Errands with Maskless ASD child?

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Anonymous wrote:OP not to hijack your post but I have a 3 year old about to get an ASD diagnosis. To those saying just get a sitter, that is near impossible with covid and an ASD child. My question is can you tell me more about the in-home therapy? My dd’s city services switched to virtual so that is useless with a non-verbal child. I’m paying OOP for speech therapy but feel the clock ticking and time speeding on and leaving my dd behind. At this point I’m willing to pay OOP for anything that might help.

OP here. You should probably start a thread in the special needs section for a more thorough discussion, but I'll do a short overview here. It sounds like we are in similar situations. I'm just a few months ahead of you in the process. Like you, we had been struggling with virtual sessions through the county. I eventually realized private therapists we're open, so I found one. The therapist immediately said we needed to go to a developmental ped immediately, because she was sure he was ASD. So we did. The developmental pediatrician recommended ABA therapy. So we're doing that in home now.

Word of warning, it's very hard to get appointments and therapists, particularly with schools closed.

But if private speech therapy isn't helping enough, ABA is probably the next step for you. Insurance should cover it. (And insurance should cover speech, too).

[Anonymous]

If you have a partner and you can go to the store without your kid, but it's just less convenient, I would go alone. If you are single and have no time without your kid, I would do what you need to do. Mask exemptions exist for those situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a child with moderate autism who is 4. Same situation.

I get tons of grief. I am considering getting him a t shirt that says "special needs" on one side and "i tested negative to covid yesterday did you?" On the other.

So don't do it unless you can handle random people yelling at you. They will and do.

One helpful thing for me is my child hates shoes and socks . if I don't fight it he will come not wearing those either. Anyone who complains about the mask, i say, yeah he's special needs i can't get him to wear shoes either.

I posted this and see I was right... You'll get lots of grief.

That said, get used to it. That's what it is having an ASD kid. People just won't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

Boy OP, I feel for you. You have all the anxiety-ridden, mask-shaming, know-nothings coming on here, not even answering your question. I am a 50-something mom with older teenagers, so I cannot put myself in your shoes. But I would not give you and/or your child a second glance if he wasn't wearing a mask. In fact, it is your right to take him out without a mask so you can do what you need to do. I guess you'll just have to be tough and ignore those who stare you down in judgement. It's their problem, not yours. Best of luck and here's hoping we will all be in a better place soon.

Stop with the “your rights” crap. We wear masks to protect ourselves and others. Why do you think your right to go maskless trump’s my right to live? Why does your child’s inability to wear a mask trump a store-employees need to work to feed his/her children?

OP, I have to keep my immune-suppressed child home. You can, too.

You know what else you need to do? Get some anti-anxiety mediation and gain a better understanding of what kind of risk a maskless 3-year-old poses to you or anybody else. Your irrational fear does not negate a mother's right simply to run errands with her 3-year-old son. Get a grip.

Right?

She has yet to answer what it is she so desperately needs to go into a store for. Many people have posted that they do everything online. Why can't she?

She does not need to expose people to her maskless 3 yr old, or vice versa.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

Boy OP, I feel for you. You have all the anxiety-ridden, mask-shaming, know-nothings coming on here, not even answering your question. I am a 50-something mom with older teenagers, so I cannot put myself in your shoes. But I would not give you and/or your child a second glance if he wasn't wearing a mask. In fact, it is your right to take him out without a mask so you can do what you need to do. I guess you'll just have to be tough and ignore those who stare you down in judgement. It's their problem, not yours. Best of luck and here's hoping we will all be in a better place soon.

Not saying I agree with all of the responses, but OP specifically posted in this forum to see how much grief she would get and it appears that the answer is "a lot." OP got an answer to her question.

LOL.

OP here. Yep. I kind of expected that, but I got a couple good suggestions among the ranting. I think I'll use my tandem stroller and I'll buy a shopping bag adapter for it. Then I'll put the sun shade as far down as I can on my son, which will annoy him a bit, but probably won't lead to crying.

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NO. You don't bring him. There is no excuse and should be no exceptions.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

Boy OP, I feel for you. You have all the anxiety-ridden, mask-shaming, know-nothings coming on here, not even answering your question. I am a 50-something mom with older teenagers, so I cannot put myself in your shoes. But I would not give you and/or your child a second glance if he wasn't wearing a mask. In fact, it is your right to take him out without a mask so you can do what you need to do. I guess you'll just have to be tough and ignore those who stare you down in judgement. It's their problem, not yours. Best of luck and here's hoping we will all be in a better place soon.

Stop with the “your rights” crap. We wear masks to protect ourselves and others. Why do you think your right to go maskless trump’s my right to live? Why does your child’s inability to wear a mask trump a store-employees need to work to feed his/her children?

OP, I have to keep my immune-suppressed child home. You can, too.

You know what else you need to do? Get some anti-anxiety mediation and gain a better understanding of what kind of risk a maskless 3-year-old poses to you or anybody else. Your irrational fear does not negate a mother's right simply to run errands with her 3-year-old son. Get a grip.

DP but “a ______’s rights to simply _______” is why we’re seeing 2,000 people die a day. Now is a moment to be doing your but for your family *and* the community by staying inside, regardless of if it’s convenient, and regardless of whether you meet the exemption criteria. Believe me we’re all going nuts, we’d all like to “simply” do anything right now, but our civic responsibility is not to, and certainly not without a mask.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

Horrible idea. Those people need to be protected the most, not around a maskless kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

Boy OP, I feel for you. You have all the anxiety-ridden, mask-shaming, know-nothings coming on here, not even answering your question. I am a 50-something mom with older teenagers, so I cannot put myself in your shoes. But I would not give you and/or your child a second glance if he wasn't wearing a mask. In fact, it is your right to take him out without a mask so you can do what you need to do. I guess you'll just have to be tough and ignore those who stare you down in judgement. It's their problem, not yours. Best of luck and here's hoping we will all be in a better place soon.

Not saying I agree with all of the responses, but OP specifically posted in this forum to see how much grief she would get and it appears that the answer is "a lot." OP got an answer to her question.

LOL.

OP here. Yep. I kind of expected that, but I got a couple good suggestions among the ranting. I think I'll use my tandem stroller and I'll buy a shopping bag adapter for it. Then I'll put the sun shade as far down as I can on my son, which will annoy him a bit, but probably won't lead to crying.

It’s not funny, OP. We are all just trying to protect our children and loved ones, too. I don’t want your son to wear a mask or stay home for any other reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No, these are precisely the hours OP should avoid with a small unmasked child. They are for the elderly and for people more at risk to Covid, everyone with be masked and wearing face shields.

I would do grocery pickup so that you can stay in the car, as do as many drive through errands as possible. If you are in MoCo, that may mean you have to drive out of your way to newer areas.

If you can't do pickup or delivery, I would go during the afternoon or anytime you think more people are going out to do errands with kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

Boy OP, I feel for you. You have all the anxiety-ridden, mask-shaming, know-nothings coming on here, not even answering your question. I am a 50-something mom with older teenagers, so I cannot put myself in your shoes. But I would not give you and/or your child a second glance if he wasn't wearing a mask. In fact, it is your right to take him out without a mask so you can do what you need to do. I guess you'll just have to be tough and ignore those who stare you down in judgement. It's their problem, not yours. Best of luck and here's hoping we will all be in a better place soon.

Not saying I agree with all of the responses, but OP specifically posted in this forum to see how much grief she would get and it appears that the answer is "a lot." OP got an answer to her question.

LOL.

OP here. Yep. I kind of expected that, but I got a couple good suggestions among the ranting. I think I'll use my tandem stroller and I'll buy a shopping bag adapter for it. Then I'll put the sun shade as far down as I can on my son, which will annoy him a bit, but probably won't lead to crying.

Yeah, all of us crazy ranting parents who love their children.

And all because you’re too stupid to figure out deliveries and getting a special needs babysitter.

You’re a fool, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

Please don’t bring your maskless child to senior citizens hour at the grocery store which is there to reduce risk of disease transmission to seniors 🙄

The stores are completely empty during those hours. Obviously keep your distance, but her kid isn’t giving anyone covid. It’s for people with disabilities too, not just seniors.

Yea they are empty so elderly and immunocompromised people can shop in a safer manner, not so people can bring their small kids without masks to drastically increase everyone’s risk of infection

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

How would it realistically be fine?!?!? Are you 80? Is your child a recent solid organ transplant recipient on immunosuppressive treatment? No? Then stay the F out! Especially without a damn mask. Come on people.

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

Boy OP, I feel for you. You have all the anxiety-ridden, mask-shaming, know-nothings coming on here, not even answering your question. I am a 50-something mom with older teenagers, so I cannot put myself in your shoes. But I would not give you and/or your child a second glance if he wasn't wearing a mask. In fact, it is your right to take him out without a mask so you can do what you need to do. I guess you'll just have to be tough and ignore those who stare you down in judgement. It's their problem, not yours. Best of luck and here's hoping we will all be in a better place soon.

Stop with the “your rights” crap. We wear masks to protect ourselves and others. Why do you think your right to go maskless trump’s my right to live? Why does your child’s inability to wear a mask trump a store-employees need to work to feed his/her children?

OP, I have to keep my immune-suppressed child home. You can, too.

You know what else you need to do? Get some anti-anxiety mediation and gain a better understanding of what kind of risk a maskless 3-year-old poses to you or anybody else. Your irrational fear does not negate a mother's right simply to run errands with her 3-year-old son. Get a grip.

A 3 year old will probably be asymptomatic with a covid infection. This three year old is exposed, indoor, to therapists every day without a mask. He will likely contract covid within the next 2 months if the rates continue. No risk?!

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Anonymous wrote:Some stores still do seniors and people with disabilities hours. Maybe go during those hours?

No! Don’t take a maskless child to senior hour! This is a terrible suggestion!

OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. Realistically I think it would be fine, but I know those people are going to be particularly freaked out.

How would it realistically be fine?!?!? Are you 80? Is your child a recent solid organ transplant recipient on immunosuppressive treatment? No? Then stay the F out! Especially without a damn mask. Come on people.

Close. So remarkably close it's actually a little funny.