SAHM with nanny - what does she/you do?

[Anonymous]

SAHM friend has a nanny because she wants company. Maybe an hour or two per day the nanny is left alone with the baby so she can exercise or something but even she admits it's because she is lonely. They have $$$$$. Neither SAHM nor nanny cook, clean, do laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SAHM friend has a nanny because she wants company. Maybe an hour or two per day the nanny is left alone with the baby so she can exercise or something but even she admits it's because she is lonely. They have $$$$$. Neither SAHM nor nanny cook, clean, do laundry.

I know a sahm with an au pair bc her DH is gone most of time and she gets lonely and likes having another adult in the home,

[Anonymous]

I would never be a SAHM unless I could have at least a PT nanny. I think it’s nice for siblings to each have their own caregiver, especially if they are a few years apart. So much easier to handle activities and nap schedules! Plus, if I’m giving up the excitement and adult interaction of work, then I sure as hell am going to make time for it during the week, eg exercise classes or coffee/lunch dates. I mean, the life sounds boring overall, but it’s the best option if someone doesn’t like working or has an MIA DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never be a SAHM unless I could have at least a PT nanny. I think it’s nice for siblings to each have their own caregiver, especially if they are a few years apart. So much easier to handle activities and nap schedules! Plus, if I’m giving up the excitement and adult interaction of work, then I sure as hell am going to make time for it during the week, eg exercise classes or coffee/lunch dates. I mean, the life sounds boring overall, but it’s the best option if someone doesn’t like working or has an MIA DH.

This post was basically just a not so veiled way of insulting SAHMs. What do you do that’s so exciting exactly? I WAH and would never describe my work as exciting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM friend has a nanny because she wants company. Maybe an hour or two per day the nanny is left alone with the baby so she can exercise or something but even she admits it's because she is lonely. They have $$$$$. Neither SAHM nor nanny cook, clean, do laundry.

I know a sahm with an au pair bc her DH is gone most of time and she gets lonely and likes having another adult in the home,

I thought that a lot of nannies don't want to work in a home with the parents there all the time. As a parent I would feel strange being around the nanny all day, like we would get in each other's way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM friend has a nanny because she wants company. Maybe an hour or two per day the nanny is left alone with the baby so she can exercise or something but even she admits it's because she is lonely. They have $$$$$. Neither SAHM nor nanny cook, clean, do laundry.

I know a sahm with an au pair bc her DH is gone most of time and she gets lonely and likes having another adult in the home,

I thought that a lot of nannies don't want to work in a home with the parents there all the time. As a parent I would feel strange being around the nanny all day, like we would get in each other's way.

They’re not in each other’s pockets. Nanny is there so sahp can do other things. The few sahp looking for company make it crystal clear, because personality clicking is more important to them than childcare experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM friend has a nanny because she wants company. Maybe an hour or two per day the nanny is left alone with the baby so she can exercise or something but even she admits it's because she is lonely. They have $$$$$. Neither SAHM nor nanny cook, clean, do laundry.

I know a sahm with an au pair bc her DH is gone most of time and she gets lonely and likes having another adult in the home,

I thought that a lot of nannies don't want to work in a home with the parents there all the time. As a parent I would feel strange being around the nanny all day, like we would get in each other's way.

It all depends on the personality of the mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM friend has a nanny because she wants company. Maybe an hour or two per day the nanny is left alone with the baby so she can exercise or something but even she admits it's because she is lonely. They have $$$$$. Neither SAHM nor nanny cook, clean, do laundry.

I know a sahm with an au pair bc her DH is gone most of time and she gets lonely and likes having another adult in the home,

I thought that a lot of nannies don't want to work in a home with the parents there all the time. As a parent I would feel strange being around the nanny all day, like we would get in each other's way.

They’re not in each other’s pockets. Nanny is there so sahp can do other things. The few sahp looking for company make it crystal clear, because personality clicking is more important to them than childcare experience.

Yes. I'm the PP with the friend. She hired for compatible personality and someone fun to be around, because they spend a lot of time together. The nanny is a recent college grad who was in the same sorority as my friend (years later) and they have similar interests. I don't think the nanny would be a good fit for a lot of other families like ours, because she has limited experience other than babysitting/after school care, but she is a sweet girl and my friend is much happier than she was without. I don't judge at all. They can afford it, they are good employers, and it brings her joy.

[Anonymous]

I currently have 3 weeks off between jobs and have had our nanny keep coming and I’ve got to tell you it’s AMAZING! My kids are 1 and 3 and I’m expecting a 3rd. I was baking with the two of them and when the 1 year old got antsy the nanny whisked him away for another activity. Later she cleaned up the baking mess while I read to the 3 year old. The nanny lets me focus on each of them for 1:1 time, takes care of all the chores that can be difficult to multitask with them (not impossible, just makes the time less enjoyable), handles them both when I had some repair people coming by so I could focus on talking with them, stays home while they name so I can go do other things, and tag teams getting them dinner or keeping them occupied while I cook dinner.

It’s honestly amazing. I enjoy my kids so much more and am so much more relaxed than when I’m trying to just manage them while while also doing something else or focus on something with one of them without the other making it impossible. If I wasn’t working and wanted to spend the cash, I’d totally go this route. Yes i used to judge it too

[Anonymous]

I am so jealous of these ladies. Living the dream!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so jealous of these ladies. Living the dream!

+1.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have a nanny and I'm not a SAHM but I don't find this difficult to imagine at all. 1:1 time with one kid, chores, organizing, etc. I can't watch my kids and, say, purge their outdated clothes at the same time.

And yet millions of people find a way to do this all the time.

And what's your point? She puts food on the table for another family. My friend had one for her only child. The parents are in LA and socialize a lot, so she was doing a lot of entertainment networking for her H, working out, shopping etc. She's huge into decorating too. She also has cleaning service, so the nanny didn't clean.

[Anonymous]

A full-time nanny with a SAhM is ridiculous. I have three kids, and a spouse who travels a ton. Sure, it’s hard at times, but I’d never get a full-time nanny unless I plan to go back to work some. If you need occasional breaks, I get hiring a babysitter for a few hours here and there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A full-time nanny with a SAhM is ridiculous. I have three kids, and a spouse who travels a ton. Sure, it’s hard at times, but I’d never get a full-time nanny unless I plan to go back to work some. If you need occasional breaks, I get hiring a babysitter for a few hours here and there.

People with money do all sorts of unnecessary things to make their lives easier. Why not live the easy life if you’ve earned the money to (assuming you’re also doing positive things for the world more broadly also...)

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM. I'm not opposed to having a nanny, but I just can't imagine having another adult in the house. That seems weird. No one has that many appointments/classes. Are you all just hanging out together when you are home?

I wouldn't have minded hiring a teen during the summer to take my kids to the pool, park, etc. when they were younger though.