In home day care vent/warning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh hell here we go again, the parents who use providers are off and running and "asshat" lady is back . . .

There are many "asshat" ladies. And we are prettier than you.

[Anonymous]

If you as a parent is thinking to protect your baby from the cold then why you did not wait the care the extra two minutes where it is nice and warm.

Also maybe your provider should charge you extra for two minutes drop off as you are making her work earlier that her schedule time.

I think this parent on this site is a total dumm and need to get check out before they start hitting on providers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, hell, here we go again. The providers are off and running. We don't need six million of you to all say the same thing over and over. Start a support group and meet in private if you want to parrot each other.

We all have it by now...read the contract. Right. I totally agree.

But..in case you hadn't noticed, OP said the stupid provider NEVER RETURNED the contract to her. How is she supposed to follow a contract she has not been given. Granted, she should demand a copy, but in the meantime, is she supposed to be psychic?

And she said one minute early. Sorry, one minute is one minute and the provider is an asshat.

Well if she read the contract then she should have known what is in it and shouldn't have arrived early and expected her Provider to work over time wehter it is one minute, two minutes or 15 minutes.

Apparently YOU do need six million of us Providers telling you the same thing over and over again because you JUST are not getting it. We are Child Care Providers not your personal slave. One minute is only one minute, but that one minute is the Providers time. Prehaps us Providers should open or doors late or simply not let you know were we are during the day. with your child, i don't think that would go over very well would it. Or hell not even answer the door at all and simply not be home for your drop off, leave you wondering if you have child care for the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well if she read the contract then she should have known what is in it and shouldn't have arrived early and expected her Provider to work over time wehter it is one minute, two minutes or 15 minutes.

Apparently YOU do need six million of us Providers telling you the same thing over and over again because you JUST are not getting it. We are Child Care Providers not your personal slave. One minute is only one minute, but that one minute is the Providers time. Prehaps us Providers should open or doors late or simply not let you know were we are during the day. with your child, i don't think that would go over very well would it. Or hell not even answer the door at all and simply not be home for your drop off, leave you wondering if you have child care for the day.

Oh dear lord you providers cannot read. She didn't have a copy of the contract. Stop talking about the contract!

Do you providers honestly think the rest of us get to dictate that we won't work one minute before or after times when we are expected at work. Lots of people work lots of extra minutes, hours, etc. and don't go whining about nobody respecting them (and we don't get any extra pay either).

Whining endlessly will not earn you respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all have it by now...read the contract. Right. I totally agree.

Did you miss where I said this? I get it. You don't. Too busy whining to listen to what anyone else has to say. Too busy pre-judging parents. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Do you providers honestly think the rest of us get to dictate that we won't work one minute before or after times when we are expected at work. Lots of people work lots of extra minutes, hours, etc. and don't go whining about nobody respecting them (and we don't get any extra pay either).

Well I guess the difference is...as a provider I don't have a boss, so I don't care if you have to be at work early or stay there late. All I know is that I don't have to open my door early, and I can charge you a late fee if you are late. I also know that your parenting emergencies are really not my problem. So if you are late more than once you won't have care. So you can think your running the show, and that is fine, but I still won't open early and yes I will still charge late fees.
And honestly, I could give a rats ass if you respect me because people like you don't last long in care. Plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you providers honestly think the rest of us get to dictate that we won't work one minute before or after times when we are expected at work. Lots of people work lots of extra minutes, hours, etc. and don't go whining about nobody respecting them (and we don't get any extra pay either).

Well I guess the difference is...as a provider I don't have a boss, so I don't care if you have to be at work early or stay there late. All I know is that I don't have to open my door early, and I can charge you a late fee if you are late. I also know that your parenting emergencies are really not my problem. So if you are late more than once you won't have care. So you can think your running the show, and that is fine, but I still won't open early and yes I will still charge late fees.
And honestly, I could give a rats ass if you respect me because people like you don't last long in care. Plain and simple.

I think the difference is that the providers who post here have serious control and power issues. What happened to you in your childhood. You don't "own" your parents, either, sister. And clearly you care very much about people respecting you. You all go on and on and on about it on these boards.

It amuses me to no end when a provider makes an assumption like yours that I wouldn't "last long in care" just because I point out how inconsistent you are. In reality, you would kill for a parent like me. You just don't want to play by any of the rules. You want us to treat us like a business person/professional when it suits you, but not have to behave like a professional when it doesn't. Sorry, that won't earn you any respect.

[Anonymous]

Hey PP, you don't know me so I'm glad you can ASSume things about me. But you know what? I really could give a rats ass if the parents in my care respect me or not. I'm fine either way...just follow the rules and we're good. People who don't know how to follow the simple things in a contract (like opening and closing times) don't do well in care. Do you people think providers won't stick to their contracts? And no I really don't care what happens at your work...just don't be early or late. If you are then I guess child care becomes YOUR problem.
All you ladies have fun, not respecting your providersss...but you really should be asking yourselves why you would let someone you don't respect raise your child? That is really fucked up.

[Anonymous]

Wandering over here from the nanny forum...wow. I thought some of the nannies were nuts. I had no idea how bonkers some of the home providers are. One minute. wow. Talk about petty and nickle & diming. One minute.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, I think there are just a few in-home providers who try to post on this forum as though they are representatives of all providers and who give in-home providers a "bad name". Most in-home providers out there are caring, hard-working people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wandering over here from the nanny forum...wow. I thought some of the nannies were nuts. I had no idea how bonkers some of the home providers are. One minute. wow. Talk about petty and nickle & diming. One minute.

What really saddens me, I have been a provider over 20 years, and the newer ones coming in are making it bad for those of us who have worked so hard to be where we want to be in this business. And it is a business. I pay my taxes on money I make and keep records, etc so it is as real to me as the job the parents I have in care think of their job.

That said, it is sad that the poster who is sooo bitter and posting to several threads here is ruining it for those who are respectful of their clients.

I have a contract that does state all the necessary issues. Illness policy, payment policy, days closed, holidays, vacations, sick days, etc. It is veeerry rare I have taken sick days off, but the one time I did I had a parent ask my high school age daughter in a very rude tone, well what am I supposed to do now? Believe me the last thing I want to do is call out sick because I know my parents depend on me. Did I terminate her for being disrespectful? No, I didnt, but I made sure she knew that the policy of finding a backup for emergencies beyond my control, and she actually apologized. For those who know me well enough they know the only time I take off are my vacation weeks, which I can give exact dates for those at the time of interview, and holidays, which is in my contract. I didnt even take a personal day to attend a funeral for a close friend of the family, and one of my moms was so upset I took half a day that wasnt counted as a personal day, that I thought to myself I may have as well taken that personal day!

As for this past week, with all the snow. Yes, the parents understand that I will get paid however I will make some of this time up to them. One wants to go in on Saturday and Monday (which by the way IS a holiday I am closed). I bend my rules because my clients are respectful of me and my time. I am giving one mom a couple Saturdays, and the holiday Monday to work to make up time lost this week. I have another mom who will be going in earlier and maybe working a little later to make up missed time, at no extra cost to her. I treat my parents the same way I would like to be treated. With respect. And running off the mouth and cussing every other statement would definitely have me looking for someone else.

My contract does state that the time kids are in care is for while parents are working or going to school however if I have a parent who calls and says they are under the weather and want to bring their child in, I say yes. If they call and ask if they can work a little later and will compensate me for my time, most times I am alright with it, however IF i have something that I need to do that night, such as a school function, something with my family or a training meeting and such, then I will let them know that night is not good. No biggie on their part, they understand. One mom will ask on occasion will ask about going on a date night and if she can leave her child with me, but she will also say she will understand if I am not available. Most times, I will do it because I realize she needs a break too.

I love my job, I love the kids, and I get along with my clients very well. But it really upsets me when parents looking for childcare generalize all in home providers as the micro crazy one who is on this board giving us home providers a bad rap.

IF a parent could have gotten to me this week, I most certainly would have taken the child in, no matter what the weather, only because I also know if they see the weather is getting worse or streets are too bad, they will come back sooner than a normal workday

for those saying their streets have been plowed and clear, I wish I could say ours were. The part of Alexandria I am in hasnt been touched since the first storm!! one dump truck came and made 2 passes, no sand or salt put down, and he really didnt push much snow out of here. We FINALLY had someone come through tonight, probably a resident of our neighborhood, that really took the time to clear our street. Depend on neighbors here to get together and shovel our way out? That is pretty laughable because nobody on our street hardly converses with each other!! I had one neighbor watch me struggling to get to my husbands truck so I could clean it off, and he stood there conversing with me telling me how his roommate wanted to make a naked snowangel in the back yard. Hey to each his own, but dont stand there telling me your tales while I am struggling to push a shovel around and obviously struggling with it. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, I think there are just a few in-home providers who try to post on this forum as though they are representatives of all providers and who give in-home providers a "bad name". Most in-home providers out there are caring, hard-working people.

As a provider, (I posted just after this), I thank you for your support. Not everyone out there is evil and in this for the money. THere are those who are genuinely in this for the kids and the clients.

To the person who is a very bitter provider, you sound just like someone I knew long ago that got out of the business, thankfully, because I was getting ready to turn her in. Yes, one provider turning in another, because of her bad business practices. I personally think you need some kind of anger management class or something. You sure your initials arent the ones everyone has been talking about? I sure hope you dont take your anger directed at the clients out on your young charges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But you know what? I really could give a rats ass if the parents in my care respect me or not.

And you think the parents are f-d up? Lady, look in the mirror. You just proved my point, you have anger and control issues.

Anonymous wrote:All you ladies have fun, not respecting your providersss...but you really should be asking yourselves why you would let someone you don't respect raise your child? That is really fucked up.

I respect my providers, I just don't respect you. Why is that so hard for you to understand? How I feel about your posts has nothing to do with my beliefs about daycare providers in general or about the providers I work with. Who died and made you the Voice of All Providers? Again with the control issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, I think there are just a few in-home providers who try to post on this forum as though they are representatives of all providers and who give in-home providers a "bad name". Most in-home providers out there are caring, hard-working people.

As a provider, (I posted just after this), I thank you for your support. Not everyone out there is evil and in this for the money. THere are those who are genuinely in this for the kids and the clients.

Hi, I posted the first thing above and then read your post. I guess I just wanted the other providers who might be reading and posting to know that a few bad apples don't make parents think poorly or have any less respect for the majority of providers out there. I get frustrated when I address the comments of a specific poster and then she tried to insinuate that it means I don't respect all providers or my own providers. I thank God everyday for my providers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, I think there are just a few in-home providers who try to post on this forum as though they are representatives of all providers and who give in-home providers a "bad name". Most in-home providers out there are caring, hard-working people.

As a provider, (I posted just after this), I thank you for your support. Not everyone out there is evil and in this for the money. THere are those who are genuinely in this for the kids and the clients.

Hi, I posted the first thing above and then read your post. I guess I just wanted the other providers who might be reading and posting to know that a few bad apples don't make parents think poorly or have any less respect for the majority of providers out there. I get frustrated when I address the comments of a specific poster and then she tried to insinuate that it means I don't respect all providers or my own providers. I thank God everyday for my providers.

and you sound like a great provider.