Please stop saying the K-Word

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The K-word, really people? Some internet teasing of basic white women is not in any way shape or form anything close to throwing around the N-word. One has a long and violent history, the other is mostly a joke. Just stop.

It is light years away from the offensiveness of the n-word. BUT... its not internet teasing. I see it and hear it IRL.

Boo freakin hoo. White people fall apart at the slightest hint of not being in a position of power. It's ridiculous.

And you thinking all white women are in a position of power is ridiculous.

The fact that you want me to specify "not me" is exactly what I mean. Minorities don't get that benefit sweetie. Welcome to the club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the most k-word thing I've ever seen in my life. THIS is the reason there even is a "k-word".

Yep! The irony of why the name is needed is the funny part. If you don't want to be a "K' then stop acting like one. The truth hurts.

[Anonymous]

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jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

I wondered what happened to that thread. I thought it was a good and interesting one too. I’ve met people like that before in the topic you made and it annoys me that people don’t see their own dismissive biases.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

I almost spit out my wine laughing so hard!
Seriously, that is soooo 10 years go. It has been the DC fight club for at least a decade.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You're embarrassing yourself Jeff. Half the posts on the site wouldn't meet that litmus. You'd have to block a lot more tha. The "K-word" if elevating the discourse is really what that was about.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

ooh! What was your post about? I'm a black woman and I wonder if we'll agree or not.

Her post said that "woke white people" raising children in the city were creating racists because their children would only see black people who were drug users and gang members and, therefore, develop racist attitudes about them.

I have to be honest. I see that ALL the time, especially in DC and Arl. They act like black people are some sort of experiment instead of just getting to know them and they stereotype quite often.

[jsteele]

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You're embarrassing yourself Jeff. Half the posts on the site wouldn't meet that litmus. You'd have to block a lot more tha. The "K-word" if elevating the discourse is really what that was about.

I have blocked a lot more words than that. It was just unbelievable how overused the k-word was here. People started reporting when it was posted and I was buried in reports. Plus, as other posters have said, if a term that stereotyped just about anyone other than white women were used, all kinds of hell would be raised.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You redeemed yourself a bit with this self-deprecation. At first I was like, you think the overuse of the K-word is why DCUM is a mockery on the internet, particularly among other local blogs and forums? Then I saw your follow-up and was like, nah, you get this site is a joke. An oddly compelling joke, which keeps us coming back despite our best interests.

Anyway, since there's been much speculation about what I actually said in my original post of "A dilemma facing 'woke' DC parents" (thank goodness for Googie caching, anyone can find the original thread). Here's what I posted:

DC parents who are determined to rear their children in the city to expose them to diversity and all the benefits of city life are unintentionally creating the next generation of racists. Their children's earliest and most enduring perception of black people will be of the drug-addicted and mentally ill people living on the street, groups of youth committing petty crimes and being general nuisances, grown people who should know better displaying ratchet behavior in public, etc. This causes an unconscious bias that these children will carry for the remainder of their lives, even if they believe themselves to be anti-racist. Meanwhile, children growing up in the DC suburbs will have their earliest and most enduring exposure be to people of all races and ethnicities who value education, hard work, success, and good manners. It's these suburban children who will have a stronger grounding in diversity and inclusion, even if they don't explicitly consider that part of their identity.

Source: Me, a black woman who grew up surrounded by other UMC people of all colors, thus never learning that black people couldn't or shouldn't be just as successful as rich white folks, and who moved to DC some years ago. Me, a black woman who has realized with sadness that I now have an unconscious prejudice against my own skinfolk after years of dealing with all the nonsense that comes with living in a slowly gentrifying part of the city. If my perception of other black people can deteriorate so drastically after moving to DC as an adult, knowing that the behavior of a specific subset of people is in no way reflective of the race as a whole, what chance do white children in transitioning neighborhoods have at not having unconscious bias deeply ingrained during their formative years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my. I was offended that my thread (with two pages of civil discussion last I checked) about woke parents was deleted. But censoring the K-word is beyond ridiculous. Never mind, let's go back to the multi-page threads spewing hatred against feds and 30+ pages of speculation about a private citizen's legal and marital issues.

Your thread was one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever seen posted here. I am giving you credit for being ignorant rather than simply racist.

I understand that it's because I identified myself as a black woman in that thread, and this forum has made it clear time and time again that the black POV is not welcome. But please, continue calling me ignorant. Not just ignorant, but one of the most ignorant things you've ever seen. I'll give you credit for just being selective about how you moderate your website, rather than simply being racist. Meanwhile, I'll focus my efforts on recommending sofas to people and try my best to ignore all the hatred that spews through this forum day in and day out that you think is a-okay.

Amen. Really disappointed in you Jeff.

If you are disappointed that I don't view all black people in DC as drug users and gang members, you are really going to hate me for the other things I believe,.

I'm not talking about whatever her post was, I'm talking about your censorship of something so stupid and comparatively innocuous to things you choose to let stand. But anything to p rd protect the honor of white womanhood, amirite?

Few, if any, of the white woman on this site need me to protect their honor. I blocked the K-word because it was played out beyond belief and the constant use of it made this look like the lamest site on the Internet. Do you think I want to be the owner of a site on which the users have just caught up with 2018 and think they are the coolest kids in school?

You're censoring things because they aren't "cool" enough? Really?

DCUM earned a reputation for having intelligent, educated, and witty posters. Then it devolved to repeating the same name over and over again in response to nearly every post. Call it "censorship" or call it nostalgia.

You redeemed yourself a bit with this self-deprecation. At first I was like, you think the overuse of the K-word is why DCUM is a mockery on the internet, particularly among other local blogs and forums? Then I saw your follow-up and was like, nah, you get this site is a joke. An oddly compelling joke, which keeps us coming back despite our best interests.

Anyway, since there's been much speculation about what I actually said in my original post of "A dilemma facing 'woke' DC parents" (thank goodness for Googie caching, anyone can find the original thread). Here's what I posted:

DC parents who are determined to rear their children in the city to expose them to diversity and all the benefits of city life are unintentionally creating the next generation of racists. Their children's earliest and most enduring perception of black people will be of the drug-addicted and mentally ill people living on the street, groups of youth committing petty crimes and being general nuisances, grown people who should know better displaying ratchet behavior in public, etc. This causes an unconscious bias that these children will carry for the remainder of their lives, even if they believe themselves to be anti-racist. Meanwhile, children growing up in the DC suburbs will have their earliest and most enduring exposure be to people of all races and ethnicities who value education, hard work, success, and good manners. It's these suburban children who will have a stronger grounding in diversity and inclusion, even if they don't explicitly consider that part of their identity.

Source: Me, a black woman who grew up surrounded by other UMC people of all colors, thus never learning that black people couldn't or shouldn't be just as successful as rich white folks, and who moved to DC some years ago. Me, a black woman who has realized with sadness that I now have an unconscious prejudice against my own skinfolk after years of dealing with all the nonsense that comes with living in a slowly gentrifying part of the city. If my perception of other black people can deteriorate so drastically after moving to DC as an adult, knowing that the behavior of a specific subset of people is in no way reflective of the race as a whole, what chance do white children in transitioning neighborhoods have at not having unconscious bias deeply ingrained during their formative years?

I don’t understand what’s wrong with this post. I’ve seen WAY worse things on here. Especially the Real Estate and the Schools forums where people openly will say racist things towards POC such as they’re all poor and undereducated and no one flinches an inch. So so many threads about people feeling threatened about POC moving into their neighborhood or school system.

[jsteele]

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I don’t understand what’s wrong with this post. I’ve seen WAY worse things on here. Especially the Real Estate and the Schools forums where people openly will say racist things towards POC such as they’re all poor and undereducated and no one flinches an inch. So so many threads about people feeling threatened about POC moving into their neighborhood or school system.

I delete the types of posts that you describe all the time. But, I have to see them to delete them. When they are reported, I remove them. Instead of just scrolling past them next time, please take a second to hit the report button.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the most k-word thing I've ever seen in my life. THIS is the reason there even is a "k-word".

Yep! The irony of why the name is needed is the funny part. If you don't want to be a "K' then stop acting like one. The truth hurts.

Oooooh! Careful! I said something similar and he blocked me (and deleted my post.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The K-word, really people? Some internet teasing of basic white women is not in any way shape or form anything close to throwing around the N-word. One has a long and violent history, the other is mostly a joke. Just stop.

Well Jeff won't let us use it here at all, so... (which I also think is ridiculous)

Jeff used to let us roast and joke more. I made a reply about 5G that wasn’t even directed at anyone and it was deleted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t say Becky anymore?

I think Beckys are younger than K*rens.

Becky would be Gen X, too. It comes from the intro to Sir Mixalot's song about big butts. Omygod Becky, look at her butt!

[Anonymous]

That was indeed the most K-word tweet ever.
This site indeed was being overrun by posters being called out for being K-words. Glad that clap-back is silenced (for the sake of deeper discourse).

Conflating the behaviors of a mentally ill black homeless person (btw, I live in DC and see a few caucasian crazy homeless ppl out there too) with the character of all black people is not a conclusion I would expect any child to draw. Sorry to hear a grown black woman is not viewing black people she sees who are struggling with addiction or mental illness or other life traumas as people who are struggling but instead feeling embarrassed by what white children will think (of her?). My child grew up in DC and visited the homes of more racially and economically diverse peers than my own suburban NOVA childhood afforded me. I am pleased that my child will not feel intimated by wealthy people the way I am.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The K-word, really people? Some internet teasing of basic white women is not in any way shape or form anything close to throwing around the N-word. One has a long and violent history, the other is mostly a joke. Just stop.

Well Jeff won't let us use it here at all, so... (which I also think is ridiculous)

Jeff used to let us roast and joke more. I made a reply about 5G that wasn’t even directed at anyone and it was deleted.

You have to be funny. I've been doing this for nearly 15 years and have become grumpy about lame humor. I have no idea what post you are describing. Could you refresh my memory?