Changing locks after separating

[Anonymous]

Op left the thread so she left us with no other options but to speculate.

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Anonymous wrote:For starters, stop referring to him as "dear husband." He's an ass. Nothing dear about him.

Pretty obvious here the one who left is the one in the wrong. Getting kicked out in the first place, barging in and taking things, spying on ring. The ass is apparent.

Wow, you sound crazy. I don’t see any of that in OP’s story. Methinks you are projecting some issues.

Agreed. I was mainly calling him an ass because he sent his children packing with her. Only an ass would see it fit to have his children living out of someone's basement during a pandemic. Even if she cheated, why make the kids suffer?

DP. First, we don’t know the kids are also his.

Second, if they are, we don’t know that they aren’t splitting their time between mom and dad.

DP. Why would they be doing dropoffs if they weren’t his kids?

The mature thing to do would be for the kids to stay in the house and for the parents to switch off.

I wouldn’t want a vindictive ex like OP having access to my personal belongings on her days in the house. For all we know, she might destroy all of his stuff.

There’s no indication that she’s vindictive. You’re reading a lot into this.

She wants him punished legally for changing the locks even though she admits it has no practical effect on her. That's vindictive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op left the thread so she left us with no other options but to speculate.

She left the thread because the incel lunatics took over, I’m sure.

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Affair discovery is brutal.

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Anonymous wrote:Affair discovery is brutal.

It makes for the messiest divorces.

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Anonymous wrote:Op left the thread so she left us with no other options but to speculate.

Exactly. I noticed that OP wrote "changing locks" which my tin foil hat says means that OP's former husband is actually badger on stilts, but she probably doesn't care since she's a Portuguese robot controlled by her evil twin (who is not a robot). What a mess.

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I’m sorry, OP. You do need a new lawyer. Kicking you out & changing the locks on a marital asset is a huge deal.

As for the rest of you on this thread, WTF????

[Anonymous]

OP is clearly trying to gain access to use the property as a crack den. Totally unacceptable and I can understand why DH changed the locks.

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Anonymous wrote:For starters, stop referring to him as "dear husband." He's an ass. Nothing dear about him.

Pretty obvious here the one who left is the one in the wrong. Getting kicked out in the first place, barging in and taking things, spying on ring. The ass is apparent.

Wow, you sound crazy. I don’t see any of that in OP’s story. Methinks you are projecting some issues.

Agreed. I was mainly calling him an ass because he sent his children packing with her. Only an ass would see it fit to have his children living out of someone's basement during a pandemic. Even if she cheated, why make the kids suffer?

Why would he be responsible for this if she wanted to move out and got a basement rental in hurry?

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Anonymous wrote:^ true. Those are very sad situations.

However, OP does not sound scared of him- more pissed off. And she was willingly and freely going into the house after she left while he was there. Hardly the actions of a woman who was being abused/beaten by her spouse and fearful.

Wow. You know nothing about abuse. Sit down.

That sounds right though. If it is the case of the abuse, then OP would be far away from her ex.

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I don't see a big deal if OP's ex changed the locks. This is the thing people usually do if they are separated and have separation agreement done. I am sure OP would have moved out with her stuff and all the assets would be divided during the divorce anyway. Changing locks give safety and privacy to everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:For starters, stop referring to him as "dear husband." He's an ass. Nothing dear about him.

How do you know? Maybe she had affair and got caught....her leaving the home is sign number one.

Ask Phil Collins for advice. It’s in the news.

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Anonymous wrote:For starters, stop referring to him as "dear husband." He's an ass. Nothing dear about him.

Pretty obvious here the one who left is the one in the wrong. Getting kicked out in the first place, barging in and taking things, spying on ring. The ass is apparent.

Wow, you sound crazy. I don’t see any of that in OP’s story. Methinks you are projecting some issues.

Agreed. I was mainly calling him an ass because he sent his children packing with her. Only an ass would see it fit to have his children living out of someone's basement during a pandemic. Even if she cheated, why make the kids suffer?

DP. First, we don’t know the kids are also his.

Second, if they are, we don’t know that they aren’t splitting their time between mom and dad.

DP. Why would they be doing dropoffs if they weren’t his kids?

The mature thing to do would be for the kids to stay in the house and for the parents to switch off.

I wouldn’t want a vindictive ex like OP having access to my personal belongings on her days in the house. For all we know, she might destroy all of his stuff.

Projecting much? Is it what YOU would have done in this situation?

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Curious why a lot of folks here imply that an affair makes a difference in the divorce.
In my friends' experiences (not mine though) it made completely no difference and technically the cheated stay-at-home wife could ask alimony (though she didn't).

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Anonymous wrote:For starters, stop referring to him as "dear husband." He's an ass. Nothing dear about him.

Pretty obvious here the one who left is the one in the wrong. Getting kicked out in the first place, barging in and taking things, spying on ring. The ass is apparent.

Wow, you sound crazy. I don’t see any of that in OP’s story. Methinks you are projecting some issues.

Agreed. I was mainly calling him an ass because he sent his children packing with her. Only an ass would see it fit to have his children living out of someone's basement during a pandemic. Even if she cheated, why make the kids suffer?

DP. First, we don’t know the kids are also his.

Second, if they are, we don’t know that they aren’t splitting their time between mom and dad.

DP. Why would they be doing dropoffs if they weren’t his kids?

The mature thing to do would be for the kids to stay in the house and for the parents to switch off.

I wouldn’t want a vindictive ex like OP having access to my personal belongings on her days in the house. For all we know, she might destroy all of his stuff.

There’s no indication that she’s vindictive. You’re reading a lot into this.

She wants him punished legally for changing the locks even though she admits it has no practical effect on her. That's vindictive.

It’s still her house. She’s on the deed. She’s entitled to access. This affects her.