Question for handsome men

[Anonymous]

it is about confidence not looks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has since the day I met him when he was 25.

He’s 48 and women of all ages still come on to him.

Old women buy him drinks. I’ve been gone 10 minutes and a 60-year old woman tells him he looks like a movie star and asks to buy him a drink.

Men will tell me he is handsome.

It’s a lot of work to be married to somebody like this yet he always tells me how hot I am. I get hit on all of the time too though.

I dated a guy like this for years. He laughed it off, thankfully. Former football star, tall, handsome. The women LOVED him and he never had to say or do anything to get attention. Women are weird and some are too forward for many guys' taste. He really didn't like the attention, he was outgoing and smart, but not an attention whore. I think some women assume that men want the attention, but not all men do.

My husband can’t stand dumb women. He’s very bright and turned off by bimbos. He also hates fake boobs and lots of make up, etc. It’s funny when we go to exercise classes/go to the gym together to see stick legged girls with big fake boobs purposely bend and parade around him and try to engage him in conversation- he’s grossed out. He likes muscles and athletic women. He hates skinny legs. And, yes, the ones throwing themselves at him are a turnoff.

I think flirtatious people (men or women) think they are hotter than they are, and have combined insecurities - plus, who wants to be with someone that is out flirting? Kinda gross, IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am tall and handsome, more like an 8/10 than a 10/10 model though so take it for what it's worth.

On rare occasion, I have been outright propositioned. It's more that I get flirted with quite a bit. Still, it's a fraction of what an attractive woman in her 20s experiences. I agree with a PP that women are quicker to jump into bed.

Also, the upgrade thing is real. To be fair, I notice it more when business travelling, to the point I now wear a sport coat at a minimum when I travel, even if for personal reasons, because the flight and hotel and restaurant upgrades are real.

One thing that was eye opening - in my 20s, I lived in the heart of a very GLBT neighborhood and I got hit on by gay men all the time. I got a glimpse of what it's like to be a woman in society, with the exception that I never felt unsafe.

lol. Came here to say the last part. I've been told I'm very handsome my entire life by everyone. But I'm short (5ft7) so the women don't really flock. But Christ almighty. The gay dudes are on me like white on rice. A solid 90% of gay duds will openly flirt. I'm not homophobic in the least and lean way left but its tiresome and kinda gross. My wife, who is very pretty and petite gets tons of unwanted attention and she tells me I know what its like to be a pretty woman.

Talk to me 5'7 guy! My son (17) is hopefully a late bloomer. 5'6 in the morning and slim with a pretty face, wavy surfer hair. I'd cry tears of joy if he reached 5'7. He interns a We Work type of space. Lots of small biz start up types. He told me that a client needed to finish a presentation and asked if he'd keep the space open (45 minutes after closing) and offered him $50 to do, which he declined. Then the guy asked if he'd listen to his pitch/presentation. He did. Then the guy asked for his cell!!!! He had to give it to him because he's a member and calls are forwarded to son's cell (only when he's working) The entire ride home, I had to have that conversation with him. He, of course, dismissed my psycho mom radar. Sure enough, the guy sent him a text at 10pm. Sent him a link to his site and asked him if he'd consider working with him. Made him block the number while I watched. He's doomed to be in the friend zone with girls and hit on by gay guys, isn't he? 😢

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am tall and handsome, more like an 8/10 than a 10/10 model though so take it for what it's worth.

On rare occasion, I have been outright propositioned. It's more that I get flirted with quite a bit. Still, it's a fraction of what an attractive woman in her 20s experiences. I agree with a PP that women are quicker to jump into bed.

Also, the upgrade thing is real. To be fair, I notice it more when business travelling, to the point I now wear a sport coat at a minimum when I travel, even if for personal reasons, because the flight and hotel and restaurant upgrades are real.

One thing that was eye opening - in my 20s, I lived in the heart of a very GLBT neighborhood and I got hit on by gay men all the time. I got a glimpse of what it's like to be a woman in society, with the exception that I never felt unsafe.

lol. Came here to say the last part. I've been told I'm very handsome my entire life by everyone. But I'm short (5ft7) so the women don't really flock. But Christ almighty. The gay dudes are on me like white on rice. A solid 90% of gay duds will openly flirt. I'm not homophobic in the least and lean way left but its tiresome and kinda gross. My wife, who is very pretty and petite gets tons of unwanted attention and she tells me I know what its like to be a pretty woman.

Talk to me 5'7 guy! My son (17) is hopefully a late bloomer. 5'6 in the morning and slim with a pretty face, wavy surfer hair. I'd cry tears of joy if he reached 5'7. He interns a We Work type of space. Lots of small biz start up types. He told me that a client needed to finish a presentation and asked if he'd keep the space open (45 minutes after closing) and offered him $50 to do, which he declined. Then the guy asked if he'd listen to his pitch/presentation. He did. Then the guy asked for his cell!!!! He had to give it to him because he's a member and calls are forwarded to son's cell (only when he's working) The entire ride home, I had to have that conversation with him. He, of course, dismissed my psycho mom radar. Sure enough, the guy sent him a text at 10pm. Sent him a link to his site and asked him if he'd consider working with him. Made him block the number while I watched. He's doomed to be in the friend zone with girls and hit on by gay guys, isn't he? 😢

Absolutely not doomed. I have had zero problems with girls. I've never been turned done in my entire life and all my girlfriends have been extremely pretty and accomplished. I routinely catch the moms of my kid's friends looking at me. Height might be important to some women but it is absolutely not a deal breaker. I'd much rather be short and handsome than tall and average or below.

[Anonymous]

A few times I have seen good looking men with very fat women. The women probably have money, but it looks odd.

[Anonymous]

I’m 50 years young and in good shape. No beer gut etc. I’m no model, but have been told by women I’m easy on the eyes. My ex-wife said I’m charming. I‘ve been hit on from Home Depot to the grocery store. 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

I first realized it in college as well. My parents owned a lake house that we used periodically throughout the year. The neighbor’s wife was in her late 20’s- early 30’s and seemed to always be super friendly and go out of her way to engage me when I was in my late teens. I stayed at the lake house the summer after my freshman year and she pretty much seduced me. We had a summer fling. Not my proudest moment but I started noticing about that time that girls liked me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am tall and handsome, more like an 8/10 than a 10/10 model though so take it for what it's worth.

On rare occasion, I have been outright propositioned. It's more that I get flirted with quite a bit. Still, it's a fraction of what an attractive woman in her 20s experiences. I agree with a PP that women are quicker to jump into bed.

Also, the upgrade thing is real. To be fair, I notice it more when business travelling, to the point I now wear a sport coat at a minimum when I travel, even if for personal reasons, because the flight and hotel and restaurant upgrades are real.

One thing that was eye opening - in my 20s, I lived in the heart of a very GLBT neighborhood and I got hit on by gay men all the time. I got a glimpse of what it's like to be a woman in society, with the exception that I never felt unsafe.

lol. Came here to say the last part. I've been told I'm very handsome my entire life by everyone. But I'm short (5ft7) so the women don't really flock. But Christ almighty. The gay dudes are on me like white on rice. A solid 90% of gay duds will openly flirt. I'm not homophobic in the least and lean way left but its tiresome and kinda gross. My wife, who is very pretty and petite gets tons of unwanted attention and she tells me I know what its like to be a pretty woman.

Talk to me 5'7 guy! My son (17) is hopefully a late bloomer. 5'6 in the morning and slim with a pretty face, wavy surfer hair. I'd cry tears of joy if he reached 5'7. He interns a We Work type of space. Lots of small biz start up types. He told me that a client needed to finish a presentation and asked if he'd keep the space open (45 minutes after closing) and offered him $50 to do, which he declined. Then the guy asked if he'd listen to his pitch/presentation. He did. Then the guy asked for his cell!!!! He had to give it to him because he's a member and calls are forwarded to son's cell (only when he's working) The entire ride home, I had to have that conversation with him. He, of course, dismissed my psycho mom radar. Sure enough, the guy sent him a text at 10pm. Sent him a link to his site and asked him if he'd consider working with him. Made him block the number while I watched. He's doomed to be in the friend zone with girls and hit on by gay guys, isn't he? 😢

Absolutely not doomed. I have had zero problems with girls. I've never been turned done in my entire life and all my girlfriends have been extremely pretty and accomplished. I routinely catch the moms of my kid's friends looking at me. Height might be important to some women but it is absolutely not a deal breaker. I'd much rather be short and handsome than tall and average or below.

I love you 5'7 guy. Of course, all of his friends are painfully taller, 6'+. It's horrible how I pray for just a couple of inches more for him. When he was younger, I was optimistic, since he had time to grow. His bone age is about a year younger than chronological, but who knows. Now, it's actually a source of shallow worry for me. In a way, I'm glad he still has that pretty look and almost no facial hair because it would look strange on him Maybe hes a true late bloomer. Next to his alpha friends, he looks like a their younger brother. They're all average-cute kids. My son looks like a cross between Ricky Martin and Ricky Martin's very pretty sister. I knew he would not be 6ft, but damn. He did get teased a bit in middle school when boys were already hitting 6ft. Not anymore. He's a great friend and very chill. Happy to hear your story. Enjoy being handsome! You sound like an awesome guy and deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it is about confidence not looks.

Mmmm nice thought, but no. There are beautiful men in the world with Beauty Privileges, just as there are beautiful women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have one coworker/friend who's just ridiculously good-looking. He's hit on CONSTANTLY. By both men and women.

I think it's sort of an annoyance to him. What he does love, though, is the way his looks have helped his career. I honestly think he's about eight levels above where he'd be were he a plain guy. (I like him. He's just not the sharpest knife in the drawer.)

I can think of a few men like this! Nice guys, but their brains do not justify where they are. If you are a tall, classically handsome man, people listen to you and respect your authority! He's like an actor hired to play the role of this businessman/lawyer -- "I'm not really a lawyer, I just play one on TV".

On the other hand, sadly, some attractive women have a harder time being taken seriously.

Yup. We're in a very public-facing business, and he has become our designated "public face": like, send Joe to all the parties. He'll make connections for us without even trying. And he's quite married, so we know he won't get himself into trouble.

He's also trust-fund rich, Swedish, and tall, so he has allll the advantages. (Can you tell I'm jealous of my friend? 'Cause I'm totally jealous of my friend.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

How old were you when you had the fling?

I first realized it in college as well. My parents owned a lake house that we used periodically throughout the year. The neighbor’s wife was in her late 20’s- early 30’s and seemed to always be super friendly and go out of her way to engage me when I was in my late teens. I stayed at the lake house the summer after my freshman year and she pretty much seduced me. We had a summer fling. Not my proudest moment but I started noticing about that time that girls liked me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it is about confidence not looks.

Mmmm nice thought, but no. There are beautiful men in the world with Beauty Privileges, just as there are beautiful women.

and they suck in bed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

How old were you when you had the fling?

I first realized it in college as well. My parents owned a lake house that we used periodically throughout the year. The neighbor’s wife was in her late 20’s- early 30’s and seemed to always be super friendly and go out of her way to engage me when I was in my late teens. I stayed at the lake house the summer after my freshman year and she pretty much seduced me. We had a summer fling. Not my proudest moment but I started noticing about that time that girls liked me.

Oh, and what makes you think she seduced you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, handsome men like plainer women

+1. Dorky woman here, landed a stud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it is about confidence not looks.

Mmmm nice thought, but no. There are beautiful men in the world with Beauty Privileges, just as there are beautiful women.

I always think of the "30 Rock" show about Jon Hamm being in essentially a beauty bubble