inappropriate could mean a lot of things that we would say to our own children in an exhausted moment, but don’t think a non-parent should blurt.

I'm tired of hearing all YEAR that we need to allow space for teachers to be real human beings but not kids. She's a fifth grader. She doesn't have perspective. This is an adult teacher. She should have perspective. If she f'd up, she needs to be the one apologizing. Children don't just have to take abuse and inappropriate comments from adults.

You have never taught 5th graders. They are generally allowed space to be real human beings. Sometimes to the detriment of other learners.

I haven’t ever taught 5th, but I’ve written to teachers and principals enough times about disruptive kids in late ES that I suspect OP’s daughter was told to dial down her shenanigans so that others could learn.

The "distracting, bad" kids have every right to school, and perhaps need it even more than our own kids.

But they don't have the right to take away instructional time from other students.

Get over it. Some kids need more time than others. That's equitable, not equal.

[Anonymous]

If you can bring it up here but not to the superior of the teacher, then either you are a troll drumming up yet more teacher hate, you are a bad parent and do not care, or you are a coward and is afraid of the teacher or principal. Stand up for your child if something really happened. Or, are you just upset because your dear darling little snowflake Jane did not do what they were supposed to do and got her arse handed to her by the teacher since you could not step up to the plate and do your job as a parent. Hmmm? Which is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can bring it up here but not to the superior of the teacher, then either you are a troll drumming up yet more teacher hate, you are a bad parent and do not care, or you are a coward and is afraid of the teacher or principal. Stand up for your child if something really happened. Or, are you just upset because your dear darling little snowflake Jane did not do what they were supposed to do and got her arse handed to her by the teacher since you could not step up to the plate and do your job as a parent. Hmmm? Which is it?

And this is the response from the teacher who acts this way in front of her students! Proving OP's point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you can bring it up here but not to the superior of the teacher, then either you are a troll drumming up yet more teacher hate, you are a bad parent and do not care, or you are a coward and is afraid of the teacher or principal. Stand up for your child if something really happened. Or, are you just upset because your dear darling little snowflake Jane did not do what they were supposed to do and got her arse handed to her by the teacher since you could not step up to the plate and do your job as a parent. Hmmm? Which is it?

And this is the response from the teacher who acts this way in front of her students! Proving OP's point.

I am not a teacher weirdo. A parent here. So, that is now the replacement for a troll or when someone calls your bluff now, eh? You're s teacher. How 1st grade of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your kid to buck up. That's life. Temper tantrums past age 3 or 4 should not be tolerated.

But inappropriate behavior by the teacher should be tolerated?

Apparently, it isn't bad enough to tell a supervisor about it.

It might just be a too honest comment that slipped past a tired person’s filter. The use of the term
Inappropriate could mean a lot of things that we would say to our own children in an exhausted moment, but don’t think a non-parent should blurt.

I'm tired of hearing all YEAR that we need to allow space for teachers to be real human beings but not kids. She's a fifth grader. She doesn't have perspective. This is an adult teacher. She should have perspective. If she f'd up, she needs to be the one apologizing. Children don't just have to take abuse and inappropriate comments from adults.

You have never taught 5th graders. They are generally allowed space to be real human beings. Sometimes to the detriment of other learners.

I haven’t ever taught 5th, but I’ve written to teachers and principals enough times about disruptive kids in late ES that I suspect OP’s daughter was told to dial down her shenanigans so that others could learn.

The "distracting, bad" kids have every right to school, and perhaps need it even more than our own kids.

But they don't have the right to take away instructional time from other students.

Get over it. Some kids need more time than others. That's equitable, not equal.

More instructional tome or testing time, sure! More time to play and keep others from learning, f@ck no!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your kid to buck up. That's life. Temper tantrums past age 3 or 4 should not be tolerated.

But inappropriate behavior by the teacher should be tolerated?

Apparently, it isn't bad enough to tell a supervisor about it.

It might just be a too honest comment that slipped past a tired person’s filter. The use of the term
Inappropriate could mean a lot of things that we would say to our own children in an exhausted moment, but don’t think a non-parent should blurt.

I'm tired of hearing all YEAR that we need to allow space for teachers to be real human beings but not kids. She's a fifth grader. She doesn't have perspective. This is an adult teacher. She should have perspective. If she f'd up, she needs to be the one apologizing. Children don't just have to take abuse and inappropriate comments from adults.

You have never taught 5th graders. They are generally allowed space to be real human beings. Sometimes to the detriment of other learners.

I haven’t ever taught 5th, but I’ve written to teachers and principals enough times about disruptive kids in late ES that I suspect OP’s daughter was told to dial down her shenanigans so that others could learn.

The "distracting, bad" kids have every right to school, and perhaps need it even more than our own kids.

I would argue that they have the right until they become a distraction, at which point they have forfeited that right (for a time). They can try again next class/period/day/week.