Mother’s Day in quarantine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate Mother’s Day bc it celebrates ALL moms even the bad ones. I try my best to be a great mom and wife. Obviously, I screw-up some times, but I do my absolute best even when it’s difficult. I go all out in many aspects of parenting. My kids love me and we’re doing well during quarantine. I see some moms do nothing (welfare, can’t cook, can’t help with homework bc they barely got through school themselves, on drugs, lost custody, bringing boyfriends home, etc). Yet they are being praised with the same gushy, saccharine sentimentality that I get.

this is a super weird reason to hate mothers day.

This. And the bolded sections do not mean the moms are doing nothing. You have an inflated sense of your worth and warped sense of the worth of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate Mother’s Day bc it celebrates ALL moms even the bad ones. I try my best to be a great mom and wife. Obviously, I screw-up some times, but I do my absolute best even when it’s difficult. I go all out in many aspects of parenting. My kids love me and we’re doing well during quarantine. I see some moms do nothing (welfare, can’t cook, can’t help with homework bc they barely got through school themselves, on drugs, lost custody, bringing boyfriends home, etc). Yet they are being praised with the same gushy, saccharine sentimentality that I get.

This is the weirdest thing I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something.

+1,000 And who says those mothers are actually getting praise?

That post is going on my “legendary bad takes of DCUM” compilation 😂 So incredibly weird and out of left field for the topic!

[Anonymous]

Group FaceTime with my parents, and my sister and her kid, and we’ll chat and drink wine. Homemade cards from my kids. Good enough for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since there will be no brunches out or spa trips etc, what is everyone planning? I usually go stay in a hotel for the night and my family comes and swims and we have brunch. Obv not doing that. Just seems extra depressing this year.

If you are a mother and alive or have one that is alive WTF complaining about! I mean really depressing it's a commercial day and has nothing to do with love for or being grateful for a mother. There's plenty to be depressed about during this outbreak but not this, AMERICAN problems! Try being a refugee or in Italy or Spain ….

This is so mean spirited. This is not the grieving amply pics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since there will be no brunches out or spa trips etc, what is everyone planning? I usually go stay in a hotel for the night and my family comes and swims and we have brunch. Obv not doing that. Just seems extra depressing this year.

If you are a mother and alive or have one that is alive WTF complaining about! I mean really depressing it's a commercial day and has nothing to do with love for or being grateful for a mother. There's plenty to be depressed about during this outbreak but not this, AMERICAN problems! Try being a refugee or in Italy or Spain ….

Not OP, but I literally CAN'T try being a refugee in Italy or Spain. It's impossible. So why shouldn't I enjoy a little me time on Mother's Day?

You can just don't complain about being depressed about the day this year, lots to be depressed about but not this! Sad for all the mothers who lost their lives or who are working daily to save others while putting their own family at risk.

PP. I agree with you on that point. I wouldn't say Mother's Day is depressing to me this year even if I can't do any of the things I'd normally do. I do think of the mothers who aren't at home, like our neighbor who is currently on the USNS Comfort. So I think OP is playing her tiny violin far too loudly, but I also think you're a little too far on the other end of the spectrum. It's ok for people to be upset that things are different this year. Depressing is a bit much for me, but I don't think people need to say they aren't allowed to be sad just because they don't have it worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate Mother’s Day bc it celebrates ALL moms even the bad ones. I try my best to be a great mom and wife. Obviously, I screw-up some times, but I do my absolute best even when it’s difficult. I go all out in many aspects of parenting. My kids love me and we’re doing well during quarantine. I see some moms do nothing (welfare, can’t cook, can’t help with homework bc they barely got through school themselves, on drugs, lost custody, bringing boyfriends home, etc). Yet they are being praised with the same gushy, saccharine sentimentality that I get.

This is the weirdest thing I've ever read on DCUM, and that's saying something.

+1,000 And who says those mothers are actually getting praise?

That those other moms are living rent-free in this woman’s head to the point she LITERALLY CAN’T ENJOY MOTHER’S DAY gives me such schadenfreude I can’t contain my giggles.

Right?!? I can't even imagine the other things that upset her.

[Anonymous]

We will order takeout somewhere, my choice.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure moms will still find a way to complain on the Relationship forum about how their DH didn't get them flowers or take them out to dinner.

BTW...we are not on Quarantine. That's different from stay at home orders.

[Anonymous]

My DD and DS are still young, 3 and 5 and my DH is pretty amazing with them. So, last year after church together he took the kids to a playground and I went for a facial. When I got home we worked in the garden with the kids and just hung out. As a family we went to an Irish Pub for a very early supper, like 4. Kids had made sweet Mother's day presents at preschool and my DH gave me flowers. Simple and nice. With the exception of the facial and actually "going" to church, I am hoping for more of the same this year. Maybe a bottle of wine instead of flowers...this year is rough!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I already ordered my mom’s flowers because I am afraid of shipping delays, and there will be hell to pay if my mom’s flowers arrive late.

I’m a single mom, so my son and I will make brunch together (like we did for Easter). I may remind him that we have art supplies to make me a card.

Pathetic (your Mother, not you).

My mom is like this too.

I was once grounded as a child because I didn't get my mother something other than a handmade card

[Anonymous]

Not expecting anything at all. Whatever the kids bring home from school is what I get- which is totally fine. Then we drive out to the beach. We may still do that if the weather is nice and I'll pack a picnic.