Is this annoying? Daughter’s bf always orders so much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the BF posted here asking for advice, I'd tell him to modify his order practices to fall in line with the rest of your family. But since you posted here, I'm going to tell you to get over it. If he's a nice guy and he is good to your daughter and she's happy with him, this is nothing in the scheme of things.

+1 and if this were a Miss Manners column, I’m not sure whether the gluttonous kid (Lenny!) or the shockingly cheap, dreadfully judgmental, host would come in for more scorn. If you a begrudging someone an extra Chick-fil-A meal and are not desperately poor, you are an embarrassingly ungenerous person. At least the boyfriend is young and has time to learn better manners.

+1

This is how I feel. If you are going to count pennies (or sandwiches) OP, don't bother inviting anyone other than immediate family. He might be a little rude, but you are ten times more rude.

I agree with PP that if you eat out all the time, he might think you have that kind of money. If you don't, better find the stove.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been doing a lot of takeout. We love having our college daughter home but when we order dinner for her bf, he really seems to treat himself. When I got Chick-fil-A the other night, he gets a combo plus another full sandwich. Tonight we are getting Thai and he’s getting an appetizer, entree, and dessert! I mean, I’d love a mango and sticky rice too, but all those extras add up. Is this kind of rude? His order is always the most expensive thing!

I don't understand. Is he coming over to your place in the middle of pandemic?? How stupid is that?

[Anonymous]

If your daughter is embarrassed, she could address it with him. If you are just cheap, stop ordering out or order from less expensive places, although ChikFilA is pretty cheap already.

[Anonymous]

Wow you suck.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you cook? I personally am cheap and that is why we never eat out unless it's our anniversary. I enjoy cooking but DH's son, wife and kids are into meat and potatoes and live on fast food. Thank goodness DH has a wider palate. They don't live with us and the last time they came over to visit, I made some tempeh with Thai curry. The way I see it, it's cheaper and healthier to make your own meals. You need to train visitors to not rely on you for their meals. If they want take-out, they can get it and pay for it themselves. The PPs here who claim that you're begrudging your daughter's BF make it sound like he's going to be her future DH. Probably not and so you need to draw your boundaries and not pay for his share of the takeout if you're not willing to feed him yourself.

[Anonymous]

“We’re just ordering entrees today. Do you want one?”

How difficult is that?

Say what you mean.

[Anonymous]

He fat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you cook? I personally am cheap and that is why we never eat out unless it's our anniversary. I enjoy cooking but DH's son, wife and kids are into meat and potatoes and live on fast food. Thank goodness DH has a wider palate. They don't live with us and the last time they came over to visit, I made some tempeh with Thai curry. The way I see it, it's cheaper and healthier to make your own meals. You need to train visitors to not rely on you for their meals. If they want take-out, they can get it and pay for it themselves. The PPs here who claim that you're begrudging your daughter's BF make it sound like he's going to be her future DH. Probably not and so you need to draw your boundaries and not pay for his share of the takeout if you're not willing to feed him yourself.

+1

We only went out to eat on holidays such as Mother's Day, Father's Day, that kind of thing. Easter, Christmas, and similar my mom made an enormous feast, and there were close friends and neighbors at the house. Even if it was a weeknight, and my friends and I were studying, there is no way my mom would have not offered them to stay for dinner.

OP, what is your issue?

[Anonymous]

He’s not fat or rich but we have more $ than their family. We are dual income feds so not moneybags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SIL does this when we go out to eat. lunch or dinner she will order two entrees and one is for her to take home. Guess who’s not footing the bill. SIL is 50 so be prepared to treat your son in law for life if he and your DD get married.

O m g.

[Anonymous]

Teen boys and grown men can easily eat two sandwiches. I always order my 17 & 19 year old two.

I don’t think you realize how much young adult men eat. They aren’t skinny 20 year old girls or 40-50 year old women. Don’t invite him if you don’t want to pay.

[Anonymous]

How long is he staying and is he able to eat all he wants from your kitchen, or is he expected to eat only when you present meals?

My 24 year old ds is staying with us over the weekend and he eats a LOT. I got food for him to snack in at night and between meals because he has been eating a lot since he was a teen. Boys eat a lot, OP. Your guest really might be hungry if he has been eating only during meals.

When my ds comes to visit, I stock the kitchen with fruit and cut veggies, pasta he can make, eggs, cereal and milk, and chicken breasts. My boy eats a ton, and some days he goes out running, after which he is ravenous. Maybe you can but some food for your daughter’s boyfriend to make when he feels hungry?

[Anonymous]

Suggest that you should take turns cooking.

Your daughter will find out he can't handle himself in the kitchen and will drop him like a hot potato.

Win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Teen boys and grown men can easily eat two sandwiches. I always order my 17 & 19 year old two.

I don’t think you realize how much young adult men eat. They aren’t skinny 20 year old girls or 40-50 year old women. Don’t invite him if you don’t want to pay.

That's true.

[Anonymous]

College age guys eat a lot. If you only have a daughter, it can be shocking. I remember one of my brothers filling up a mixing bowl with spaghetti and meatballs and eating all of it. Maybe offer some cheaper filling items before dinner.