Feeling like life is "over" at 50 and I'm okay and at peace with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Forty- one year old here and I am going through this OP. Covid coupled with turning the BIG 40 and the loss of my mother to cancer this past year has made me evaluate the value and worth of life. Honestly, right now it's hard for me to find meaning in it. The second part of my life just feels like a long slog until the kids are adults and then what? What's the point?

I have no answers here. All I can say is that I share your feelings and I'm sending you hugs.

Long slog is correct. It is painful to look at death on one hand and still continue nurturing life on the other.

[Anonymous]

PP here with cancer. Doctor is really optimistic that I will respond to the clinical trial, as the genetic makeup of the tumor is what this is designed to treat. I start the regime soon (next week probably), in the mean time, the tumors continue to grow (per CT scans), and the pain is getting more and more intense, but so far, the pain meds are keeping up. (Fentanyl patches and Oxycodone).

I figure the first indication will be a reduction in pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here with cancer. Doctor is really optimistic that I will respond to the clinical trial, as the genetic makeup of the tumor is what this is designed to treat. I start the regime soon (next week probably), in the mean time, the tumors continue to grow (per CT scans), and the pain is getting more and more intense, but so far, the pain meds are keeping up. (Fentanyl patches and Oxycodone).

I figure the first indication will be a reduction in pain.

That’s great - will be thinking of you and keeping fingers crossed. Targeted medicine is amazing and can provide hope where it seems none exists. I hope this works for you! Consider starting a new thread for support so we can focus on OP in this thread, and support you in that thread.

OP, I get it. I spent my 20s trying to figure out what comes next, my 30s trying to get and stay pregnant, my 40s raising my kid and juggling career and elder issues... and 50s are just a big gray question mark. May we both find something joyful and vivid.