Question for handsome men

[Anonymous]

It’s a curse but I’ve learned to live with it.

[Anonymous]

I don't get asked out, but women approach and speak to me in locations where they normally push to be left alone (gym, shopping, coffee shop, etc.) and asking for their number is usually followed by "oh I'm not sure" and then they pass it along.

Almost all my dating comes from online, so it is nice to ask someone out in person from time to time.

Caveat: this was all pre-COVID, pre-mask.

[Anonymous]

I’m married, but a few of my buddies are very handsome guys. They don’t get propositioned in public by women. Vast majority of women want to be pursued and that won’t ever change.

I will say that women are waaaaaay more likely to agree to sleep with them very quickly. They get more matches on dating apps. It doesn’t take much chatting to get women to agree to meet them. They always have another woman who wants to meet them. In short, they have more options than the rest of us.

From my perspective, it’s both a blessing and a curse. They have a hard time settling down. Relationships don’t last long. They are always looking for the next dopamine hit that comes with meeting a new woman.

I also agree with the trend that some handsome guys settle down with plainer women. It’s a noticeable trend. I can easily think of a few couples in my network where that is the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For men, it's more about charisma. Think of the average looking men who snag much more attractive women, like Kelly Loeffler's husband. Or Mick Jagger.

No, these are famous and wealthy.

[Anonymous]

My husband has since the day I met him when he was 25.

He’s 48 and women of all ages still come on to him.

Old women buy him drinks. I’ve been gone 10 minutes and a 60-year old woman tells him he looks like a movie star and asks to buy him a drink.

Men will tell me he is handsome.

It’s a lot of work to be married to somebody like this yet he always tells me how hot I am. I get hit on all of the time too though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you have to be model quality handsome to get that kind of attention.

It's quite rare for a woman to ever approach any man.
Only the elite top 1% attractive men get any such proactive "attention" and even that is similar to what your average woman gets.

[Anonymous]

I am tall and handsome, more like an 8/10 than a 10/10 model though so take it for what it's worth.

On rare occasion, I have been outright propositioned. It's more that I get flirted with quite a bit. Still, it's a fraction of what an attractive woman in her 20s experiences. I agree with a PP that women are quicker to jump into bed.

Also, the upgrade thing is real. To be fair, I notice it more when business travelling, to the point I now wear a sport coat at a minimum when I travel, even if for personal reasons, because the flight and hotel and restaurant upgrades are real.

One thing that was eye opening - in my 20s, I lived in the heart of a very GLBT neighborhood and I got hit on by gay men all the time. I got a glimpse of what it's like to be a woman in society, with the exception that I never felt unsafe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH does not. But he doesn't flirt and doesn't present himself as available. He had someone at his old firm ask him out and he told them "I'm very flattered but even more married."

What DH does get quite frequently is upgrades for free. In hotels, airplanes, better tables at restaurants. There's a lot of "let me see what i can do" when he checks in places.

You must be a handsome man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am tall and handsome, more like an 8/10 than a 10/10 model though so take it for what it's worth.

On rare occasion, I have been outright propositioned. It's more that I get flirted with quite a bit. Still, it's a fraction of what an attractive woman in her 20s experiences. I agree with a PP that women are quicker to jump into bed.

Also, the upgrade thing is real. To be fair, I notice it more when business travelling, to the point I now wear a sport coat at a minimum when I travel, even if for personal reasons, because the flight and hotel and restaurant upgrades are real.

One thing that was eye opening - in my 20s, I lived in the heart of a very GLBT neighborhood and I got hit on by gay men all the time. I got a glimpse of what it's like to be a woman in society, with the exception that I never felt unsafe.

My friends and I used to take my incredibly handsome boyfriend (now husband) to gay bars so he could get us free drinks. We would send him up to the bar to take one for the team.

Both sexes hit on him a lot. To be fair the same thing happened to me. I used to get hit on a lot by both women and men—-had my @ss smacked by a lesbian and was sexually harassed by one 15 years older than me at my first job. I’m the lipstick variety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has since the day I met him when he was 25.

He’s 48 and women of all ages still come on to him.

Old women buy him drinks. I’ve been gone 10 minutes and a 60-year old woman tells him he looks like a movie star and asks to buy him a drink.

Men will tell me he is handsome.

It’s a lot of work to be married to somebody like this yet he always tells me how hot I am. I get hit on all of the time too though.

Damn, sound like the Brangelina story.

[Anonymous]

Not sure were I fall on the handsome scale, but every woman I dated up until I met DW made the first move. I never had to ask a woman on a date before and was nervous about asking DW.
I have had two wives of my friends hit on me, I quickly get away from them when it happened. DW says woman flirt with me, but I just assume they are being friendly

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Sometimes, yes, but it’s usually by younger women. I think that women my age are over it and care about more than looks. Also, I’m married so it’s not like I’m out taking advantage of it and as a matter of fact, I really didn’t much before marriage. Two long term relationships have made up almost 30 years of my adult life (I’m 49 now) and I’ve never cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you get asked out or propositioned frequently? I know beautiful women do, and I wanted to know if handsome men do too. Reason is I just started dating a man a year younger than me who is very handsome, nice, physically active, and a software engineer (a little shy). It seems like he must have more options than an average looking woman like myself, so I’m a bit self conscious.

I'm a handsome guy and fit and outside of the occasional smile/flirt, I don't get propositioned at all. Granted, I don't put myself out there or make myself appear available...

[Anonymous]

I’ve been told I’m fairly handsome with a warm personality. I’ve had a few close calls with women being aggressive but that was when I was younger. Having been married close to 30 years now (I’m in my early 50s), I still get plenty of attention. Women who I meet for lunch or coffee (work related stuff) are eager to meet, offer to pay for the lunch, and will then find reasons to keep meeting - and they all know I’m married. I think it is more than the looks for women, they like to be around a man who is easy going, confident, and the looks are just an ego boost particularly for older women.

[Anonymous]

I have one coworker/friend who's just ridiculously good-looking. He's hit on CONSTANTLY. By both men and women.

I think it's sort of an annoyance to him. What he does love, though, is the way his looks have helped his career. I honestly think he's about eight levels above where he'd be were he a plain guy. (I like him. He's just not the sharpest knife in the drawer.)