Question for handsome men

[Anonymous]

Warrants mentioning: a lot more average to ugly guys think they are actually handsome than is true for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What DH does get quite frequently is upgrades for free. In hotels, airplanes, better tables at restaurants. There's a lot of "let me see what i can do" when he checks in places.

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He often gets upgraded on airplanes without even asking.

Nope. Airlines have strict algorithms for who gets upgraded, based on ff status, $$ spent, etc. The days of being upgraded simply because one is attractive are over. It opens the airline up to sexual discrimination policies.

-an airline employee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one coworker/friend who's just ridiculously good-looking. He's hit on CONSTANTLY. By both men and women.

I think it's sort of an annoyance to him. What he does love, though, is the way his looks have helped his career. I honestly think he's about eight levels above where he'd be were he a plain guy. (I like him. He's just not the sharpest knife in the drawer.)

I can think of a few men like this! Nice guys, but their brains do not justify where they are. If you are a tall, classically handsome man, people listen to you and respect your authority! He's like an actor hired to play the role of this businessman/lawyer -- "I'm not really a lawyer, I just play one on TV".

On the other hand, sadly, some attractive women have a harder time being taken seriously.

[Anonymous]

The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

My husband gets hit on constantly---still at 48. Even if I'm there!! The flirting with women of all ages is ridiculous. I see grown women turn into giggling school girls.

The next generation has started. We were up in Maine and I was in a candy store with my oldest (14). As we left the store, a group of 4 girls came up to us and asked for his 'snap chat'. He just finished 8th grade....AND HIS MOM WAS STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO HIM. He is so clueless- still a kid--he just said 'I don't have snap chat'. My two sons look exactly like him. Trouble abrewing....

He was flattered though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

My husband gets hit on constantly---still at 48. Even if I'm there!! The flirting with women of all ages is ridiculous. I see grown women turn into giggling school girls.

The next generation has started. We were up in Maine and I was in a candy store with my oldest (14). As we left the store, a group of 4 girls came up to us and asked for his 'snap chat'. He just finished 8th grade....AND HIS MOM WAS STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO HIM. He is so clueless- still a kid--he just said 'I don't have snap chat'. My two sons look exactly like him. Trouble abrewing....

He was flattered though.

I should add- I grew up with an older brother that was gorgeous and when he was a Freshmen in HS, Senior girls wanted to date him. He dated several much older women his Freshmen year. Then, when I arrived as a Freshmen two years later, upperclassmen girls would offer to give me and my best friend rides to school because they were in love with my brother.

I have seen it all...and growing up with my brother prepared me for dating/being married to my husband. I have seen all kinds of predatory and crazy behavior from very bright, accomplished women who do not seem to care they are attached.

[Anonymous]

an average looking married guy with a ring gets asked out more than any other guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, handsome men like plainer women

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Very true, IME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, handsome men like plainer women

+1

Very true, IME.

I haven’t noticed this.

I see many that date fit, athletic beautiful girls that aren’t into fake boobs, lots of makeup and crazy fashion statements. A lot very smart. I guess when you can get anyone- why not marry a beautiful woman with a brain. Dingbats get boring.

Think Carolyn Bessette Kennedy—all natural, hardly wore make up, classic understated clothes and absolutely stunning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am tall and handsome, more like an 8/10 than a 10/10 model though so take it for what it's worth.

On rare occasion, I have been outright propositioned. It's more that I get flirted with quite a bit. Still, it's a fraction of what an attractive woman in her 20s experiences. I agree with a PP that women are quicker to jump into bed.

Also, the upgrade thing is real. To be fair, I notice it more when business travelling, to the point I now wear a sport coat at a minimum when I travel, even if for personal reasons, because the flight and hotel and restaurant upgrades are real.

One thing that was eye opening - in my 20s, I lived in the heart of a very GLBT neighborhood and I got hit on by gay men all the time. I got a glimpse of what it's like to be a woman in society, with the exception that I never felt unsafe.

lol. Came here to say the last part. I've been told I'm very handsome my entire life by everyone. But I'm short (5ft7) so the women don't really flock. But Christ almighty. The gay dudes are on me like white on rice. A solid 90% of gay duds will openly flirt. I'm not homophobic in the least and lean way left but its tiresome and kinda gross. My wife, who is very pretty and petite gets tons of unwanted attention and she tells me I know what its like to be a pretty woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, handsome men like plainer women

+1

Very true, IME.

I haven’t noticed this.

I see many that date fit, athletic beautiful girls that aren’t into fake boobs, lots of makeup and crazy fashion statements. A lot very smart. I guess when you can get anyone- why not marry a beautiful woman with a brain. Dingbats get boring.

Think Carolyn Bessette Kennedy—all natural, hardly wore make up, classic understated clothes and absolutely stunning.

That’s what ugly girls that need a pound of make up, blond hair dye and plastic surgery consider “plain”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has since the day I met him when he was 25.

He’s 48 and women of all ages still come on to him.

Old women buy him drinks. I’ve been gone 10 minutes and a 60-year old woman tells him he looks like a movie star and asks to buy him a drink.

Men will tell me he is handsome.

It’s a lot of work to be married to somebody like this yet he always tells me how hot I am. I get hit on all of the time too though.

I dated a guy like this for years. He laughed it off, thankfully. Former football star, tall, handsome. The women LOVED him and he never had to say or do anything to get attention. Women are weird and some are too forward for many guys' taste. He really didn't like the attention, he was outgoing and smart, but not an attention whore. I think some women assume that men want the attention, but not all men do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, handsome men like plainer women

+1

Very true, IME.

I haven’t noticed this.

I see many that date fit, athletic beautiful girls that aren’t into fake boobs, lots of makeup and crazy fashion statements. A lot very smart. I guess when you can get anyone- why not marry a beautiful woman with a brain. Dingbats get boring.

Think Carolyn Bessette Kennedy—all natural, hardly wore make up, classic understated clothes and absolutely stunning.

That’s what ugly girls that need a pound of make up, blond hair dye and plastic surgery consider “plain”

IDK. When I see my guy friends photos that most would consider hot, I often think that they could do better - someone with more personality can still be smart. Not all men want bitchy.

[Anonymous]

I wonder about the flirtatious men who think they are hot.

I guess the same goes for women.

Much more attractive to not act like a cat in heat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has since the day I met him when he was 25.

He’s 48 and women of all ages still come on to him.

Old women buy him drinks. I’ve been gone 10 minutes and a 60-year old woman tells him he looks like a movie star and asks to buy him a drink.

Men will tell me he is handsome.

It’s a lot of work to be married to somebody like this yet he always tells me how hot I am. I get hit on all of the time too though.

I dated a guy like this for years. He laughed it off, thankfully. Former football star, tall, handsome. The women LOVED him and he never had to say or do anything to get attention. Women are weird and some are too forward for many guys' taste. He really didn't like the attention, he was outgoing and smart, but not an attention whore. I think some women assume that men want the attention, but not all men do.

My husband can’t stand dumb women. He’s very bright and turned off by bimbos. He also hates fake boobs and lots of make up, etc. It’s funny when we go to exercise classes/go to the gym together to see stick legged girls with big fake boobs purposely bend and parade around him and try to engage him in conversation- he’s grossed out. He likes muscles and athletic women. He hates skinny legs. And, yes, the ones throwing themselves at him are a turnoff.