SAHM with nanny - what does she/you do?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s funny how so many people say things like doctors appointments, as if that’s a daily occurrence for most (except SN obviously) or after school activities, without really addressing 8-3 when the kids are in school and what they’re doing....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A full-time nanny with a SAhM is ridiculous. I have three kids, and a spouse who travels a ton. Sure, it’s hard at times, but I’d never get a full-time nanny unless I plan to go back to work some. If you need occasional breaks, I get hiring a babysitter for a few hours here and there.

Finding a one-off babysitter may work for you. Most others prefer to have the same person, and it’s not reasonable to assume that someone will be available whenever you want unless you pay for their time.

[Anonymous]

I have three kids and work outside the home (so does my husband). I have childcare for my children because I can’t care for them while I’m working. I don’t get why mothers who stay at home would need childcare. Sure you have an occasional appointment of what not, but there are not so many regular things that occur during the work day that you would not be able to take care of your kids. The PP who said they need to clean out closets etc, that is 1) infrequent and 2) takes an hour max. I just wish SAHMs who have a full time nanny (or frankly even PT) call a spade a spade — they want to not work and also don’t want to take care of their kids! Look I get it, staying at home with kids all day is daunting, but don’t say you need a nanny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny how so many people say things like doctors appointments, as if that’s a daily occurrence for most (except SN obviously) or after school activities, without really addressing 8-3 when the kids are in school and what they’re doing....

The point is that most sahp with a full time nanny a. have a parent with physical limitations that necessitates having someone else wrangle kids and do things around the house, b. have a parent who wants to things for themself or c. has a parent who wants 1-1 time with kids. In most of those situations, there’s at least one child home full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have a nanny and I'm not a SAHM but I don't find this difficult to imagine at all. 1:1 time with one kid, chores, organizing, etc. I can't watch my kids and, say, purge their outdated clothes at the same time.

Why not? Seems basic. Do you have a disability?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids and work outside the home (so does my husband). I have childcare for my children because I can’t care for them while I’m working. I don’t get why mothers who stay at home would need childcare. Sure you have an occasional appointment of what not, but there are not so many regular things that occur during the work day that you would not be able to take care of your kids. The PP who said they need to clean out closets etc, that is 1) infrequent and 2) takes an hour max. I just wish SAHMs who have a full time nanny (or frankly even PT) call a spade a spade — they want to not work and also don’t want to take care of their kids! Look I get it, staying at home with kids all day is daunting, but don’t say you need a nanny!

+5 million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three kids and work outside the home (so does my husband). I have childcare for my children because I can’t care for them while I’m working. I don’t get why mothers who stay at home would need childcare. Sure you have an occasional appointment of what not, but there are not so many regular things that occur during the work day that you would not be able to take care of your kids. The PP who said they need to clean out closets etc, that is 1) infrequent and 2) takes an hour max. I just wish SAHMs who have a full time nanny (or frankly even PT) call a spade a spade — they want to not work and also don’t want to take care of their kids! Look I get it, staying at home with kids all day is daunting, but don’t say you need a nanny!

+5 million

Yes, more power to them if they can afford it...but really, listing things like "doing the taxes" and "planning vacations" doesn't occupy 40 hrs x 52 weeks a year.