This is so isolating - I don’t have any mom friends anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, folks are being overly harsh. It sounds like you are being careful and the things you’ve asked folks to do are safe, distanced, outdoors.

Remember this is the same board that says they are letting kids play with friends and are asking questions about birthday parties and fire pit/wine nights. (So many responses to your post are dripping with hypocrisy if by the same crowd.) We all are in different places with risk though. That’s honest and something we all address in our own way. Your circle might have the means to isolate more readily.

It’s pretty lonely for us too. I get it. We haven’t seen friends since March. Our only is struggling as are my partner and I. Trying a distanced visit next week. Cautious.

+1

Stay strong

[Anonymous]

Put your kids in part-time preschool.

[Anonymous]

OP, your friends are right. The pandemic is not over. People need to follow the rules by STAYING HOME. Not even socially distant stuff. But you can still work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sanity hasn't left me hugely because of a couple of families that we see ever so often. We all are taking the pandemic seriously and don't meet anyone indoors, or less than 6 feet, or without masks. There are a lot of places offering outdoor activities for kids, soccer, swimming, dance classes, etc. You might want to get your oldest to join something like that just to get out of the house and meet other parents that are doing things similar to you. Other than that, try going out daily for walks, playgrounds, library book pickups, etc, you might start noticing similar faces and make new friends that aren't completely hunkering down.

Thank you. This is good advice.

I'min a similar position- kids activities are saving my sanity (most of friends are very much locked down; which I understand)

[Anonymous]

I am high-risk and my DH and I work from home. We are very careful, we don’t go into stores.

However, we have had plenty of park meet ups and had friends over in our backyard where we each brought our own food. We do not let visitors into our house, and everyone has been fine with that. It sounds like maybe it’s an excuse to not hang out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your friends are right. The pandemic is not over. People need to follow the rules by STAYING HOME. Not even socially distant stuff. But you can still work.

You're nutty. The pandemic has made you crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your friends are right. The pandemic is not over. People need to follow the rules by STAYING HOME. Not even socially distant stuff. But you can still work.

Those aren't the rules anymore. Pretty much every public health expert I've read recommends outdoor, distanced, and masked activity as both safe and good for one's mental and physical health. If I were OP I would take my kids to a playground where most people are wearing masks and just spend time there. You'll meet other people who are being careful but are okay with outdoor activities. Try to go to the same place.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is glossing over the fact OP’s husband works out of home. It’s not you, it’s your husband. My DH is an essential worker and the only one out of my entire social group. They have formed a pod where the adults and kids go maskless. My DH takes all precautions but I understand why my family is the only one excluded, (and somewhat think them foolhardy for not wearing masks while socializing). Your situation is compounded by the fact that because you have young children, they can’t social distance effectively so whoever plays with your kids is basically taking on your risk. Their behaviors are totally understandable, if I were in their shoes I would do the same as to not socializing with me with kids.

OP, in my situation I had to find friends with similar levels of risk that would play with my kids. You probably have to find someone like that too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put your kids in part-time preschool.

this. and OP everyone is different. We have been meeting up with our friends for socially distant picnics and meet-ups all summer. Live has to go on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your friends are right. The pandemic is not over. People need to follow the rules by STAYING HOME. Not even socially distant stuff. But you can still work.

Those aren't the rules anymore. Pretty much every public health expert I've read recommends outdoor, distanced, and masked activity as both safe and good for one's mental and physical health. If I were OP I would take my kids to a playground where most people are wearing masks and just spend time there. You'll meet other people who are being careful but are okay with outdoor activities. Try to go to the same place.

THEY ARE CHILDREN. They will hug each other. They won't stay socially distant. They will take off their masks.

[Anonymous]

OP I'm as cautious and risk averse as they come (no restaurants even for takeout, no indoor shopping other than grocery once a week, no dentists, no indoor get togethers, no indoor stores other than grocery, no kids sports, no playgrounds, will stick with distance learning if school transitions back to hybrid, etc.) but I don't see any issue at all with a masked, socially distanced, outdoor playdate at a park or other open space like a field, with one other family, where there are no other people.

I don't understand why your friends wouldn't be willing to do something like that that has minimal risk? How could this not be safe? We've been doing either that kind of occasional playdate or masked, socially distanced walks with friends and I feel totally okay with those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd avoid you like the plague. An attitude like this marks you as ignorant, selfish and not at all concerned with other people in society.

They can’t believe so many of my “friends” are content to stay holed up in their houses for the duration of the pandemic.

This is OP. What am I missing? I genuinely don’t get it.

OP ignore this poster. They get off on their holy than thou attitude. I'm sorry your friends aren't willing to do outside playdates-are their moms at the park you could talk with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd avoid you like the plague. An attitude like this marks you as ignorant, selfish and not at all concerned with other people in society.

They can’t believe so many of my “friends” are content to stay holed up in their houses for the duration of the pandemic.

This is OP. What am I missing? I genuinely don’t get it.

Seriously?

The condescending attitude towards those who are taking proper precautions in a pandemic that has killed more than 200,000 of our fellow Americans. WTF is hard to get about that?

No, those are extreme precautions that might be justified during plague times but not now. That attitude of shut everything down has isolated mean and lead to a three-fold increase in domestic violence deaths and suicides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your friends are right. The pandemic is not over. People need to follow the rules by STAYING HOME. Not even socially distant stuff. But you can still work.

-1

We are not in a lock down any longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your friends are right. The pandemic is not over. People need to follow the rules by STAYING HOME. Not even socially distant stuff. But you can still work.

-1

We are not in a lock down any longer.

Because people like you got rid of it when we need it most.