Be graceful when I decline your COVID birthday party

[Anonymous]

I think people get defensive due to covid. The hosts think you are judging them because you don't think they are being safe or making good decisions, so they want to push back and possibly gaslight you so they can feel better about themselves. It's not a regular party invitation, it's like a party for "who's side are you on?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Billy's mom wants to know whether you're extra conservative about social distancing, or if your kid just hates Billy and doesn't want to go, or ever want to play with him any more.

OP how old is your kid?

If your child and Billy were good friends, you would know.

Is it considered "extra conservative" during these times to not go to a children's party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Billy's mom wants to know whether you're extra conservative about social distancing, or if your kid just hates Billy and doesn't want to go, or ever want to play with him any more.

OP how old is your kid?

If your child and Billy were good friends, you would know.

Is it considered "extra conservative" during these times to not go to a children's party?

We wouldn't even consider a party so its a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

The word GRACE is everywhere now. Annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Billy's mom wants to know whether you're extra conservative about social distancing, or if your kid just hates Billy and doesn't want to go, or ever want to play with him any more.

OP how old is your kid?

If your child and Billy were good friends, you would know.

My kid has 2 girls in her class that I invite to parties every year. Every year they decline. She plays with them at school. If I knew why they didnt attend parties I would stop the invites. For now, I still invite bc my kid asks me to and she and the teacher and other friends confirm she and these girls play daily.

If the parents responded one year i dint celebrate bdays that would end the invites. If they said my kid doesnt like you kid that would be acceptable. So for now I invite and never get a response.

[Anonymous]

YES!!!! It’s rude to argue or ask why when anyone declines an invitation anytime!

[Anonymous]

Agreed.


It’s like people who argue when you break up with them. Looks so desperate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree. Covid or not.

This! No explanation is ever required!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you decline politely like you would have pre covid?

"Sorry we won't be able to make it. I hope Larlo has a wonderful Birthday!"

Sounds like op did this and the hostess pushed back on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

All of the above also applies outside the time of a pandemic. An invitation is not a summons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do as I say, not as I do, huh? What an ungraceful lecture on grace.

Who are you talking to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Billy's mom wants to know whether you're extra conservative about social distancing, or if your kid just hates Billy and doesn't want to go, or ever want to play with him any more.

OP how old is your kid?

If your child and Billy were good friends, you would know.

My kid has 2 girls in her class that I invite to parties every year. Every year they decline. She plays with them at school. If I knew why they didnt attend parties I would stop the invites. For now, I still invite bc my kid asks me to and she and the teacher and other friends confirm she and these girls play daily.

If the parents responded one year i dint celebrate bdays that would end the invites. If they said my kid doesnt like you kid that would be acceptable. So for now I invite and never get a response.

This is not relevant. Your invitees are not responding at all for some reason, your issue is not related to the pandemic...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

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I agree, but wonder if people are trying to figure out how they themselves should be asking?
Has this happened more than once? Are people actually holding parties ni this time?

Yes! We have been invited to at least half a dozen parties, if not more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people send regrets to your kid's birthday party in the time of COVID, your only option is to accept that gracefully. Do not push, inquire, wheedle or whine. Do not ask "is this just because of coronavirus"?

I said no thank you, and Happy Birthday, Billy. Drop it. I owe you no explanation. I owe you no reassurance.

No, you "come on," I don't need another rundown of how "safe" your event is. You do you. We're not coming.

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I agree, but wonder if people are trying to figure out how they themselves should be asking?
Has this happened more than once? Are people actually holding parties ni this time?

Yes! We have been invited to at least half a dozen parties, if not more.

Yes, and it is absurd. Those of you who think OP is rude can drag me: I don't dignify kid parties at this time with a response. It's so inappropriate and beneath me that I don't give it a single moment of my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, yes it is because of Covid-19.

I can't really tell you to your face that I've lost all respect for you because you just invited me to a party during a pandemic, and I know social distancing won't be implemented, can I?

So we're not going to see much of each other in the future.

And you think it's implemented at school? You're funny. Or stupid.