Cancelled Travel Backlash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I agree. (I’m actually an ICU physicia n)

Can't you just say that work doesn't allow you to participate in gatherings and you can't go to the resort? I mean even if they don't say it out loud, I think the assumption at this point is that healthcare officials should be more cautious than others and stay local as well.

[Anonymous]

I feel like a lot is being left out of this story, and the dynamics of the family so OP can paint herself as victim and hero and her sister as the bad guy.

It's even more convenient that we're in the midst of the pandemic and OP just happens to be an ICU physician...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update for the curious. I’ve called sister maybe a total of three times - all screened. Also sent two texts. Both ignored. Looks like event is being rescheduled as a five day vacation at a resort 5 hours from here. I was debating what to do. I did get an automatic email when the updated the original evite, so I suppose I was technically invited. However, I told my mother that as much as I do not want to worsen any drama, if I was still being actually ignored, i didn’t see how I could attend. Plus, my husband is at the point where he said he wasn’t going to a resort, and I tend to agree. However, I have learned my lesson. Not saying a word until resort cancellation deadline (at which point I’d be out $3000 if I didn’t cancel)

I am so not a drama llama. I don’t think I’ve ever had someone “not speaking to me” my entire life, let alone the 10 days or so this has been going on. I have zero interest in having any conversation with my sister that isn’t essentially “we kind of lost our minds because we were so Invested In this event”

So you were not disinvited.
You seem insufferable and a total drama llama.

I can only imagine the type of crap your sister has had to put up with from you over the years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot is being left out of this story, and the dynamics of the family so OP can paint herself as victim and hero and her sister as the bad guy.

It's even more convenient that we're in the midst of the pandemic and OP just happens to be an ICU physician...

OP here. It’s not particularly convenient for me..... just saying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update for the curious. I’ve called sister maybe a total of three times - all screened. Also sent two texts. Both ignored. Looks like event is being rescheduled as a five day vacation at a resort 5 hours from here. I was debating what to do. I did get an automatic email when the updated the original evite, so I suppose I was technically invited. However, I told my mother that as much as I do not want to worsen any drama, if I was still being actually ignored, i didn’t see how I could attend. Plus, my husband is at the point where he said he wasn’t going to a resort, and I tend to agree. However, I have learned my lesson. Not saying a word until resort cancellation deadline (at which point I’d be out $3000 if I didn’t cancel)

I am so not a drama llama. I don’t think I’ve ever had someone “not speaking to me” my entire life, let alone the 10 days or so this has been going on. I have zero interest in having any conversation with my sister that isn’t essentially “we kind of lost our minds because we were so Invested In this event”

So you were not disinvited.
You seem insufferable and a total drama llama.

I can only imagine the type of crap your sister has had to put up with from you over the years.

I think you're the same person who called her "exhausting" previously, because she does not come across like that at all. You, on the other hand, sound like a b!tch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The grandparents played it better because they know your sister is a terrible person. Hopefully you’ll patch it up, since the event was cancelled by Israel, not you, and it might percolate in your sister’s brain that you were right all along,

Your parents should sweet talk her into not resenting you, BTW. That’s their job.

100% disagree. It is NOT your parents job to manage or smooth over your relationships with other adults. That is an indication of terrible boundaries.

I agree to a point, but it does kind of suck that OP’s parents and grandparents are all hiding the fact that they were also going to cancel, making OP look like the only “bad guy.”

Yes, sorry. The parents should absolutely speak up about how they were also going to cancel. They are allowing OP to take the brunt of the anger. Not cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update for the curious. I’ve called sister maybe a total of three times - all screened. Also sent two texts. Both ignored. Looks like event is being rescheduled as a five day vacation at a resort 5 hours from here. I was debating what to do. I did get an automatic email when the updated the original evite, so I suppose I was technically invited. However, I told my mother that as much as I do not want to worsen any drama, if I was still being actually ignored, i didn’t see how I could attend. Plus, my husband is at the point where he said he wasn’t going to a resort, and I tend to agree. However, I have learned my lesson. Not saying a word until resort cancellation deadline (at which point I’d be out $3000 if I didn’t cancel)

I am so not a drama llama. I don’t think I’ve ever had someone “not speaking to me” my entire life, let alone the 10 days or so this has been going on. I have zero interest in having any conversation with my sister that isn’t essentially “we kind of lost our minds because we were so Invested In this event”

So you were not disinvited.
You seem insufferable and a total drama llama.

I can only imagine the type of crap your sister has had to put up with from you over the years.

I think you're the same person who called her "exhausting" previously, because she does not come across like that at all. You, on the other hand, sound like a b!tch.

There is ZERO that is insufferable or drama llama about OP or how she's handled it. Sister is ridiculous and owes an apology. So does the parents for allowing her to be the bad guy when they were also planning to cancel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update for the curious. I’ve called sister maybe a total of three times - all screened. Also sent two texts. Both ignored. Looks like event is being rescheduled as a five day vacation at a resort 5 hours from here. I was debating what to do. I did get an automatic email when the updated the original evite, so I suppose I was technically invited. However, I told my mother that as much as I do not want to worsen any drama, if I was still being actually ignored, i didn’t see how I could attend. Plus, my husband is at the point where he said he wasn’t going to a resort, and I tend to agree. However, I have learned my lesson. Not saying a word until resort cancellation deadline (at which point I’d be out $3000 if I didn’t cancel)

I am so not a drama llama. I don’t think I’ve ever had someone “not speaking to me” my entire life, let alone the 10 days or so this has been going on. I have zero interest in having any conversation with my sister that isn’t essentially “we kind of lost our minds because we were so Invested In this event”

So you were not disinvited.
You seem insufferable and a total drama llama.

I can only imagine the type of crap your sister has had to put up with from you over the years.

I think you're the same person who called her "exhausting" previously, because she does not come across like that at all. You, on the other hand, sound like a b!tch.

There is ZERO that is insufferable or drama llama about OP or how she's handled it. Sister is ridiculous and owes an apology. So does the parents for allowing her to be the bad guy when they were also planning to cancel.

+1 - I remember your story/previous post very well. Your sister has been unreasonable since the beginning and was just looking for an excuse. I don't what you do moving forward, but she sounds nuts.

[Anonymous]

OP- my son’s BM is in mid June (locally) and I’m monitoring things closely. It’s completely out of my hands and for that I’m grateful. Your sister is outrageous and sending a horrible message to her kids. The fact that she rescheduled for a few weeks from now is unfathomable.

FYI- a reasonable plan is to do the Torah portion as planned and reschedule the party for the fall.