Anyone not letting college students come home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP back. Our biggest issue is that he wants to come and go when he gets home. We don’t have a basement (ranch style home) so it would be hard to keep him and his grandmother completely separate. He has an apartment in his college town (where he has had in person classes). I’m leaning towards just telling him to stay in Indiana until classes restart. He can do what he wants and I don’t have to worry about my mother being exposed.

Why would you get a hotel for him if he has an apartment? He has a place to live, OP. He can choose to stay there or follow your rules and come home.

I’d let him come if he was willing to stay home (at his apartment) for 10 days, get a PCR test, and then wait at apartment for negative result until coming home. But if he doesn’t want to stop his comings and goings, it sounds like Christmas in Indiana for him.

His apartment is across the country where he goes to college.

[Anonymous]

If you are not willing to let him come home then ask him to stay at his apartment at school. Why would he come back "home" to sit in a hotel without leaving? That is not even close to reasonable.

[Anonymous]

20 year old DS is staying in college apartment for Thanksgiving but will come home for Christmas. We’ll test/quarantine him at home at that point. Don’t have a basement but also don’t have an elderly grandparent at home.

Can your mother go visit a sibling while he is tested and quarantines?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How was this handled over the summer.

I don't think grandma gets priority 365 days a year. She got September - November. Now she needs to step aside so your son can come home Nov-January.

Then when your son goes back, she can be the priority.

What is your relationship with your mom, has it always been so enmeshed.

yeah something weird about OP - makes me wonder if this is actually her stepchild?

if he agrees to take a test and only socialize safely (masks, outdoors) then OP is being pretty extreme.

She already said he won’t agree to that.

[Anonymous]

Sounds nuts to me. Like some kind of first world problem creation.