Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?

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Anonymous wrote:Get off DCUM! I don't even own a "first home." Do you realize the median family net worth in the US is under $100k?

Yes, and most of America is “poor”.

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No way. I grew up with a second home within driving distance and even as a teen I realized what a pain it was. Every service you use at home needs to happen at the second home too and never mind worrying about the pipes breaking when you're not there and other things that are a problem when you live there and a disaster when you don't. There's always something at the other house that you need. The primary house was broken into when it was vacant because we were at the second house.

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Anonymous wrote:I really wonder about our future when these are the existential problems people are experiencing.

+1

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We know very few people with second homes. Sounds like you must live somewhere you can’t afford/are friends with people who are not really your peer group.

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Having a second home makes me poor. What makes me depressed is that it is a nice place sitting empty most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off DCUM! I don't even own a "first home." Do you realize the median family net worth in the US is under $100k?

Median family income in my county is $30,000 and that is for a family.

For the entire county? Where is this?

[Anonymous]

I have a second home but it’s basically the same as my first, so we just stayed at our first. It’s just in another city where people vacation but essentially residential.

[Anonymous]

For the love. It makes me depressed that there are people as vapid and materialistic as OP in the world.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to get a grip on reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We know very few people with second homes. Sounds like you must live somewhere you can’t afford/are friends with people who are not really your peer group.

haha, peer group? You mean like overextended idiots? Yeah, rather not have them as peers...

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Anonymous wrote:For the love. It makes me depressed that there are people as vapid and materialistic as OP in the world.

+1. agreed

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You all must be top .01% because I’m a 1% and I don’t know anyone that has a 2nd home.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a second home for ten years. I was so glad to see it sell -- I thought the kids would have happy memories of the place, they sort of did, but it would have been far better to have a different vacation each year, so each would be unique and memorable on the individual merits. A little more work to keep finding a new vacation but that is the fun part. Paying the bills all year or trying to rent it out between times was NOT the fun part. Driving there every time was not the fun part. Cleaning the place and taking trash to the dump after every trip was NOT the fun part.
It was a wasteful expense and I would never do it again, pandemic or not.

I second this, just sold my beach home that we never rented. All told, expenses ran at least $75,000 a year, we maybe used it 3 weeks a year. So glad we unloaded it. Looking forward to just being a renter!

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Anonymous wrote:You all must be top .01% because I’m a 1% and I don’t know anyone that has a 2nd home.

Same here. top 1%, nobody in my peer group has a second home. I also don't know why you'd want one - chaining yourself to vacation in one specific place. I like to travel all over the place and not return to any given place more than 2-3 times or I feel like I'm wasting travel opportunities. There is one guy at my spouses work whose wife pulls in over 500k, he makes another 250k or so, and they have actually THREE vacation houses. But then I was lmao when they said they took out loans to pay for their kids private schools. I'm not sure a vacation house can ever be a valid life choice

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Anonymous wrote:I really wonder about our future when these are the existential problems people are experiencing.

Well, you are kinder than I would be, so I will just agree with you.