Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

[Anonymous]

Yes, massive job cuts coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

If that 1 earner lost their job, they are SOL

But if they didn’t, they came out on top (with a major stimulus check, too).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

But that one salary is not stable. Even Law firms are cutting salaries. These people are also f$cked in many cases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

If that 1 earner lost their job, they are SOL

But if they didn’t, they came out on top (with a major stimulus check, too).

If you get a stimulus check you hardly make any money as is. So you’re already broke. So sure it’s the same, fwiw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are weird if they would rather not be at school.

This. It's developmentally healthy for kids to want to be with their peers and not their parents.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

If that 1 earner lost their job, they are SOL

But if they didn’t, they came out on top (with a major stimulus check, too).

If you get a stimulus check you hardly make any money as is. So you’re already broke. So sure it’s the same, fwiw.

Okay, if that helps you feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

This seems stupidly obvious.

All the SAHMs I know have cracked under the pressure of having school age kids home all day every day without any respite. No school. No classes on Saturday. A lot of alcohol themed posts on social media.

Drama-queens!

Yes, it is more work than usual because - everyone is home, weekly cleaning lady is not coming and no restaurants/delivery/take outs. But, most of us have divvied up the work (not raising snowflakes here) and taken charge. My kids and DH are working from home and they have not missed a beat because the kitchen and home is running well. My house is still being cleaned top-to-bottom on the weekends when I do not cook. Kids are handling daily loads of laundry, folding and putting it away. On an average we do 3 loads of laundry daily. Our dishwasher is running 2-3 times a day. Lots of amazing food being cooked. Everyone is hitting the treadmill too.

It is hard when both parents are working, but, c'mon - it is the luxury and security of two incomes that most SAHMs do not have. In normal circumstance, WOHMs are able to outsource many things. These are extraordinary times. Yes, it means that WOHMs may be more slammed right now, but they may have more financial ability to survive job loss etc. I would never have become a SAHM if I did not have financial security.

[Anonymous]

It’s deeply enjoyable to be home, even on days when I’ve been slammed with work. You give up a lot too though. I like having a bigger world day-to-day.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a little nutty to make these kinds of projections. Similar ones in the real estate forum ... will millennials flee the city, etc.

We aren't going to return to where we were when this all started. The full context will be different so for every one person that might consider being a SAHP another will have to enter the work force to make ends meet. Or maybe it won't be like that but we just can't so and won't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be right back. Getting snacks to eat while the bitter "people change" and "you're setting a bad example for your daughters" posters pop in.

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It won’t be a choice there won’t be enough jobs

Opposite. There will be jobs and not enough qualified people.

Because of all the deaths?

Maybe. Also disruption in education, travel, visas etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not for me. I am crawling out of my skin and can't WAIT to get back to the office.

Sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

If that 1 earner lost their job, they are SOL

But if they didn’t, they came out on top (with a major stimulus check, too).

If you get a stimulus check you hardly make any money as is. So you’re already broke. So sure it’s the same, fwiw.

You can get a stimulus check with incomes up to like, $180k for married filing jointly (I think? Not sure if it’s higher if there’s children involved) Even in Fairfax County, the median household income is about $120k, and similar in MoCo, Arlington, and Loudoun. So most households are getting a stimulus, even if just a partial one. Lots of one income military households in my area of Fairfax, I’d imagine most of them are eligible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Households with a stay-at-home parent have fared the best during these closures; they already have the infrastructure in place for one designated adult to watch and set up home school for the children while the other parent continues work uninterrupted AND their expenses were already adjusted to one income.

This seems stupidly obvious.

All the SAHMs I know have cracked under the pressure of having school age kids home all day every day without any respite. No school. No classes on Saturday. A lot of alcohol themed posts on social media.

Drama-queens!

Yes, it is more work than usual because - everyone is home, weekly cleaning lady is not coming and no restaurants/delivery/take outs. But, most of us have divvied up the work (not raising snowflakes here) and taken charge. My kids and DH are working from home and they have not missed a beat because the kitchen and home is running well. My house is still being cleaned top-to-bottom on the weekends when I do not cook. Kids are handling daily loads of laundry, folding and putting it away. On an average we do 3 loads of laundry daily. Our dishwasher is running 2-3 times a day. Lots of amazing food being cooked. Everyone is hitting the treadmill too.

It is hard when both parents are working, but, c'mon - it is the luxury and security of two incomes that most SAHMs do not have. In normal circumstance, WOHMs are able to outsource many things. These are extraordinary times. Yes, it means that WOHMs may be more slammed right now, but they may have more financial ability to survive job loss etc. I would never have become a SAHM if I did not have financial security.

Not this WOHM. Typical DCUM response that with two incomes, we can outsource cleaning etc. the only thing I outsource is childcare and that’s almost my entire salary.

[Anonymous]

Here's what; it's a global pandemic that's going to affect literally everyone on DCUM in some way. So why don't we stop being bee-yotches and simply say:

I'll support all of my family, friends, and neighbors, no matter what.

Some people will need to make different choices; some people will have to make different choices. Others will want to make different choices. No matter what, everyone will be doing what they feel is best for themselves and for their families.

So chill

-WOHM