Husband is weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

Op here. This sounds like a sad way to live. I should be able to expect compliments from my husband. I don't think he's intentionally trying to hurt me.

I think he is OP. Either that or he is a jerk to everyone. Or, this is his way of trying to get you to stop digging for compliments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

Op here. This sounds like a sad way to live. I should be able to expect compliments from my husband. I don't think he's intentionally trying to hurt me.

I think he is OP. Either that or he is a jerk to everyone. Or, this is his way of trying to get you to stop digging for compliments.

Sounds like he has Aspergers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got my braces off today and I sent a picture to my husband. Most people would respond with beautiful or something like this. My husband responds by asking me where are my teeth? He claims I don't have any teeth in the picture. I'm seeing the picture and I do indeed have my teeth 😁 I guess he was trying to be funny. He does weird stuff like this a lot. I am expecting a compliment but he turns into something almost insulting. Anyone else have a spouse or friend like this? What sort of disorder is this?

Stop asking this question DCUM weirdos. Not everything you don't like is some disorder

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everything have to indicate a disorder? He has a bad sense of humor.

I do think he has something going on. It's more than a bad sense of humor. He gives me lots of compliments that are actually insulting. He genuinely doesn't understand. I'll buy a new outfit and he'll say it looks old. This has happened with tons of my clothing. I can't put my finger on it but he's just lacking something.

Does he compliment personality traits? Stop being so superficial maybe? You want him to compliment your looks - your teeth, your clothes. Aren't you more than how you look?

[Anonymous]

Get some self-esteem and stop fishing for compliments.

[Anonymous]

Asperger's

[Anonymous]

Team OP. You deserve to feel loved and cherished by your spouse, and vice versa. If he doesn’t fulfill your needs, then leave him.

Then again, are there men out there that put their spouse’s needs first? I have yet to meet that person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does everything have to indicate a disorder? He has a bad sense of humor.

I do think he has something going on. It's more than a bad sense of humor. He gives me lots of compliments that are actually insulting. He genuinely doesn't understand. I'll buy a new outfit and he'll say it looks old. This has happened with tons of my clothing. I can't put my finger on it but he's just lacking something.

Does he compliment personality traits? Stop being so superficial maybe? You want him to compliment your looks - your teeth, your clothes. Aren't you more than how you look?

Team OP. She just had a baby. It's the least he could be doing. I suspect compliment would lead to sexy time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP. You deserve to feel loved and cherished by your spouse, and vice versa. If he doesn’t fulfill your needs, then leave him.

Then again, are there men out there that put their spouse’s needs first? I have yet to meet that person.

OP here. I think there are men out there who are capable of giving words of affirmation. I dated a few before I met my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get some self-esteem and stop fishing for compliments.

OP here. I do have self esteem. Everyone enjoys being complimented by their SPOUSE! I'm not ashamed of admitting this! We all have our needs.

[Anonymous]

No one has mentioned babyteeth. Some people have babyteeth-if you do, was he making a mean joke? Not cool- your braces are off, that is a big deal and ANYONE would compliment you. He sounds unfunny and unlikeable but you married him- not sure what his deal is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one has mentioned babyteeth. Some people have babyteeth-if you do, was he making a mean joke? Not cool- your braces are off, that is a big deal and ANYONE would compliment you. He sounds unfunny and unlikeable but you married him- not sure what his deal is.

OP here. I don't know honestly. He says he was trying to be funny. If his jokes were geared towards other people or something like that it wouldn't be a big deal. He also called me a witch yesterday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

Op here. This sounds like a sad way to live. I should be able to expect compliments from my husband. I don't think he's intentionally trying to hurt me.

You've been married for 10 years and he has always sucked at compliments. At this point you need to accept that he's just not that kind of person. If he is otherwise a good spouse just accept that this is his weak area and stop setting him up for failure.

Op here. Um no. That's a lazy ass excuse. He can improve. He needs to improve or I will leave.

I'm the PP. I haven't posted since the previous post here. I also posted above asking what changed that suddenly this is a big deal, and it sounds like what changed is that you had a baby. I and other pp's have asked if he's otherwise a good husband and partner and you have not answered that.

So to me it sounds like you are feeling insecure post baby, and that you are also quite socially awkward (based on the way you write and post) and so neither you or your husband is navigating the emotional turmoil of this post partum transition well.

But if your husband's primary flaw is that he does not compliment you enough and is awkward, and after 10 years and with an 8 month old your solution is that you will leave him if he doesn't improve, than you are a terrible spouse, to be frank. I am not a person who usually throws out the accusation of being selfish when someone wants to divorce, but divorcing someone you have a child with because they made a weird comment about your teeth is completely 100% selfish.

You have a baby OP. Be an adult, figure out what your new life together is going to look like and stop acting like this is your high school boyfriend who needs to be woo you before you strut over to the quarterback.

[Anonymous]

Was he 100% note-perfect with his jokes, responses, reactions, and approvals before you married, or was he "weird" when you were dating, too?

Because...you chose to marry him. "Weird" and all. Why you are acting all shocked now that he is who is he is what's weird.

My husband has plenty of quirks and less-than-perfect qualities. *That I discovered while we were dating and engaged.* I'm not going to suddenly throw a fit that he tends talk with his mouth full now that we're married. What with him always doing that the whole time, and all.

[Anonymous]

Your hubby needs to leave the jokes up to the professionals (Sandler, Larry David, Pete Davidson, etc.)
He is still an amateur I am afraid!

Yes he should have responded how beautiful you & your smile are.

He owes you a steak dinner tonight for sure.