Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be taking baby with me too. Newborns need antibodies. If your baby has a fever and is <3 months old, they are supposed to go to the NICU. You should not be traveling. The safest way to travel is to at least give baby your antibodies.

What are you talking about? OPs baby isn't sick.

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Anonymous wrote:At 8 weeks I would not do this. If YOU needed life-saving surgery I would do it, otherwise no. If somebody is dying, they are going to die. Your baby's life has JUST started. They don't have vaccines, they only have the immunity they got from being inside your baby and maybe if you've been nursing. Somebody else can help with the family emergency. You have to prioritize your newborn.

Sorry. I know this sounds harsh and isn't what you want to hear. But it's absolutely what I would do.

I agree with the PP. At eight weeks I’m bringing baby with me, and if it’s an emergency that can’t be handled with a baby in tow, then I am not equipped to help either. Unless one of my other children were in dire circumstances I can’t imagine it.

I agree. The baby would be coming with me, no question.

The baby would prefer to stay in her routine, engaging and learning with her loving and capable dad!! Bringing the baby would only benefit the mother.

That said, pumping sucks so I'd much prefer to have the baby with me for that reason. But don't guilt trip this woman for absolutely no good reason.

The baby would prefer to stay with it’s mother. But babies don’t think like that (of course.) This is not a dire enough emergency in my book, and it does seem like you could all travel there together. You are driving and dad is on leave, right?

OP here. My dad lives in a very small house and there isn't room for all of us. It is important I go because my dad has health issues and can't risk him getting exposed to anything. My other siblings will have to fly and that is not possible. I'm the only option. My husband is capable of caring for his child for one week.

What do you mean there “isn’t room” - there isn’t a couch, or like a 6x8 ft of empty space to put an air bed? You’re being ridiculous. Go together.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be taking baby with me too. Newborns need antibodies. If your baby has a fever and is <3 months old, they are supposed to go to the NICU. You should not be traveling. The safest way to travel is to at least give baby your antibodies.

What if the baby was exclusively formula-fed?

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OP - I have nothing to say to you other than you are doing such a fabulous thing for your dad. Your husband is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have him. Life throws so many curveballs and you are negotiating one the right way. Good luck!

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They will do great. Good bonding and time together.

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OP, just leave enough food and supplies for both of them, so they don't have to leave the house.
Ask your husband to sleep when the baby sleeps and to take a lot of photos and videos.

You two are a great team. Your DH is going to love having bonding time with your child and story to tell when she grows up.

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I don't understand how this is so hard. You need to recover. Caretaking is very strenuous. Get a temp aide, its very easy to find. Where is he locate and I'll send you agency information.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be taking baby with me too. Newborns need antibodies. If your baby has a fever and is <3 months old, they are supposed to go to the NICU. You should not be traveling. The safest way to travel is to at least give baby your antibodies.

What are you talking about? OPs baby isn't sick.

Newborns aren't supposed to travel for the first several months. That includes their mother who will just bring all the germs back to them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be taking baby with me too. Newborns need antibodies. If your baby has a fever and is <3 months old, they are supposed to go to the NICU. You should not be traveling. The safest way to travel is to at least give baby your antibodies.

What if the baby was exclusively formula-fed?

Well then OP should be extra vigilant about keeping germs away from the baby. Breastmilk has antibodies for a reason - babies need them to stay healthy because they can't create their own if they are exposed to something. If you want to take a risk with your baby's health, at least stay home during the first months and don't be crazy about it.

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OP, it seems like you have everything under control. You have a capable, involved DH on paternity leave and an easy baby who takes bottles and sleeps through the night. They will both be fine, so I’m not sure what you are looking for here? Does DH know how to use grocery delivery apps so he doesn’t have to bring the baby to the store? Newborns are exhausting, but yours sleeps through the night and can’t move yet, so hopefully it won’t be too taxing on your DH. Nothing on earth would get me to leave a baby at 8 weeks, but you’re not me and you don’t seem to need any tips.

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Anonymous wrote:Great opportunity for your husband to bond with the baby and get more insight into the fatigue and strain of doing care all day and all night. May help you all as the baby grows to be more involved.

This. Baby will be fine. The person who made you feel like you need to meal prep is ridiculous. No one would ever suggest that a man who is having a family emergency should meal prep before leaving.

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Anonymous wrote:They will do great!! You will miss them both, especially baby, but they will be perfectly fine together.

I would prepare for the possibility that baby may not want to nurse when you get back, and you’ll need to be extremely careful about COVID exposure.

OP here. It's just my dad and he lives in a rural area. His caretaker injured her back and will be out for a week. My dad is high risk and partially disabled. He needs help and I'm the only one that can help him since I can drive to him.

I’m not telling you what to do. If you want to visit him, that’s fine. But I’ve dealt with taking care of my parents and there are agencies that can send caregivers in. Like Home Instead or senior helpers. It’s a little scary right now to do that because of Covid. But it’s an option.

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Anonymous wrote:At 8 weeks I would not do this. If YOU needed life-saving surgery I would do it, otherwise no. If somebody is dying, they are going to die. Your baby's life has JUST started. They don't have vaccines, they only have the immunity they got from being inside your baby and maybe if you've been nursing. Somebody else can help with the family emergency. You have to prioritize your newborn.

Sorry. I know this sounds harsh and isn't what you want to hear. But it's absolutely what I would do.

I agree with the PP. At eight weeks I’m bringing baby with me, and if it’s an emergency that can’t be handled with a baby in tow, then I am not equipped to help either. Unless one of my other children were in dire circumstances I can’t imagine it.

I agree. The baby would be coming with me, no question.

The baby would prefer to stay in her routine, engaging and learning with her loving and capable dad!! Bringing the baby would only benefit the mother.

That said, pumping sucks so I'd much prefer to have the baby with me for that reason. But don't guilt trip this woman for absolutely no good reason.

The baby would prefer to stay with it’s mother. But babies don’t think like that (of course.) This is not a dire enough emergency in my book, and it does seem like you could all travel there together. You are driving and dad is on leave, right?

OP here. My dad lives in a very small house and there isn't room for all of us. It is important I go because my dad has health issues and can't risk him getting exposed to anything. My other siblings will have to fly and that is not possible. I'm the only option. My husband is capable of caring for his child for one week.

What do you mean there “isn’t room” - there isn’t a couch, or like a 6x8 ft of empty space to put an air bed? You’re being ridiculous. Go together.

This is such weird advice. Why can’t the father take care of the baby for a week? She supposed to take care of her newborn and her disabled father at the same time while the husband does what?

Baby and husband would be fine. You could also hire an agency to take care of dad for a week although that is scary because of Covid. They usually cost around $22 an hour

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just leave enough food and supplies for both of them, so they don't have to leave the house.
Ask your husband to sleep when the baby sleeps and to take a lot of photos and videos.

You two are a great team. Your DH is going to love having bonding time with your child and story to tell when she grows up.

OP has a son, not a daughter. Why do people keep saying daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how this is so hard. You need to recover. Caretaking is very strenuous. Get a temp aide, its very easy to find. Where is he locate and I'll send you agency information.

OP said her dad has health issues. I'm sure she doesn't want a temp with the pandemic.