Husband is weird

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everything have to indicate a disorder? He has a bad sense of humor.

I do think he has something going on. It's more than a bad sense of humor. He gives me lots of compliments that are actually insulting. He genuinely doesn't understand. I'll buy a new outfit and he'll say it looks old. This has happened with tons of my clothing. I can't put my finger on it but he's just lacking something.

So talk to him about it. The amount of mundane weird stuff on this board that people don't want to talk about with the person they've chosen to spend the rest of their lives with just baffles me

I've been married for 10 year's. I have talked to him about it. He's still weird.

So what else is going on now that his weird propensity for bad jokes and compliments is irking you enough to post about it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everything have to indicate a disorder? He has a bad sense of humor.

I do think he has something going on. It's more than a bad sense of humor. He gives me lots of compliments that are actually insulting. He genuinely doesn't understand. I'll buy a new outfit and he'll say it looks old. This has happened with tons of my clothing. I can't put my finger on it but he's just lacking something.

So talk to him about it. The amount of mundane weird stuff on this board that people don't want to talk about with the person they've chosen to spend the rest of their lives with just baffles me

+1 OP you should have texted back "that was rude and hurt my feelings" if this is an ongoing problem. Don't stew in it and come to us for validation. That text would not have hurt my feelings so I can't understand why you think your husband is broken, but it's your marriage and if you want it to work better for you you need to put in the work.

How do you know op did not speak to her husband about this? What is the point of a relationship forum if people can't come here to stew over problems?

[Anonymous]

My DC's father is like that. I can't stand him and try to avoid him at all costs. I also put some effort into teaching my DC that caustic humor is mean. Make sure you teach your own DC that no one like the person making others feel bad, even if they laugh along with it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see what’s weird about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see what’s weird about this.

It's definitely not a typical response when someone sends you a picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC's father is like that. I can't stand him and try to avoid him at all costs. I also put some effort into teaching my DC that caustic humor is mean. Make sure you teach your own DC that no one like the person making others feel bad, even if they laugh along with it.

Your poor DC.

[Anonymous]

Life is too short to spend time with a moron. Get divorced and find someone who appreciates you.

[Anonymous]

I think you lack of sense of humor

[Anonymous]

He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

[Anonymous]

He has low EQ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you had braces, did he have you dress up as a schoolgirl for sexy time? That would be fetch.

Stop trying to make fetch happen. But, yes it would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

Op here. This sounds like a sad way to live. I should be able to expect compliments from my husband. I don't think he's intentionally trying to hurt me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

Op here. This sounds like a sad way to live. I should be able to expect compliments from my husband. I don't think he's intentionally trying to hurt me.

You've been married for 10 years and he has always sucked at compliments. At this point you need to accept that he's just not that kind of person. If he is otherwise a good spouse just accept that this is his weak area and stop setting him up for failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you lack of sense of humor

This is OP. I have a great sense of humor. Do you think it's funny to tell someone with a new outfit that their clothes look old? My husband does that too. I don't understand sometimes if it's a bad joke or what. Some of the things he says don't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has a bad / mean sense of humor and acts like a jerk.

Stop sending him pics or asking his opinion of clothes, it sounds like he doesn't care or is just a mean person. I have relatives like this, and have never heard them give a compliment.

Op here. This sounds like a sad way to live. I should be able to expect compliments from my husband. I don't think he's intentionally trying to hurt me.

You've been married for 10 years and he has always sucked at compliments. At this point you need to accept that he's just not that kind of person. If he is otherwise a good spouse just accept that this is his weak area and stop setting him up for failure.

Op here. Um no. That's a lazy ass excuse. He can improve. He needs to improve or I will leave.